40% of high school students in Beishangguang have been in love. What do you think of puppy love?

40% of high school students in Beishangguang have been in love, which I admit is true. Because the children are in high school in Shanghai, as far as I know, some students in their class are in love and ready to fall in love. Children often discuss the topic of puppy love with me.

Say "puppy love", in fact, I prefer to say that it is adolescent love, because I think the affection for the opposite sex sprouted in adolescence is actually a normal reaction.

17, 18 years old, it is the maturity of the body, and the body's reaction makes the child full of curiosity, because of the role of hormones, it has a strong curiosity about the opposite sex. If obstinately obstructed, it will be counterproductive and arouse children's exploration of gender relations. It is better to regard this as the most normal thing. In fact, it is a very normal thing. Communicate frankly with children and let them spend this period under the guidance of their parents.

In fact, as parents, it is easy for us to understand children's emotions at this stage by recalling our feelings at this age: in the face of physiological and psychological changes in adolescence, they are uneasy and fearful, and want to get close to the opposite sex they like, but they don't know how to get close and how to communicate with the opposite sex. If there is someone around at this time, the child can get through this stage correctly.

Parents don't want their children to be exposed to emotional things too early. The bigger reason is that children are at school, fearing that their distraction will affect their study. That's understandable. But we can take some measures to prevent children from indulging in feelings prematurely.

First of all, father must love mother, and mother must also love father. A child who grew up in a loving family does not need love as badly as a child who lacks love.

Secondly, we should cultivate children's sense of responsibility. Let them know that love is not only a right, but also a responsibility. Out of a sense of responsibility, we will act cautiously. Only when something happens will you think more about your responsibilities.

Third, if conditions permit, children must see the world more. If they are well informed, they will not confine their vision to a small circle. They will be broad-minded and far-sighted.

Fourth, parents must treat sexual problems with a scientific and frank attitude and popularize correct gender knowledge for their children. China's parents are ashamed to talk about sex, but in fact, sexual knowledge is very serious scientific knowledge. Only by letting children fully understand and unveil the veil can children not explore themselves in a daze.

Love is actually an ability. We can't guard against death when our children need to know, but at the same time we urge them to get married when they are old. The lack of love ability will inevitably leave a shadow on the emotional life of children all their lives.

Therefore, treat children's "puppy love" correctly and guide them correctly, so that they can spend a beautiful adolescence safely and without regrets.

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