When life is depressed, what can I do to get out?

This question is for myself and this friend. For those who have similar problems, let's go back and forth. When life is depressed, what can I do to get out?

Let's talk about the current situation first. It has been two years since the "COVID-19 epidemic" caught us off guard. It seems that we have lost these two years. Everyone stays at home most of the time and can't go anywhere. There are epidemics everywhere. Moreover, this epidemic has an impact on all of us, not only the economy, but also the personal lifestyle. Anyway, it is a big and small influence. Here, young people, even middle-aged people, are old and young. Coupled with the recent wave of "layoffs".

I have two friends who work in a big internet company and were laid off in this wave of layoffs. This kind of life blow will make them very depressed, because some of them are heavily in debt, can't see the future, and are easily confused. And it's the end of the year. It's cold in winter. We should prepare for the New Year and welcome all the big and small things in the new year. Our hearts are indescribable, and we are not driven. This April, I will share some tips on how to get out of this depressed life.

1. Has it bottomed out?

If we feel that our life has been depressed to the lowest point, then we just minimize all our expectations for life, ourselves, others and the world. After that, you will be surprised to find that if we go a little further, we will make progress. If we go a little further, we will get positive feedback and we will be happier.

In this fast-paced era, the stimulation and feedback brought to people are also very fast, so we become more and more impatient, and our inner "threshold" is pulled higher and higher, so we adults often say that it is difficult to be happy now. Why are we so happy and able to enjoy the present without so much trouble and pressure in the past years when the material is far less abundant than this year, or even without the Internet? Today we have so many materials, everything, cars, houses, all kinds of electronic products, and materials are also very rich. We can eat whatever we want and buy whatever we want. But we are getting farther and farther away from happiness. It can be seen that our life has nothing to do with material richness, and it is the same with money.

2. Has the downturn bottomed out?

If our life has not reached this low point, then we are even luckier. At this time, we can make an appropriate "separation", which is both a material separation and a spiritual separation. Get rid of things that have been useless for six months or even longer, say goodbye to them, and try to leave only what we like in life. Emotionally, we also clean up unnecessary emotions and unnecessary people, just like those important people. This needs to be done bit by bit, and this process may be a bit painful, because since we humans have a plan, we have been kidnapping ourselves through constant material to make ourselves feel safe, which is essentially not available. But we focus on less but better, but there is not so much burden and pressure.

We don't have such a strong material desire, so we can manage our finances properly. We don't have that much debt, so cut down some unnecessary expenses. Instead, you can live more easily.