How to take your own university road?

When I was in college, there was a saying that "the freshman didn't know he didn't know, the sophomore knew he didn't know, the junior didn't know he knew, and the senior knew he knew." I didn't understand it then, but now I know it's too late. When they first enter the university, many people don't know what they should do, or the purpose of going to the university is not clear, and they don't know what the correct university lifestyle is. Only by stumbling slowly in school can we gradually understand the purpose of the university and master the correct attitude towards study and life. Among them, people who know early, that is, people with good understanding, will be like a duck to water, get their own successful and smooth courses in college, get satisfactory results, and leave good memories of life. People who know each other late will not only get good grades in school, but also regret it when they leave college. When I was in college, it was a pity that no one told me these truths and took many detours. It takes a hundred times more time and effort to remedy many things. That's why I really hope you can know something I already know as soon as possible.

I wish you happiness!

Happiness is happiness and comfort. Everyone wants to live a happy life. Now let's talk about how to be happy in college, that is, what is true happiness. Have you ever heard a similar story? A fisherman was sunbathing leisurely by the sea. A passerby couldn't stand it and said to him, "The weather is so good, why don't you go fishing at sea?" Catch more fish every day and save money. With money, you can buy a big boat, catch more fish and earn more money, then hire many people to fish and start your own fishing company to earn a lot of money. After that, you will become a local rich man, and you can bask in the sun by the sea without fishing. The fisherman said, "but now I am sunbathing by the sea." . "At first glance, this story seems that hardworking fishermen and lazy fishermen get the same happiness, and even lazy fishermen are more comfortable, but in fact, the two kinds of happiness are completely different. Hard-working fishermen get a full and hopeful life, and his happiness is self-confident happiness. The lazy fisherman lives like a pig and has no self-confident happiness at all. For example:

Example a, I just entered the university. I think it's very simple. Junior high school is so bitter. Have fun now. Of course, I can't completely ignore my study. I just need to blend in with the upper middle class. Anyway, everything here is my own decision, without the supervision of teachers and parents. So I don't have to study hard, and sometimes I skip classes and copy my homework, so I have more time to play cards, watch movies, play computers and play all kinds of fashionable things with my buddies. People have a lot of face, and young people prefer to show off. I can show off how familiar I am with a game, how good a movie is, how interesting a place is, how free and easy I am and so on. Pleasure and hard work are natural enemies. When I taste the sweetness of pleasure, I feel that reading and learning are getting harder and harder. I prefer truancy and copying homework. Soon, I can concentrate on what I like (such as playing games, surfing the Internet and reading novels), but it is difficult for me to persist in doing what I am bored with for five minutes (such as reciting English and doing homework). Sometimes I can't help laughing when I see other students studying every day. In fact, I feel very guilty, but on second thought, college is not difficult anyway. I'm so smart, I just need to study hard in a few days to make up for it. I really can't just surprise and study hard before the exam. But this is all imagination. When I want to read a book carefully, I find that my previous fighting spirit is gone and I can't read it. Besides, I left too much homework behind. What others will understand after listening to a class carefully, because I didn't listen to the class and do my homework, so I have to spend several nights reading and digesting it below. What's more, beyond my imagination, there is no medium concept in the university, and the students in front are all working hard, even harder than high school students, so they are proficient in these subjects. Students like us in the back can't read, and neither can we. Watching the classmates in the same dormitory listen carefully every day and discuss topics with teachers in the front row of the classroom, I dare not try to sit in the back row of the classroom; Watching them get up early every day to run and recite, and go to the classroom for self-study every night, there is almost no entertainment. I feel more guilty, inferior, arrogant and chic on the surface, pretending not to care, but I feel like a poor person with nothing in my heart. At the end of the first semester, some of us hedonistic students made up the exam, some barely passed, but that's all. But my self-esteem was hit. I was a top student in high school, and now I'm in this state. This kind of pain is unimaginable. I have to admit, I'm not as good as I thought. In later days, some people didn't realize this situation, or were fired before graduation. I realized that I began to make up my mind to catch up and stop playing, and even insisted on studying harder than the best people. People who are used to pleasure can hardly study hard any more. First of all, my basic knowledge is not solid, and I study harder than others, which means I have to spend more time on the same thing. Followed by "from frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality". On the basis of overcoming my fun, I will concentrate on re-exercising my lost study perseverance. This feeling is no exaggeration, just like a drug addict suddenly giving up drugs; Moreover, my friends are all fun people, so it is difficult to influence each other. My study efficiency is lower than that of top students. They run in the car almost all the time, but I feel like walking, and it is almost difficult to catch up with them more time. What caused me this extremely painful situation was even the relaxation and enjoyment of my first semester for several weeks! It is no exaggeration to say that university competition is like this. Soon, top students get used to studying hard, which is actually the correct attitude towards college life. They can learn more and master more useful skills (such as English conversation, computer, etc.). After graduation, I went abroad for further study and graduate school, and my life is getting better and better. And even if I tried my best, suffered a lot, and chased hard all day, my grades could go up, but some opportunities were lost forever. When I go out into the society and study while working, it is even more difficult and bitter. It is very rare for me to be admitted to graduate school within five years after work. I will spend more time studying hard. When I finally reach a certain level or goal, I may be 35 years old. Sadly, my final goal was achieved by my classmates at the age of 25 (even though my entrance score was lower than mine and my family conditions were worse than mine). That is to say, I am 10 years behind him. You can imagine the comparison between you (a college student) now 18 years old and you (a second-grade primary school student) at 8 years old. Will you be satisfied? I used a few weeks of freedom and happiness for a lifetime of passivity, a lifetime of painful pursuit and a lifetime of regret. Is this happiness?

