My mother-in-law is a neat freak, always telling me what to do and what to do with my work.

Tell me about my troubles. My husband is a single-parent family and has been living with her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is very neat, so is my husband. Let's talk about my mother-in-law, because my husband's requirements for me are completely based on my mother-in-law's standards. My mother-in-law wipes everywhere every day. She is retired and free. No other hobbies, only cleaning. Chicken feet are dirty if they are not eaten. Pig ears are dirty if they are not eaten. Go to the hospital and don't touch anything. Wipe it with a tissue. After cutting my hair, I must take a bath. Things outside are dirty. Wipe where you can at home every day. You can't drop any residue when you eat it. There are two trash cans in her room, and what you eat is next to them. The house is clean, but my husband still feels unclean. I clean the room every day, but he doesn't do anything. He doesn't even have enough to eat, but he is picky every day, but he doesn't reach out. I am also an only child, and I have nothing to do at home. But after we got married, I made many changes to adapt to him. I clean at home. He sat on the sofa and even asked me to bring him snacks to the coffee table, bossing me around like a servant girl. That's it. I won't say anything. He will serve as long as he is happy. Isn't love just giving? A woman should serve her husband and play the role of a good wife. But what I can't stand is that, in this way, he is still finding fault endlessly, hasn't cleaned it up, and says I'm messing around. Said I didn't have to cook or clean the house. His mother will be angry when she sees it ... His mother always comes to my house and sometimes tells him that we are dirty. We are always angry about his mother. He said it was a great injustice to let his mother live alone. I haven't cleaned the house yet. I am already very clean, and I think most people will think my home is very clean. But my husband is not satisfied. My mother-in-law is kind to me, but she cares too much. No way, no way will be boring. If I nag him, he will go to his mother and treat me as an enemy. Actually, it doesn't matter if he says something to me. Anyway, it's no good coaxing things behind his mother's back, just don't say fucking no, so sometimes it's annoying. He lied to me too, but there was no fucking discussion. He still turns his back on people and has no respect in his temper. He cursed stupid x and other hurtful things. It will be fine after scolding the next day. Come and coax me. However, sometimes my feelings hurt me and I can't let it go so quickly, so he said I was angry. I don't swear at ordinary times, and I never scold him, even if he scolds me. Later, I couldn't listen to it anymore, so I said, you are. At most, he called me stupid X. I called you stupid X. Later, I was forced out. I think we should respect each other in marriage, but it's useless to talk about respect with him. He doesn't know how to respect me, and he doesn't want to respect me. Is marriage so annoying? Is it me or him? Fortunately, I will go abroad for a year because of my work next year, so I can escape these troubles temporarily. But come back? Life goes on? What should we do?