Please don't invite me to get married, I will follow you. You don't have any in your heart?

Everyone has encountered such things as being invited, being invited and accompanying people.

When I was a child, I watched my parents follow my friends. Now, with the growth of age, we also begin to follow our friends, but how much we follow seems to be something that everyone is worried about. I use too much, I'm nervous, I use too little, and I seem to be a little out of control. For example, the amount of red envelopes for the Chinese New Year has been bothering us.

Getting married is a happy thing. It is human nature that everyone sends blessings to each other and is happy with each other. But isn't getting married a matter of sharing happiness between good friends? Why are you invited when there is no intersection? Please don't bring gifts. As an inviter, you will probably feel unhappy. Please come with the followers. As an invitee, I may be even more unhappy. In other words, you have no idea how good our relationship is.

02

Now there are more and more names of money, such as marriage, full moon of children, moving to a new house, bereavement and so on. What's more, I've heard of buying a car and taking my children as soldiers with gifts. Now that there are gifts, not only are there more and more names, but even distant feelings are not let go, and these things of the next generation will be invited. Tell the truth, there is no need to invite me about your grandparents or even your great-great grandparents, right?

After the invitation, whether or not it has become a worrying thing. Some of my classmates haven't been in touch for a long time, and some even have nothing in common when they are at school. When they get married, they will suddenly call you and invite you to the wedding. What's more, they will send you a message directly and even invite you to go without even calling. Probably when we receive such an invitation, we all want to say "Hehe" in our hearts. Not to mention that we didn't meet at school, at least we didn't realize this kind of friendship that didn't care about form at all. If you send a message, I will go to your wedding scene. Even if we had an intersection, when we go further and further, we will probably have feelings for each other.

03

Talk about the way of invitation. Yes! Getting married is very busy and there are many trivial things to do, but that's not the reason why you just send a message and invite others to your wedding, is it? You are too busy to even make a phone call. Did you invite the whole country to your wedding? So there's no way to call each other one by one to inform them of your wedding? You are too busy to call and invite others. How can others have time to go to your wedding scene? It should take more time to go to the wedding scene than to make a phone call, right? You are busy with other people's business, and others are not prime ministers. After all, you are not the prime minister, are you? Don't blame others for not doing things well. Put yourself in others' shoes. Should teachers and parents have taught you?

Let's talk about it as much as possible. Your adherence to the ceremony is probably due to our growing environment. Generally speaking, everyone will discuss it and don't want to be different from others. Another reason is that for most people, there will be a general concept, that is, how polite you are. Now the market is like this, not too much difference. However, with the economic and social development and progress broadcast in the news broadcast getting better and better, it seems that the number of ceremonies has also become a measure of the quality of the witness relationship. The more the relationship, the better and ferromagnetic. It seems that the relationship would be bad without it.

But can the number of gifts really prove the degree of friendship? Not exactly. It is generally believed that you may follow me as I follow you. In other words, the money that comes with the marriage is all the money saved for yourself in advance, and the money collected by the marriage is also the money to be returned to others at that time. In this way, it's probably not all about witnessing the thickness of friendship, is it? Therefore, you should do what you can on the basis of market conditions. If you are well-off and feel that you have enough relationships, you don't need to be fat. If you are worried that the quality of your relationship will be affected by the number of your followers, then the quality of this relationship really needs to be weighed.

In addition to gifts between classmates, money between colleagues is also a headache. For most people, a job may not last long, but when you are in an environment, it is inevitable that there will be such a wedding reception. For example, if you just went to a company, it seems that you need to struggle with your face whether to follow. If you don't follow it, it seems inappropriate for you to know this news because you work here. This seems inhuman. If you follow, it's not even a few words to each other, let alone how long you will stay here. At the very least, I think the relationship at this stage is not enough to make me willing to give each other a red envelope.

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We are often bound by face and human feelings.

Human feelings are very common in our society, and it is more common to be bound by human feelings. Judging from the wedding ceremony alone, many people are bound.

Do you want to join this team? Ask yourself whether you have friendship with each other, whether you are willing to give each other a red envelope, and whether you are really happy that the other party is about to complete an important thing in life. If there is, then do it. If not, then you don't have to follow. 80% of people will probably not have any deep intersection with you in the future.

Just use what you can. It is someone else's business to want to discuss or be discussed. Don't embarrass yourself. How much you need depends on your own strength, as long as it conforms to the market situation and the concept in your heart. If you can't discuss a unified result, then decide at will. After all, the intimacy of each of you in each other's eyes is different, at least a little different.

You'd better make a phone call about the invitation. At this time, it is the most basic etiquette. Except for your parents, you may not need to call. They all know the news of your marriage and will prepare for you. People at least need to call and invite each other to your wedding. What's your message, right? If it is a sincere invitation, then make a phone call to at least let the other party see your sincerity. If not, then you don't have to send messages to others deliberately, do you? You said you didn't want other people's money, and others probably didn't want to come to your wedding, did they?

As for the inviter, when you want to invite others, you can do a circle subtraction. The outermost circle is all your friends who have contact information. Then you must subtract a small circle from this circle, and you will find that the person who is subtracted may be the one who embarrasses the other party. At this time, if you make another assumption from the narrow circle, you will find that some will be stripped from this circle, then the rest may be what you really need to invite. So in your initial big circle, you may be embarrassed by others and yourself When you peel it off a few times, you will find that only about 20% people end up in a small circle, and these 20% people are real people who you should invite each other and won't feel embarrassed.

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Don't be embarrassed, you can't erase your face. Maybe now you feel something. People around you stop and go, and what really stays is not as much as you think, even far below your previous estimate. People and things that embarrass you may embarrass you more than once or twice, and people who don't embarrass you may only embarrass you once or twice. But the people who embarrass you account for 80% in your social circle, and the people who won't embarrass you only account for 20%.

Do I invite you or not? I don't have any in my heart?

Please don't invite me. You have no points in your heart?