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Why do some children get angry when they make mistakes?

Why do parents get angry when some children make mistakes?

When children make mistakes, parents get angry, because parents are weak, burdened with too much anxiety and anxiety, and have unreasonable expectations for their children. When children's behavior does not meet their parents' expectations, those anxious emotions in their hearts will be activated and eventually escalated into anger and anger.

A child is just a mirror. Parents' own mentality, pattern, cognitive style, educational concept, children's view, sound personality and emotional intelligence are all presented in this mirror completely and clearly.

If parents are impatient and anxious, it is difficult to live in the present and accept the real child in front of them;

If parents' cognitive style is negative, they will feel that children have problems everywhere. As long as children have "problems", parents will be angry;

If parents' educational philosophy is that "children need to be taught all the time, or they will go astray if they don't", parents' view of children is that "children are a blank sheet of paper and know nothing. My plan will become him, then parents will exert high authority, often preach to their children, reward, punish, criticize, praise and scold their children, and the upper class will become a warm family.

The more parents want to be "promising" in education, the higher the chance of getting angry in life, because "the higher the expectation, the higher the disappointment". There are many "unreasonable expectations" here, which exceed the expectations that children's age, psychological characteristics and ability characteristics can achieve.

When children deviate from their parents' expectations, their parents' inner frustration will be activated and they will get angry frequently.

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