Example b, you just entered the university. Of course, like most high school students, you have heard of "playing primary school, suffering from middle school and mixing universities". You also think that college study should be much easier than high school, but you have set a lofty ideal for yourself. You know that college is just a small step in your life, and you think that since you have paid expensive tuition, you should try not to waste it. You continue to study according to your own habits, and even feel like you want to see if you have always been a top student in high school. Think about it carefully. I didn't study consciously in high school. Now I am much more free. I can really study hard and see what kind of hard work I can bear. Just try it. So from the first day of school, you insist on attending classes every day, sitting in the front row and listening to the teacher very carefully and taking notes. As a result, you find it very difficult to preview the advanced mathematics the day before. How can you make everything particularly clear and easy to understand according to the teacher's explanation? You see, the teacher has been teaching advanced mathematics for many years. Nothing is more proficient than a teacher in how to digest and understand the difficult things in a book as much as possible. This is much more labor-saving than reading and thinking below. You are proud to find such an effective learning method. After class, according to what you learned in class, you successfully conquered one homework exercise after another. This is such a simple thing that students even copy your homework with an adoring expression. This kind of pride is beautiful. College life is full of choices, such as going to an off-campus Internet cafe with your roommate when you have nothing to do tonight? Or chat and play cards with classmates who have a good relationship? Or do you go to the classroom alone to watch English intensive reading? You know, most people don't choose to go to the classroom, which is why most human beings are mediocre and a few are elite. You are angry with yourself and want to challenge people's inertia, so you insist on studying in the classroom. You will be full and happy when you go back to the dormitory with your schoolbag at night, because you find that you can control your desires and behaviors, because you find that many people in the dormitory look at you with envy. Everyone knows the truth of hard work, but everyone can't do it, so everyone has the pressure to control themselves and overcome inertia. This kind of pressure exists in everyone's heart at all times. When you see a person who can't control himself more than yourself, your pressure is less. When you see people who have more self-control than yourself, you are under great pressure. Your efforts and self-control have brought pressure to most of your classmates. In this case, you are more and more confident and proud, and they are more and more inferior and self-blaming. You will be more like a duck to water, and they will be more on thin ice. Do you think you are happy? In fact, you find that hard work is not necessarily bitter, just a little more restraint and persistence, about a few weeks, absolutely do your best and see what you can do. Soon you will like this sense of accomplishment, which will make you feel rich at any time. Because you are confident that you can work hard, you are not afraid of any challenges and difficulties, and you will be radiant and comfortable because of your confidence. More importantly, you have mastered an invincible magic weapon, that is, diligent habits and good self-control. With this magic weapon, you can easily surpass your classmates, conquer your studies and win self-confidence. And because of the diligent habit, you won't have the kind of hard feeling when you first started working hard, and everything will be solved. With this magic weapon, you will surpass your classmates, by going up one flight of stairs, and you can choose a major (just like in many computer games, you can upgrade at a certain level, and you will gain more abilities and magic weapons if you keep upgrading). After choosing your favorite major, you can become one of the elite again with this magic weapon, and you can surpass and upgrade again. In this way, you will continue to succeed and get opportunities that others don't have, and more and more people will surpass you. In the end, you will stand at the top of the social pyramid. This constant happiness is the real happiness. If you look back at your classmates who were at the same starting line, you will be proud and grateful for your actions, and there will be no pain of regret and guilt. What you have always enjoyed is the happiness of hard work and the happiness of the elite.

Examples A and B are not exaggerations at all. There were many A and B people in the past, present and future, and everyone's starting line was the same. In front of you, many people have chosen A or B. Now, choose for yourself.