Four years after graduating from college, I realized that I was a real nerd, procrastinating, not independent in thinking, and unable to communicate with others.

First of all, it must be clear that being a person is more important than doing things. Being a person is the foundation of doing things.

There are several levels of being a human being. The first level, which is the most basic, is to be kind, upright, distinguish right from wrong, etc. This level is the foundation of life. If you fail to meet the requirements, everything is empty talk; the second level, you have something to do at the first level. Sublimation has a certain degree of artistry, such as being tactful, treating others with a smile, not showing it when you meet people you don't like, taking care of other people's emotions, etc. If you achieve this level, you will be lovable, and you will never lack friends, and they are true friends; the third level is even more difficult, it is to be a person with complete purpose, for example, because of a certain work relationship, you must Establish a good relationship with some people, but for you, interacting with these people is not at all out of your own emotional needs. You may even feel repelled by very few people, but if you can make them willing to help, you will succeed. It’s Chinese-style relationships and connections.

Doing things is a person’s job, and it is also important to do it well. In the process of doing things, there are several very important qualities that must be possessed, such as seriousness, meticulousness, meticulousness, no complaints, self-motivation, etc. In short, you should try your best to eliminate all external interference and work hard to do your job well.

It should be noted that being a person and doing things are not two completely isolated entities. Sometimes being a person is for doing things, and sometimes doing things can also have the emotional color of being a person. You can combine the two skillfully. It couldn't be better. In terms of importance, I still have to reiterate that being a human being is more important. Specifically speaking, doing things is almost equally important as the second level of being a human being. If doing things conflicts with the first or third level, it is not difficult to judge which is more important, but Conflicts with the second level will depend on the situation.

I wish you success!