Control one's consciousness

2020 is a magical year, and it is also a year when many people lose control of many things and even their own lives.

? Why do we sometimes fear uncertainty? One reason is our misunderstanding: we think we can control everything in life, and there is always a logic that I can do whatever I want.

? Back in ancient times, the indifference and unpredictability of nature posed a great threat to human survival. Therefore, for the survival of the race, human beings have created myths and cultural beliefs, telling people that I am important and I can succeed, so as to ensure that individuals have the confidence to confront difficulties, thus stabilizing society and confronting natural uncertainties.

But it has also caused side effects, such as thinking above nature, forgetting the existence of uncertainty, thinking that everything in life should be easy and smooth, and getting used to having a sense of control and control over the outside world. Once things go wrong and get out of your control, you will be anxious, depressed and even lose confidence and belief.

Therefore, it is necessary to correct the misunderstanding of excessive pursuit of external control. Because the world is full of uncertainty, uncertainty is the norm. All we can control is our own consciousness. What we can do in "stimulus-response" is to decide how to react and with what attitude.

? During the epidemic, I was kept at home, unable to understand the development of the virus, and felt powerless. Faced with two failed entrance exams, I found that many things were out of my control. Just like Kafka's Mr. Muffin, he is 25 years old, but he has terminal lung cancer, so he can only laugh at everything that fate has given him.

? In fact, we can't control the result. As the saying goes, man proposes, God disposes. What we can do is to control our consciousness, give up thinking of controlling everything and accept uncertainty. Focus on the present, every moment. Prepare carefully. At the same time, let life have more support points, develop more hobbies, contact others more, and let yourself have stronger anti-vulnerability ability.