Don't keep the old man waiting.

The cynicism between relatives hurts the most.

You are obviously her relative, and she has something at home. You don't help, you don't understand, and you have to stand aside and say a few sarcastic words to satirize her.

That's despicable.

In September this year, my aunt died, and I came home from the funeral and wrote a lot about my family. I have to say that my aunt's son and my cousin are both very filial sons. My cousin, the daughter-in-law of my period, is a good daughter-in-law.

There are not many people in this world who can treat their mother-in-law as mother and daughter. My cousin is one of them. When she first married my cousin, she said, "I won't quarrel with my mother-in-law." My mother-in-law is good for us. "

She is the kind of woman who is particularly virtuous and docile. She and her in-laws have lived under the same roof for more than 20 years, never blushed or quarreled with them.

I once wrote that before menstruation died, I couldn't eat anything. My aunt advised her that she wouldn't eat it. My cousin begged her, but she refused to eat. Only my cousin went over and begged her, "Mom, you have a bite, you have a bite."

My aunt will take a bite.

After my aunt died, my cousin cried until her voice dropped. That's really sad. I was several years older and spent the night in front of the coffin. When my cousin went to see the ghosts off, she really couldn't stand up. The two of them barely stood up holding hands.

I never doubted my cousin's sincerity to my aunt.

Because she loves her husband so much and respects her in-laws. She can't do anything that doesn't care about her in-laws' lives. After my aunt fell ill, I took care of her for such a long time, with no regrets.

She always felt sorry for my aunt. She raised her two children and died before she could enjoy them. Every time she mentions it, her tears can't stop flowing.

But some people don't think so. My cousin cried very sadly, and they would say, "She is pretending, but in fact she has been looking forward to the old man's death. When the old man is sick, he doesn't take money to treat the old man, so he can go home and raise him. To be a child is to lose everything. As long as the old man does not die, he should always hang in the hospital. "

The most confident person to make such sarcastic remarks is a distant cousin of mine. They have a house and a car in the city, and their family background is solid.

At my aunt's funeral, she kept saying, "I thought my mother was lying in the hospital when she was sick, and we were willing to spend tens of thousands of dollars a day for the elderly." As long as the elderly can live, we are willing to sell houses and cars. Although she cried so sadly, she was actually fake. She took the old man home because she was afraid of spending money. "

I don't know where she got this sarcasm, or whether she really can't see the pain that others have a little money.

First, my cousin has no say in this matter.

After my aunt fell ill, my brother took her to the hospital for treatment. My sister-in-law has to take care of two children at home, take care of my uncle and go to work to earn money. Because this is the time when money is needed.

She has no say in this matter because it is my brother and my uncle who make the final decision.

Secondly, my aunt has been in hospital for a long time and has not spent less money. The doctor said there was no cure, so he asked my cousin to take the old man home. My cousin just took my aunt home. No, my cousin didn't want to treat my aunt, but the doctor said it was useless and they gave up.

I have to admit that my cousin is poor. Because there are two children at home and two old people are sick, he and my cousin are both out-and-out farmers. They don't have many ways to make money. They are under great pressure and earn less, so they are naturally poor.

But they are poor, but they are kind. But as long as the old man's illness can be cured, he will not give up no matter how difficult it is. After all, as long as people are here, money can be paid back slowly.

But my distant cousin thinks she is rich and has no financial pressure. Seeing that my aunt spent the last month at home, she said such hurtful things according to her own ideas.

She thinks that the poor have no affection and dignity and can be satirized.

Third, menstruation came home from the hospital and died in less than a month. That month was her most painful month. She's already upset. If relatives want her to live, regardless of her wishes, let her suffer for a few more months, is it really filial piety?

I've been thinking about filial piety. Is it necessary for old people hanging in hospitals to be filial? She doesn't want to put up with those crimes any more. In order to show filial piety to her, you kept her, for her or for yourself.

Before my grandfather died, my mother and her brothers decided to operate on him, because after the operation, he could live longer. My grandfather is determined not to have an operation. He said, "I don't want to suffer that kind of crime. I want to be complete in the last days. " I don't want to suffer more knives and months. "

My uncle and they are much richer than my distant cousin. Can't they cure the old man?

But they respect the opinions of the elderly. My grandfather doesn't want to have an operation. His end is over. Everything depends on him. Let him spend the rest of his life as he wishes.

I have always believed that this is the real filial piety. We can listen to the real thoughts of the elderly and truly satisfy their wishes. But to show our filial piety, we must send the old man to the hospital for various operations, so that he can spend his last life in great pain.

Fourth, menstruation spent his last days at home, so it was peaceful and warm. All the people she loved most were around her, and she was treated well by everyone in her later years.

After my aunt died, my uncle had to take one last look at him when he closed the coffin. She and my uncle love each other deeply.

In her last days, the daughter-in-law and son carefully fed her and brought her shit and urine. As my mother said, "you don't even know how clean your cousin takes care of your aunt, and neither does your own daughter." Coaxed, respected, and served. "

My cousin has done so much, but because of poverty, my distant cousin will still say those sarcastic words.

In fact, no matter what my cousin does, people like her will be cynical. My cousin is doing very well. She will say that she is faking and doesn't want to treat the elderly. My cousin is not good, she will say that such people are unfilial.

I have a few words with people like her. I did, too. In front of so many people, I said to her, "My brother and sister-in-law are not like this. The doctor has discharged them. Menstruation doesn't want to be hospitalized any more. Is it necessary for her to be filial? Don't talk nonsense if you don't know anything. "

People like them only dare to be sarcastic behind her back. When you really stand on her opposite side, she will be timid. She knew what would happen if others knew what she said.

I just feel sorry for a cynic like my distant cousin.

I don't know if my mother-in-law can fulfill my cousin's filial piety after her death. What I know is that she doesn't get along well with her mother-in-law. I hope she can really do what she says, be especially filial and sincere to the elderly, and not afraid of spending money and effort.

I will wait and see.

I want to talk about kindness. I think my cousin and sister-in-law are very kind people. They are poor, but they respect the death of the old man and do their filial piety.

There is a sentence in Sogar Rinpoche's Tibetan Life and Death Book: "There is no kindness greater than helping a person die well."

I think they did it.

As for my distant cousin, I just want to say:

When a person only wants his own reputation, only wants to raise himself by stepping on others, and feels rich, he can look down on those who suffer.

Such people can't be intimate.

I will stay away from such people because they are not kind.