Why do men cheat when they reach middle age?

insatiability

Men who love the new and hate the old are not satisfied.

It is normal in their marriage to eat and see what is in the pot. No matter who such a man marries, he will end up with the same dog blood.

There is a saying that men are all visual animals. Yes, all love at first sight is just a matter of seeing the color, but after entering the marriage, when you get more and more familiar with it, you can't escape the curse of liking the new and hating the old.

Just like Zhang Ailing's famous saying: "In men's eyes, a white rose that is holy and quiet is glutinous rice and a red rose as noble as cinnabar for a long time, and it is a touch of mosquito blood for a long time."

The biggest killer of marriage is not domestic violence, not trivial family, but the mystery that is gradually lost sooner or later.

When Li Ao, the late master of Chinese studies in Taiwan Province Province, married Hu Yinmeng, the "first beauty in Taiwan Province Province", she was a perfect match in the eyes of outsiders.

One is a gifted scholar and the other is a beautiful woman. Everyone says this marriage is a match made in heaven.

But unfortunately, their marriage lasted only three months, and then broke up in discord.

Later, when asked about the reasons for breaking up, Li Ao said that he once saw his wife blushing because of constipation when she went to the toilet.

After the hazy mystery disappeared, the goddess was also an ordinary person. When the image of the goddess is gone, love disappears.

It is human nature to like the new and hate the old, not just men.

But the difference is that women are naturally loyal to their families. Even if they find that the people around them are quite different from their own imagination, they will choose to be patient and maintain the integrity of their families.

Men don't do that. They have endless motivation to pursue when they can't get it, but after they get it, no matter how perfect the other person is, their attention will be attracted by other "beauty"

Therefore, before entering marriage, every woman needs to polish her eyes and see the essence of the people around her. Otherwise, if she marries a man who likes the new and hates the old, only you will get hurt.

02

don't understand; ignorant of

Marriage and people's hearts are far more fragile than we thought.

There is a popular saying on the Internet to describe the relationship between marriage and divorce: "Marriage is due to lack of judgment; Divorce because of lack of endurance. "

For women, marriage is the process of finding an agreed person and moving towards the future hand in hand.

But for men, marriage is just a part of life. If he doesn't get the respect and recognition he wants, they can give up without hesitation.

It is often said that all happy marriages are the same, and each unhappy marriage is unhappy in its own way.

But for men, the misfortune of marriage, in a word, is incomprehensible.

I have seen a survey about why men choose to cheat before, and one of them is very representative.

He said, "I've been married for 14 years, and now I'm getting a divorce for cheating.

I have no confidence and dignity in front of my wife. My wife's income is better than mine, whether it comes from family or herself. And she bossed me around.

Because of various reasons, I have no fixed income, so my wife doubts and tests me in various ways. She doesn't trust me at all.

It is for these reasons that I cheated. I went out to find a woman who can understand and respect me. Now I finally feel the dignity of a man. "

Faced with the misfortune of marriage, women often choose divorce to end their pain, while men will choose to seek an extramarital affair that makes them happy to balance their mood.

Men are very rational, they know that divorce is the end of both parties, and cheating is the most convenient and cost-effective way to enjoy different scenery without being responsible.

Dissatisfaction with marriage is not a woman's privilege, and men also have the right to be "picky" about marriage.

Therefore, if you find that your husband has started to be cold and hot to you and is no longer obedient to you, first of all, reflect on whether you have really been considerate and understanding to your husband.

If the answer is no, then you should change your mind in time, and don't give men an excuse to have sex because of your carelessness, and then push them further and further.

Marriage is a matter for two people, and only when both sides care enough can they have a happy future.

03

trustless

Most marriages can stand the wind and rain, but they can't stand the dullness.

Some people say that love is the joy of falling in love at first sight, and love is long and tireless. Love at first sight is easy to get, but hard to find for a long time.

There are always too many trivial matters in marriage, which occupy every day's marriage life. Plain has naturally become the main theme of life, and romantic marriage in love has also become a luxury.

And some men who can't stand the dullness choose a kind of excitement that is like walking on the edge of a cliff outside marriage.

In the temptation again and again, they tasted the sweetness completely different from the calm marriage, fell into it and became more and more addicted.

Most men choose cheating partners that are completely different from their wives, just like Miss Know No in the TV series "Anjia".

She has a completely different label from most women in her family, a young woman in literature and art.

Her hobbies are painting and literature, and even when chatting, she always creates a romantic atmosphere belonging to female literary youth.

This is a novelty that Mrs. Naoto Kan, a family husband and wife, doesn't have at all, so after arousing the curiosity of Naoto Kan and Wen Tao, she can't extricate herself from this novelty.

Actually, Kan Wen Tao doesn't want a divorce. It's just that the daily life of daily necessities has polished his enthusiasm for life. He is just looking for novelty and excitement in this way.

This kind of man's infidelity is not because of love at all. Their starting point is only their own happiness.

Marriage does have many constraints, and you can't be yourself at will, but the constraints are for both sides, not just for men. If you do something against marriage in order to break through the bondage, it is not informal, but selfish.

The stimulus in marriage is not to find different people to do the same thing, but to do different things with the same person.

Love is never spoken with the mouth, but made. Only a man who can resist being plain is a truly reliable man.

If a man has a weak sense of responsibility and likes to play games before and after marriage, you must pay attention, otherwise you will be very tired for the rest of your life.

It takes a hundred years to cross the boat and a thousand years to sleep on the pillow.

Being husband and wife is a hard fate to change, but we should cherish and underestimate the people at the bedside.

Once you are unfaithful, you don't need a hundred times. Everyone should have the courage to end mistakes. If you leave the wrong person, you will find something better in the future.

Many people say that marriage is not easy and cherished, but more importantly, a leopard cannot change his spots.

In this world, there are many good people, but there are also many bad people. Therefore, the greatest responsibility to myself is to have the courage to step into marriage after seeing the truth of marriage.

How long life is, how bitter it is. May everyone we meet in this life accompany a lover, understand your joys and sorrows, and make you carefree.