What should I pay attention to when looking for a wife?

As an experienced person, I feel deeply about this and feel that I have a say. Talk about some of my views, for friends' reference only. I think we should pay attention to the following points: first, we should establish our own mate selection goals. There are many criteria for choosing a spouse. Some people value material things, some value personality, some value potential, some value personality, and so on. There are hundreds of reasons for love. In short, no matter what you value, there is nothing wrong with it. However, I advise you not to be confused by many reasons for falling in love. Only choosing personality is the right choice. Good character is the foundation of love. As for the love nest built with material, it must be a castle in the air, and in the end, the bamboo basket will draw water with a sieve. The second is not looking for a vase woman. Finding a partner is to make a living. When two people are together, the sky is thicker than leaves and they are bound to bump into each other. The vase can't stand the wind and rain and is fragile. What you want is a partner who can share weal and woe with you. They will be with you day and night, being caring and attentive. Who likes his half to be the only one, pointing fingers and always treating himself as a slave? The problem is that if you treat her like a vase with your heart, she will wither more and more, but she will sneer at you. Who is not chilling? If you want to find someone, find someone who is really alive. This vase is beautiful, but it is useless. The third is to find someone with a similar portal. This is very important. From a historical point of view, the ancestors have already had incisive discussions on this, such as whether women are better than men, which is reasonable, but not absolute. As the saying goes, eight and a half pounds, that is to say, the man's condition is half a catty, and he can only match with an opponent with a condition of about half a catty. The gap between the two conditions is too big, which easily leads to weightlessness and problems. My understanding is not unreasonable, but it is not absolutely correct. Take it easy on the emotional overpass, yes!

The above views are only my personal views. Please criticize and correct me. Everyone is welcome to express their views.

You can't find people who are too eager for wealth. Some elderly women are forced by external pressure to marry late and take a fancy to the man's property. Generally speaking, some old people are beautiful, some old people try to have face, and they don't rule out lewdness. They are willing to make any property to complete this fate. After marriage, people who have desires have no end ... and thus have property disputes with their children. If you choose to support yourself from the beginning, you will feel lonely and want to find someone to accompany you. People with good qualities, such as kindness, kindness and plain appearance, might as well live the lives of two old people.

Uncle Li is 62 years old and has been widowed for more than ten years. He used to have children to take care of and a class, so he didn't feel lonely. But since his children got married and moved out, he retired, leaving a lonely person in an empty home, doing nothing all day, feeling that life is particularly difficult.

Especially when I have a headache and a fever, there is not even a person with tea and medicine around me. The pot is cold, and the pain is even worse. For this reason, Uncle Li came up with the idea of finding a wife. No matter how filial a child is, it is better to have a wife who knows the cold and the hot. As soon as the idea was put forward, an enthusiastic old partner introduced one soon.

This article introduces a rural Mrs. Wang, who is three years old. Now I take care of my grandson at my son's house and have been widowed for many years. She also wants to find a wife. As soon as they met, Uncle Li was very satisfied. The other man is a simple man, of medium build, neat in appearance, diligent in hands and feet, good at serving tea, cleaning, washing and cooking. The disadvantage is that there is no pension, and now I live on my children.

Uncle Li thought, no pension, no pension. Anyway, you have a large pension, and two people are enough. How much can you spend when you are old? As long as people are nice and can take care of themselves, nothing else matters. On such a thought, I agreed, and the other party naturally did not complain.

Uncle Li's idea was strongly opposed by the children. He thought that Uncle Li was over sixty years old and had lived well for more than ten years. Why does he want a second plum blossom and a second sunset red to make people laugh? Uncle Li's attitude is very firm: you are promising. Have you ever thought that I am cold and lonely under the covers? I also want someone to talk and chat with me at night to kill time. Whether you agree or not, I have found a wife.

Seeing that the old father was so excited that he wouldn't give up until he reached his goal, his children made concessions, although they were dissatisfied. The premise is that as long as the property is not in the house, the rest will be left to Uncle Li to decide for himself.

