Sister-in-law sent a circle of friends to ridicule her indiscretion and was reprimanded by her brother to sow discord. Is it too much for her?

Marriage is different from love. Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families. How to live in harmony with each other's families is particularly important.

When people get along with each other, they should maintain a certain sense of boundaries. Even after marriage, they become a family, this method still applies.

In our life, there are many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there are many contradictions between aunt and sister-in-law, because both sides are very vague about this boundary and interfere excessively in each other's lives.

The sense of boundaries plays an indelible role in marriage. In other words, only by keeping your sense of boundaries can you really keep your marriage.

Not long after Koike and her husband Chen Ran got married, Chen Ran's mother and sister moved in together.

In recent years, Chen Ran has worked hard outside and has his own career. When he got married, he still bought a house in full, without relying on the help of his family. Even Koike's bride price money was paid out of his own pocket. Over the years, Chen Ran has hardly disturbed his parents.

Koike is also excellent. She works as a manager in a company and runs a dance training class by herself. Because dancing has always been her hobby, she will personally give lessons to students on Saturday and Sunday.

Koike is still a very filial girl. Knowing that her mother-in-law was coming, she vacated the largest bedroom in the house and ran to the smallest bedroom with Chen to clean her sister-in-law's room.

However, Koike's contribution has not been properly treated. In the eyes of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, these are all things she should do. Sister-in-law, in particular, often finds fault with her in her life.

Sister-in-law is only five years younger than Koike. She just graduated from college and has been at home for more than three months without looking for a job.

Koike, out of kindness, said he could help her introduce a job. This job is not tiring, but the salary is slightly lower. Unexpectedly, my sister-in-law said contemptuously, "I just don't have a job, so you don't have to worry about it." My brother will support me. "

In fact, my sister-in-law didn't like Koike at first sight. At that time, Koike casually asked her sister-in-law "Do you have a boyfriend" out of concern, which made her feel bitter all the time. Koike thinks she is a burden and wants to marry her early.

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Not only that, but my sister-in-law even thinks that Koike robbed her brother.

Because before that, she had a good relationship with her brother, who often took her out to play. If there is anything delicious or interesting, she always thinks of it first. Since her brother and Koike became friends, they seldom go out to play together, and even if they go out, they are still three people.

Sister-in-law is not satisfied with Xiaochi, but in front of her brother, she dares not say anything to Xiaochi. But behind her back, she often accused Koike, and even complained to her mother that Koike bullied her.

Once, my sister-in-law saw Xiaochi buy a new dress and liked it very much. She said to her mother, "Mom, my sister-in-law is so stingy. I took a fancy to one of her clothes and wanted to wear it to my classmate's birthday party, but she repeatedly pushed it off, obviously not wanting to lend it to me. "

Actually, these words were made up by my sister-in-law. Koike never said that. She just wants her mother to help her ask for this dress. When Koike learned that her sister-in-law liked this dress, she happily gave it to Koike.

For these, Koike is tolerable, because she thinks that Sister-in-law is a child, and there are some things that need not be disputed with her. But it is Koike's forbearance that keeps her sister-in-law pushing her luck.

During the period when her sister-in-law lived, she never did housework or cooked a meal. When she had no money, she asked her brother for it. She never says hello to Koike's skin care products. A bottle of expensive perfume that my sister-in-law bought before ran out in a few months.

Sometimes even my brother can't stand it, so I usually ask her to be polite to Koike. After all, this is her sister-in-law, at least she needs some respect, but her sister-in-law doesn't take it seriously.

Sister-in-law had a friend who was training in a dance class in Xiaochi, so she thought of a plan to let her friend take an intimate photo while teaching male students to dance in Xiaochi.

A few days later, Koike saw a message in Xiaoguzi's circle of friends, "My brother is really, how did he marry such a woman?" He doesn't behave at all. He teaches his male students to dance and cuddle, and he doesn't know how her parents educated her. " Then he matched a photo of her faculty dancing.

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My sister-in-law had no problem with her before, but this time, her behavior completely annoyed her.

Koike and Chen Ran called to explain the specific situation. She hopes that Chen Ran can stand up and say a few fair words for her. Chen Ran said, "I know who you are. My sister has gone too far. Wait, I'll make her apologize to you. "

As soon as Chen Ran came home, her sister-in-law said, "Brother, your wife is misbehaving. She's doing something behind your back. If my friend hadn't told me, I wouldn't have known. You should divorce him quickly. "

Chen Ran immediately scolded her, "I know best what kind of person your sister-in-law is. If you loaf around all day, you can go back to your hometown and no one will leave you. Since you want to stay in this home, you should set up your place in this home. If you make trouble again, sow discord and get out at once. "

Sister-in-law cried with fear. "I can't believe you scolded me for this woman." . Koike saw that the situation was wrong and dissuaded her. She thinks it is good to let her sister-in-law know that she is wrong, and there is no need to make such a fuss.

After this incident, my sister-in-law was really polite in front of Koike, and dared not say Koike was wrong again.

Relatives also need to respect each other, especially aunts and sisters-in-law, otherwise it will only make a mess of family relations.

For sister-in-law, since she lives in her sister-in-law's house, she should be in the position of this family, and don't take others' feelings as her own responsibility. Respecting others is also respecting yourself. If you push your luck blindly and violate the bottom line of others, you will only end up in an unbearable situation.

Teacher Wu Zhihong said, "We are always used to talking about sacrifice and patience. We are always worried about hurting others and ourselves. But the reality is that it is not easy for adults to destroy each other. When others perceive that you are an annoying person, you will easily get respect and get a good relationship. "

Tolerance is not cowardice. Similarly, when a woman is hurt by her family, she should know how to fight back in time.

Any relationship should be well measured, and excessive tolerance will only make you lose your due principles. Only when women stick to their own bottom line can they advance and retreat freely in a relationship and their marriage will be happier.