How to greet a bunch of relatives at the door, how to greet them when they meet, and what gifts to bring when they leave.

As the saying goes, "many people don't blame others for being polite." China, known as the "state of etiquette", has been paying attention to etiquette and reciprocity since ancient times. This kind of "ceremony" is not only reflected in meeting and greeting, but also in handling affairs and visiting relatives, and also in various holiday customs. ...

A few days ago, at the "Grass Roots Tan" folk forum held by Nanyang Tang Museum, a group of old Nanyang people talked about the etiquette of Nanyang people. Those unforgettable ceremonies ...

"Have you eaten?" It is a common language used by old Nanyang people to say hello.

Old Nanyang people often greet each other warmly. "Have you eaten?" "Did you have soup?" Sometimes, I will give each other a warm courtesy and verbally invite them to eat at home: "Let's eat at home." This kind of greeting, with a local flavor and intimacy, makes people's feelings close at once.

Li Jinping, a painter, said that the ancients paid great attention to diet, and China's etiquette also paid attention to diet. For example, bronzes are the carriers of traditional food culture in China, and countless bronzes related to food have been handed down. Old Nanyang people meet, but also based on diet. "Usually, they will say,' Have you eaten?' When my nephew calls, the first sentence is often' Uncle, have you had soup?' That sounds very kind. There are fewer such greetings now, because the problem of having enough food has been solved. "

According to Guo, a cultural scholar, there are many manners in eating. For example, adults and children can't move chopsticks when they are on the table, they can't smack their mouths when they eat, they can't knock empty bowls with chopsticks, and they can't clip the dishes they want to eat.

Speak and act with kindness and respect.

China people pay attention to etiquette and face, which is the so-called "comprehensive etiquette", which is reflected in all aspects of daily life.

Cui Jianping, director of Nanyang Tangwangfu Museum, said that when he was a child, he was criticized by adults for some words, such as when menstruation came home. He said, "You're here" and "You're back", which will definitely not be approved. Sometimes, "courtesy" is not only reflected in words, but also in behavior. For example, when he was a child, he rode a bike and got off to say hello when he met someone. Once, the car had a flat tire, and he pushed the car to the garage to find his uncle to repair it. His uncle is very busy, so let him find someone to repair it. The adult who repaired the car teased him and said, "Did you get the gift?" He doesn't understand. At this time, another person who wants to repair the car came and took out a cigarette and handed it to the mechanic. The adult who repaired the car connected the cigarette and said to Cui Jianping, "See? This is a meeting ceremony! " "I have a friend who got off the bus and walked at the village entrance when he returned home, with two packs of cigarettes in his pocket. It is also a sign of humility and etiquette to see people greeting him all the way. " Cui Jianping said.

Jiang Tiehao, a painter, said that the ceremony is comprehensive, and it is often reflected in giving and receiving, and coming instead of being indecent. For example, if relatives come and go, and you visit them with gifts, and they don't come to you, this relationship is usually broken.

Different gifts reflect different customs and habits.

Meeting, shaking hands, bowing, and taking gifts to visit relatives on holidays are all indispensable manners in interpersonal communication. The types of gifts for visiting relatives in old Nanyang are often divided into four-color gifts (four gifts) and eight-color gifts.

Shan, the former trade union chairman of Wanping Expressway, said that in the past, people in the city visited relatives, and in the countryside, they all carried fruit boxes and baskets. There were often vermicelli in them, which meant pandering. Without vermicelli, there was a feeling of breaking relatives. During the Spring Festival, there are often strips of meat in this ceremony, and moon cakes will be given during the Mid-Autumn Festival.

Tan Jiebo, vice chairman of Wancheng Federation of Literary and Art Circles, said that there are four colors and eight colors when visiting relatives. For example, the ceremony of the groom's official sending his father-in-law home is the eight-color ceremony. In addition, people used to give good news when they got married and gave birth to a child. It says "the joy of making tiles" or "the joy of joking", and you can tell at a glance whether it is a boy or a girl. But now many people don't post, just make a phone call or send a WeChat.

Ruoping Zhang, a famous painter, said that etiquette has penetrated into every aspect of our lives for thousands of years, and some of them have become moral norms and codes of conduct. Excellent traditional etiquette should be preserved and passed down, which is of great significance to improve personal moral quality and build a harmonious society.