In this way, Uncle Li married his wife in a low-key way, from bachelor to harmony. After going through the door, Mrs. Wang kept the house in good order, bought food and cooked every day, and served Uncle Li well. The whole person is radiant and full of energy. She looks ten years younger. She even hummed a few words when she was free, which made her old playmates jealous: This is a treasure, look at your beauty. The child looked at his old father and felt taken care of, saving his heart and being satisfied.

Half a year passed, and one day, Uncle Li drank some wine, and Mrs. Wang discussed something with him, saying that it was inconvenient for her to take care of her grandson in the door. His son wanted to find a nanny to replace her, but he was short of money and asked Uncle Li if he could support her. Uncle Li thought, yes. Mrs. Wang doesn't serve me well and has no energy to take care of her grandson. Her son is my son, so it is reasonable to give some money as compensation. So he readily promised to give twenty thousand dollars. Mrs. Wang happily slapped Uncle Ali and said that she would serve him better in the future.

After two months, Mrs. Wang asked Uncle Li for money again, saying that her son wanted to buy a car to send his children to and from school, and wanted Uncle Li to sponsor 20,000 yuan. At this time, Uncle Li was a little unhappy, but Mrs. Wang comforted that this was the last time and would never mention it again. So uncle Li took out 20 thousand yuan from his savings and gave it to his wife, thinking that they were both married, so don't make it too difficult for his wife.

What Uncle Li Can didn't expect was that things went on. Mrs. Wang's son is always looking for excuses to ask him for money. Either the child wants to go to a private school, or the daughter-in-law needs to be grateful for changing jobs, or he needs funds to invest in a small business and so on. Every time, it is the last time, but there is always a next time. And Mrs. Wang loves this son very much and gives him whatever he wants. She turned to ask Uncle Li.

When Mrs. Wang said that her son was going to change rooms, and there was still a gap of 500 thousand, Uncle Li finally got angry: Do you think your mother and son treat me as CCB? Come to me for money? At this rate, in a few years, I will be squeezed out by you. I wanted to marry a wife and spend the rest of my life safely, but I didn't expect to marry a vampire. Endless. It's better to have such a wife than nothing.

In this way, Uncle Li resumed his single life in the past. When others introduced him, he always refused: Forget it, make do.

Therefore, what should be paid attention to when looking for a female wife: First, it depends on the other person's personality, whether it is fun or not, and whether there are bad hobbies. If it's too fun and you are addicted to playing mahjong and poker all day, how can you take care of your family and you? If you get involved in gambling, no amount of money can be wasted; The second is to see how the other person's living habits are, diligent and not diligent, and the hygiene is unsanitary. If you are lazy and sloppy, it is difficult to stay together for a long time; The third is to see how the other person is virtuous and sincere to you. If you stay with you for money and a better life, once you have no money, the other party will abandon you; The fourth is to look at the financial situation of the other party and the children. Generally speaking, women love their children very much and they can do anything for them. If the other child's condition is not good, it is likely that they will arrange various reasons to pay for raising the child and let you be the big head.

Many of my old leaders are divorced and widowed after retirement, and they have also found wives. When choosing a wife, they only value three points:

First, it is particularly important to value a woman's past life experience, because what a person has experienced means what this person is thinking now. Therefore, my old leader pays special attention to each other's life experiences when choosing a female wife. If the other person has been poor and experienced some disasters, then be friends, because such people have experienced too much and are too indifferent to human nature, which will inevitably ignore life.

Second, the so-called wives who value women's income are partners when they are old. From this definition, the old couple must support each other, including financial support, that is to say, the wife they find when they are old must have a pension, otherwise it is called taking advantage.

Third, if you value the woman's family to find the woman's wife, you must see the other person's family clearly. If there are old and young, children can't get married, and children can't be alone. Only these three can be considered, otherwise it never rains but it pours.

Finally, when people are old, it is enough to find someone to board occasionally. There is no need to find a wife, a wife, a wife, not necessarily a wife, but it is likely that you will stumble when you are old.

Looking for a wife should pay attention to the following points;

1, kindness, a kind-hearted woman, is related to your future quality of life.

2, the purpose, whether sincere, simply to find a partner, spend the rest of my life together, if there is another picture, it is not desirable.

