In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what kind of mentality is a good mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence?

If you want to be a good mother-in-law, you should be less in charge, especially between your son and daughter-in-law. Don't take it to heart even if your daughter-in-law is wrong. If you talk too much, you will lose a lot. There is no need to get involved.

0 1. Keep a good attitude and be happy all the time. If you don't live with your son and daughter-in-law, you will have no worries. Occasionally, two families can make a phone call to say that they are safe. If our son and daughter-in-law come home, we will eat and drink well. We will pay if we are willing to pay, and we will not pay if we are unwilling to pay. Just follow your heart. Husband and wife have their own lives, so don't interfere.

If you have been living with your son and daughter-in-law, you must pay attention. Don't talk nonsense. The young couple are willing to toss and turn, give some advice not to make mistakes, but don't make decisions for others. As a mother-in-law, my distressed son has to cook and clean up the house every day. The rest of the time, she will have children to look after the children, and go out for a walk without children. Being an idle person will make her happy and her daughter-in-law happy.

Don't say anything if your daughter-in-law is not good! A good mother-in-law should turn a blind eye, whether it's her son's fault or her daughter-in-law's fault, scold her son quickly and then stay away from the battlefield, and it's over. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have conceptual problems when raising children, or there are contradictions in family chores, remember a word, no matter right or wrong, listen to the daughter-in-law, and she will do whatever she likes. If she can't stand it, don't quarrel and hurt her feelings easily, just go out for a walk, out of sight, out of mind.

In some families, the daughter-in-law belongs to the tigress type, so I suggest you go as far as possible, stay in your hometown, and don't make do with others, which will easily make people unhappy and unhappy. Watching my son suffer indignities, one can understand the situation and see if he needs to be a mother to do something. If he says don't worry, then really don't worry, don't worry about your son, think about your husband, what man can't listen to his wife?

03. Tolerance, consideration and care ... Give money. Don't talk about the daughter-in-law, the son is still his own, and it hurts when it hurts. If the family has money and only one son, then give the daughter-in-law or granddaughter some money every year to make them happy, so that the relationship between the two families can be better. You have to look after your son instead of your daughter-in-law. Just do what you should do as a mother, you don't need to do anything yourself.

In addition, considering the feelings of a daughter-in-law from a woman's point of view, there is nothing to rely on when getting married. As a woman, she can understand this feeling very well. What was her mother-in-law like in those years? Did you make yourself suffer a lot? So don't let the daughter-in-law of the younger generation feel the pain of that year again, and be nice to others.

Finally, it is not that the mother-in-law wants to coax her daughter-in-law, but that it is not easy for her daughter-in-law to marry into her own home. Imagine, if an elder suddenly comes to her own home to take care of this and that, who can accept it? So again, mind your own business and be happy.