The way you talk to your family determines whether you will live a good life or not.

01.

I was invited to attend a relative’s birthday party last weekend. Maybe it was because of the weekend, the parking lot was particularly crowded, and there were densely packed cars parked there. I asked my parents and son who were coming with me to get out of the car first and help me find a parking space.

I walked slowly along with the incoming and outgoing traffic, holding the steering wheel while looking around the parking lot to find a parking space, and saw a car driving out of the parking space not far away.

I was so happy that I occupied that small space with my eyes. I finally squeezed through the heavy traffic and came to the parking space. I saw a car driving into the parking space without any explanation. , and my family was standing next to this parking space, muttering: "This parking space is occupied by us, we want to park."

I finally squeezed in, and saw my hands My parking space was robbed, and I felt annoyed. I spoke to my family a few decibels louder: "What did you three do? Three people can't even manage a parking space. If you want to occupy a parking space, you have to stand." It’s in the parking space, but who would have known it was occupied by you standing outside?”

Don’t bother scolding them, just keep looking for a parking space. Unexpectedly, I walked around the entire parking lot, and there was not a single empty space left. I then went around to the road outside the parking lot, and drove from the east end to the west end of the road. All the marked parking spaces were full. After walking through two big circles, there was no place for me to park my car.

I couldn’t help but feel the same fire just now. If they had been smarter just now, why would I have hit a wall like this!

After walking around for a long time, I finally found an open space behind a yard in the distance and settled the car.

02.

I sat quietly in the car for a while to sort out my emotions. Although it was my family's improper behavior that caused me this little trouble, and I know a little better than them, can I get angry at them? My parents are getting older and their thinking is not so quick; my son still blames me for not taking him out too much, not seeing much of the world, and having poor adaptability.

Thinking about it, you still blame me, and I can’t help but feel a little guilty for the decibel level I just raised. I touched my face with both hands, turning a face full of hostility and anger into a smile like magic. I couldn't help but silently praise myself for calming down the little universe that almost exploded.

There is a saying that goes well: getting angry at family members is the most incompetent sign.

Many people are polite to their friends and speak softly. They are cautious and submissive when speaking to leaders and colleagues at work, for fear of accidentally offending others and losing their jobs.

Only his closest family members are rude and accusatory. That's because he took advantage of his family's tolerance for him, so he would speak harshly to his family so unscrupulously. As everyone knows, your words that hurt your family will be like nails driven through. Even if they are pulled out, they will still leave scars.

A truly capable person is one who makes his family feel comfortable and happy.

03.

I remember I went to pick up my son from school last month. In the car, he told me something about how he was treated unfairly at school. I said you can ask the teacher. But he said with an experienced look on his face: "Do you think school is a place of reason? I have experienced it, and they all blame each other."

I heard him say such depressing words at such a young age. , and retorted to him: "You know a few questions, so you can make a conclusion for the school. I will talk to the teacher tomorrow and see if he can give you another chance."

When my son heard this, I wanted to When I got involved in this matter, I got a little angry and said loudly: "My affairs will be solved by myself. If I had known you were like this, I would not have told you. I will never tell you my affairs in the future."

The two of us started arguing in the car, and everyone was unfriendly. After that, there was silence for a while until we got home.

I went into the kitchen to wash the vegetables, and my son came over and said to me with a guilty look on his face: "Mom, I'm sorry, I had a bad attitude just now. I shouldn't have spoken to you like that. I blamed myself afterwards. "

I am relieved that my son can admit his mistake. In the past, he had a bad temper. He would get angry at us whenever we disagreed. After that, he would become cold-blooded and ignore others. No matter how nice you said, he would always look indifferent. Wait until he is angry.

04.

This is also due to the leading role of my husband. The son's temper has completely been inherited from his father's. When he was young, his husband was famous for his stubborn temper. He would speak irritably and never admit his mistakes. Even though he knew he was wrong in his heart at times, he refused to admit it verbally.

In recent years, my husband has changed the most. While he is learning to speak well and not to get angry at his family, he is also learning to take the initiative to admit his mistakes to Dao Qian. I was surprised by his changes and enjoyed the benefits of his changes.

In the past, we often yelled at home, and my voice was louder than yours. The children also responded to us with this bad attitude. Ever since my husband learned to speak well and be humble, the family has become harmonious and harmonious. Family members treat each other with respect, and if you help me get a tissue, I will also say thank you, and the whole family is polite.

What’s even more gratifying is that my son’s attitude has also changed. He no longer yells at us, his tone is gentle and polite, and he will say things like “I’m sorry, thank you” to us. He talks to us more and more.

When a family talks well, the spouses and even the children benefit. This shows how important it is for a family to speak well. Knowing how to talk well to family members is the highest level of emotional intelligence.

It is said that home is a place where you are unreasonable and unreasonable, and I would like to say that home is also a place where you need to be reasonable. People are not allowed to act willfully or hurt others with their words. Although your family will not turn against you, everything you say will A hurtful word will leave a scar in the heart of the person closest to you.

05.

In those unfortunate families, the quarrels day after day mostly start because they don’t talk well. Bad words uttered just for the sake of quickness will erode the other person's heart with holes, making it difficult to repair it later.

My native family is like this. My father is a person who cannot express love, speak well, and respect others. A good sentence came out of his mouth completely changed, making people extremely uncomfortable.

When my mother accidentally bumped her head, my father would say: "Why are you so careless? You are just reckless." It was obviously a word of concern, but it turned into a sharp sword thrust into my mother's face. Heart. He had been kowtowed on the head, and he felt annoyed. Not only did he not receive any attention, but he was also scolded like this. Naturally, he felt very angry, and his response was of course not good. The two often quarreled and exchanged harsh words. As time passed, my mother lost interest in talking to my father, and could not speak a word for a day. The house was lifeless, and the place that should be warmest became a cold palace.

There is a saying in Qi Pa Shuo: "The wounds caused by speaking are all hidden wounds, which have their own healing effect. If no one wakes them up, they will not know until they die." I deeply believe it.

Although speaking is simple and everyone can say it, how to say it is not a trivial matter. Using barbed words to hurt others may have unpredictable consequences, but using sincere words of praise to warm the world may help people throughout their lives. A kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months. If you have something to say, say it well, give in to others' reasons, and don't be unreasonable and unforgiving.

If husband and wife talk well and make each other feel respected, life will become happier and happier.

Parents' speaking attitude also plays a great role and influence on their children's growth and education. If parents speak well to their children, their children will listen to you and the family will be happy.

To be truly filial to your parents is to speak well to your parents. Follow the wishes of your elders, don’t cause trouble for them, try to meet their psychological needs, and don’t talk back or conflict. A person who is filial to his parents will generally have good luck.

Everyone must learn to speak well, especially to family members, and do not hurt the people closest to them with hidden arrows.

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