BB’s two major psychological needs

BB’s two major psychological needs

BB’s two major psychological needs. Many people think that babies are small and don’t understand anything. Therefore, many parents will ignore the psychological needs of their babies. In fact, babies also have psychological needs. The following is an introduction to the two major psychological needs of BB. I hope it will be helpful to everyone! BB’s two major psychological needs 1

Do you think your baby’s world is simple and pure, seemingly without desires or demands? Don't think that it's enough for babies to eat and drink enough. In fact, when babies come to the world, they have various psychological activities as human beings. They also need sufficient warmth and a full sense of security. However, some careless parents often only focus on the baby's physical satisfaction and ignore the baby's psychological needs.

1. Want to see the kind smiles of parents.

Although newborn babies are still ignorant of the outside world, the kind smiles of parents are the baby’s initial source of warmth and happiness. Smiling seems to be human nature. Babies will smile unconsciously when they feel happy. The friendly smiles of parents can make the baby feel friendly and happy emotional experience, even though he does not know what a smile is. If parents mostly use facial expressions when facing their baby, the baby will not feel the care of the soul, and the baby's personality may become indifferent and negative when he grows up.

Therefore, parents might as well show their smiling faces to their babies when they are awake, so that their babies can always feel their parents’ attention and love. Hug your baby more often or give him the gentlest caress, along with smiles and kisses, so that your baby can feel the deep love of your parents, and your baby's personality will become positive and gentle.

2. Eager to communicate with parents

Babies aged 0-3 have little understanding of the world. Due to the limitations of their own activities, babies will Particularly dependent on parents. Curious babies have a strong desire for knowledge. They always ask questions about new things, "What is this?" and "How to use this?" They are very eager to get answers from their parents. But some parents are always very busy, they have to work and do housework, and some also have to study and have fun. They take time to rest when they get home from work. Parents who are physically and mentally exhausted don't even want to say a few words, let alone Talk about communicating and playing with the baby.

If you want to be close to your parents, but receive such cold treatment and unwelcome, your baby will definitely feel aggrieved, frustrated, and sad, and it is inevitable that he will lose his temper and cry. If there is little communication between parents and babies, it will be detrimental to the development of the baby's abilities in all aspects. For example, the baby is at the peak period of learning language. If he does not get sufficient communication, he will not be able to learn vocabulary and understand other people's words, which will affect the baby's language learning. In addition, babies who lack communication will become more withdrawn, lonely, and introverted, which is not conducive to the formation of good character.

3. Tips to meet the baby’s psychological needs

Only by satisfying the baby’s psychological needs and letting the baby live in a happy and healthy mood can we better cultivate the baby’s language ability, Social skills and thinking skills are conducive to the development of a sound personality and a good mentality in babies, and promote the healthy and happy growth of babies!

Treat your baby kindly and patiently

For children, the sense of security provided by their parents is very important. The child's sense of dependence is based on the close relationship with their parents. The key to establishing this emotion is that parents can often communicate with their children and enjoy happy family time together.

Parents should never show their bad emotions in front of their babies at any time, let alone vent your grievances about work and life on them. Young babies can easily make mistakes. Parents may wish to understand and give their babies more patience and support. Set a good example in front of your children and provide them with a warm and comfortable family environment.

Kiss at work and hug after get off work

If mothers can have some close contact with their children before going to work, this will be very good for both the children and your mood.

Before leaving home, parents can hug or kiss the baby, make skin-to-skin contact with the baby, say a few words of encouragement, and say goodbye to the baby with a smile. During this time in the morning, the smiling faces and care of parents will bring new breath and good mood to the baby's day.

Say hello to your baby as soon as you get back from get off work. You can hug and kiss him and ask him if he has been good today. . A family of three getting together for dinner is a good moment for communication. Parents can take this opportunity to let their baby talk about interesting things in kindergarten today, what the teacher praised the baby for, and spend more time listening to him tell about interesting things today. Parents can also chat as much as they want. Although it is sometimes difficult for the baby to understand the content of your conversation, letting the baby participate will give the baby a respected feeling of being treated as a "little adult".

Tell stories and play games

After meals, parents can take the baby for a walk and add some relaxing outdoor activities, which will not only help digestion but also give the baby a chance to get in touch with more food. Many people. Or parents and babies can play some relaxing games, tell stories, and sing children's songs to enhance the parent-child relationship. These activities don't take much time, but they can greatly satisfy the baby's psychology.

When children are relatively young, parents can buy some toys that develop intelligence or play some educational games to allow children to have a basic development in early cognition and all aspects; when children are older, At this time, parents can teach their children to play competitive games such as chess and Go. Cultivating children's interests and abilities in this area will play an important and positive role in future mental development. BB’s two major psychological needs 2

What are the main psychological needs of children?

1. The need for emotional dependence

Children’s emotional dependence manifests itself in infancy Especially obvious. A two- or three-year-old child behaves particularly clinging. He follows his mother wherever she goes. This is also a sign of emotional dependence. Children often don't want to leave their mothers for an inch. The reason for this is because their emotional dependence needs have not been met.

Some mothers said: "To educate your children, you have to use a stick policy. It is useless to reason with them. A scolding or beating will make them obedient." Mothers who hold this view actually don’t understand their children. They educate their children using the methods inherited from the older generation. The end result of this is that the child will be afraid of his mother from an early age, which is not conducive to the growth of the child in the long run.