3. There is not much difference in the division of personal property between the woman's children and women, otherwise you will never have peace.

Your own children should agree with you to find a wife. If you strongly object, it will inevitably affect the peace of both of you.

If there are no serious problems in the above four points, then congratulations, "Get married."

I shouldn't interfere in this topic because I have a wife. However, out of morality, I still want to nag a few words: Time, to make a long story short: (1) Looking for a wife is to find a partner, not to be linked to a money RV; (2) Don't take sex as an element (sex is easy to get tired) (3) Every year is a year, and every day is a day. Don't make long-term plans!

The last thing to say is, don't get a marriage certificate, live together! If you combine, you will continue, and if you divide, you will have no worries.

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First, it's true.

Second, tell the truth and don't hide it.

Third, I have to promise.

Fourth, no exaggeration.

Fifth, language communication is elegant and not impatient.

Sixth, the statement is not dirty.

Seven, don't lie.

Eight, don't make things difficult for others.

Nine, the expression image is mild.

Respect each other's opinions and suggestions.

Twilight love is different from young people's love and marriage, and there are many bound factors.

It is relatively simple for young people to fall in love and get married. If they share the same interests and their parents are satisfied, they will all be very happy. The reunion of the elderly with their families involves the original ownership and re-division of the property of both parties, which mainly affects the interests of the next generation. This has caused difficulties and is also a very realistic problem.

Naturally, there are four seasons in a year, and a person's life is very short, which can also be described as "four seasons". Finding a wife belongs to "autumn life fu". If you can have an initial heart, you don't have to consider the gains and losses of things outside your body with too secular eyes, you can respect each other, and your happiness index may be higher.

Chatting with my mother, she talked about things around her. There was an old man who was in poor health and hired a nanny to take care of him. The children of the old man praised the nanny for her thoughtfulness and care, and encouraged their father to marry her. 10 years later, the old man died and the children asked the nanny to leave his house. Nanny wants to live forever. The son took out the real estate license and told her that the house was his.

Mother said, with a look of indignation, and concluded: The old man remarried and found lice to climb on his head.

Social progress, material life improvement, and spiritual needs are also "more and more" strong! This is true for all people, and the elderly are not behind. They "have" needs and have the right to "choose" to enjoy life.

It is a sign of social progress for the elderly to find a wife, because the elderly have made contributions to society, dedicated their youth and realized their social and personal values. It is time to enjoy their own achievements.

Yo-yo asked me what I should pay attention to when looking for a "female" wife. I share some ideas that I think are useful.

First, wealth.

Speaking of this "wealth", I am afraid that as long as it is sensible, it is sensitive! The old man has no money and can't find a wife, and he really wants to live with you, as long as he has a house to live in and a decent life. People who jump for money don't talk about "like-minded" two of a kind. Before getting married, the first thing is the ownership of the property. Huh, how much money you got there? Who will control the financial encyclopedia after marriage?

Second, a woman with a strong desire.

If you are still young and strong, don't be "hungry", you must "think twice" and choose a gentle, kind and virtuous woman as your partner. Otherwise, companionship will become a torment, and a woman with too strong desire can't be controlled by ordinary people. If you want this today, you will think of that tomorrow. Maybe it will kill you.

Third, a woman who is too strong.

This kind of woman, whoever marries home, basically, you just wait for "being" henpecked! She wants to take care of everything, big and small, and rarely respects others. When she goes against her will, she will make a scene and cry for a divorce.

It is human nature to love beauty, especially courtship! Most people will "go" to choose the beauty of appearance and form, but such a stunner is not the dish of ordinary people. It is impossible for ordinary people to "hide their beauty in a golden house" and their appearance is just as good.

Fourth, marry a woman with good quality.

Living at home, looking private, cheerful and docile, dressed appropriately, it is "really" blessed to marry such a woman as a wife!

It is also very important that both parties may have children. Do you agree to your marriage? If they all agree, it is best. If they don't agree, there must be something that will make them "unhappy". I think this is a question of property ownership. If the family is harmonious and peaceful, the best way to deal with it is a written agreement. Who should I give it to when I die? Just write down whose name. Fair legislation. No one has "troubles", so why not?