In fact, the reason why children show the characteristics of "clinging" is because their emotional dependence has not been satisfied. Mothers only need to spend more time with their children to satisfy their emotional dependence, and this situation will slow down. Disappear slowly.

2. The need for a sense of belonging

The need for a sense of belonging is not only reflected in children, it is one of the most basic needs of human beings. It is more obvious in children than in adults.

Everyone hopes that he can belong to a certain group, be accepted and affirmed by other people in the group, and also hope that he can occupy a place in the group, so as to gain recognition in the group. Personal security.

The same is true for children. As a member of the family, they also hope to have their own status in the family. But their need for a sense of belonging is often not met because of some of their mothers' behaviors.

Child: "Mom, let me sweep the floor for you!"

Mom: "No, you can't do these things."

Lost child I thought to myself: "Mom dislikes me, mom doesn't like me, I will never do housework again."

The next day, a guest was coming, and the mother anxiously said to her child: "Baby, Quickly clean up the living room with your mother, guests will come soon."

The child sat still, thinking: "I don't care, anyway, I won't do it to you. It will be done well."

It can be seen that children are not born lazy, but when they want to integrate into the family group, they are rejected by their mothers. At this time, the children have no sense of belonging. Be satisfied.

When a child's sense of belonging is not satisfied, not only will he not cooperate with his mother, he will also become particularly irresponsible.

Therefore, in normal times, mothers must consciously provide opportunities for their children to prove that they have contributed to the family. For example, ask him to help clean up the dishes after a meal, and then sincerely say "thank you" to him. At this time, the child will have the feeling that I am useful and my mother needs me, so he will be more active in doing what he can for the family. This is a manifestation of the child's sense of belonging.

3. The need for attention

Today’s mothers, like men, have to work hard outside for a living. In this way, they will inevitably neglect their children. various emotional needs. When children don't get their mother's affection and approval, they will use some destructive behavior to get their mother's attention, even if this behavior is extremely dangerous.

After a busy day, my mother came home and started preparing dinner for her children.

When the child who was doing homework in the living room saw his mother coming back, he happily went up to her and murmured for her mother to hold her.

The mother pushed the child away and went straight to the kitchen. The child stood blankly in the living room. Mom was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen.

Suddenly, there was a loud noise from the living room. My mother ran out and saw that the small fish tank on the dining table fell to the ground.

The mother shouted angrily to the child: "What's going on with you?" The child thought to himself: "It doesn't matter if you don't love me anymore. At least I can still destroy things to attract your attention." "

Children are little "observers" who are very good at observing words and emotions. They know very well "what kind of behavior will cause their mother to react." However, they often Will give wrong interpretations of mother's various reactions. As in the above example, when the mother neglects the child, the child will think that the love given to him by the mother has decreased. Therefore, they will use bad behavior to attract their mother's attention, and they will not care even if they are beaten and scolded by their mother again. Because they will think: Although I can't get my mother's affection and acceptance, at least I can get their attention. If things go on like this, children can easily develop into rebellious teenagers or delinquents.

Therefore, no matter how busy a mother is in life, she must never forget to pay attention to the psychological needs of her children. When a child exhibits bad behavior, the mother should analyze the child's psychology and end the child's "I attract your attention" game as soon as possible on the premise of meeting the child's legitimate psychological needs.

4. The need for trust and affirmation

Although children are very young, they also very much hope that their mothers can trust them. However, most mothers always think that they are children, unreliable and untrustworthy. In addition, they lack understanding of parenting knowledge. Therefore, they often forget that children also need to trust this parenting lesson. In fact, every child has the psychological need to be trusted.

Xiaoyu is a child who doesn’t talk much. He is also tone-deaf when it comes to singing. Whenever he opens his mouth, he will be laughed at by the whole class.

The final exam is approaching again. Xiaoyu has been anxious all day long, worried about the music class exam. Xiaoyu's abnormal behavior attracted her mother's attention. Through understanding, her mother learned the truth.

On the day of the final test, her mother appeared next to Xiaoyu. As soon as the teacher called Xiaoyu's name, some students laughed secretly, and some students simply said to the teacher directly: "Teacher, if he can't do it, don't let him sing."

At this time, his mother encouraged him with her appreciative and trusting eyes. With her encouragement and the teacher’s consent, Xiaoyu timidly sang with him. Come to the podium and perform as required by the test. The result of the performance was that there was only mother's voice, and Xiaoyu just moved his lips. Before the song was finished, he couldn't wait to run back to his seat and buried his head deeply under the desk. This scene caused a burst of laughter.

At this time, my mother said to Xiaoyu, you boldly stood on the stage today, which is a big progress, and my mother is proud of your progress.

Xiaoyu felt her mother’s encouragement. After a while, she raised her hand and asked to take the test again. This time, Xiaoyu received applause from the whole class.

From then on, Xiaoyu seemed to be a different person and became very confident.

To give children strength, we must enhance their self-confidence. Just like the above example, Xiaoyu became confident and self-improving with her mother's encouragement and affirmation.

From this child, mothers should understand how important it is to trust and affirm their children. Secondly, mothers must learn to worship their children. Because our children are the best children in the world. There are no two identical leaves in the world. Therefore, every life is unique and incomparable. As a mother, you should firmly believe that your child can become the best child.