If you have more than three of the nine characteristics of a good wife, you will find a treasure.

As the saying goes, a good wife at home is not as good as fertile land.

A woman's character cultivation can affect at least three generations.

Whether a family is harmonious or not mainly depends on the women in this family.

Nine characteristics of a good wife. Look at how much she has won in your family.

First, loyalty, responsibility and responsibility

Once a good woman makes a choice, she will be single-minded

A woman nourished by love is as gentle as water;

A woman troubled by resentment is as cold as ice.

A good wife is not only a woman, but also a husband's wife after marriage.

Words and deeds represent not only individuals, but also the image of families.

A good woman knows how to keep a safe distance from other members of the opposite sex after marriage and how to avoid suspicion.

Loyalty is the foundation of marriage.

Second,

Respect and honor, three generations of harmony.

A good wife knows how to respect her elders.

Even if you have problems and contradictions with your in-laws, you know how to avoid confrontation as much as possible and let your husband come forward to solve them.

I won't abandon the old man and let my husband be caught in the middle.

But I won't be timid and bullied.

A good wife knows how to educate her children to be grateful.

Even if there is any contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they will not instigate their children to disrespect the elderly.

There are contradictions between neighbors' mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The child's mother won't let the child call her grandparents. They scold and speak ill of the elderly in front of their children every day. In fact, old people still love children very much.

Every time a child faces her mother and tells her to stay away from her grandparents, she will be at a loss.

In fact, the so-called right and wrong in the adult world are nothing more than different interests and different positions.

If children have to make a choice,

The old man lost the joy of his children and grandchildren around his knees, and the children lost the love of their grandparents, which is not good for anyone.

A wise wife never involves her children in adult conflicts.

Third, alert you at the peak and encourage you at the trough.

A clever wife,

When you get carried away, it will sound the alarm in time.

When you are down and out, you will give words of comfort, encouragement and confidence at the right time.

It is normal for people to stumble, rise and fall in this life.

It's easy to get carried away when you're at the top. Once arrogant, you will climb high and fall hard.

When you are at a low point, you are often disheartened. Once you break this jar, it will be irreversible.

A virtuous wife knows how to hold her husband tightly when he is on cloud nine and give him a push when he is depressed.

A confused wife only knows how to urge, nag, complain and dig blindly, killing her husband's reason, fighting spirit and confidence bit by bit.

If you have a good wife at home, if the alarm is on the side, if you are behind the mountain, your husband is not prone to accidents.

In traditional Chinese medicine, Zhao's wife usually accuses him of being worthless and incompetent, and wants her husband to get ahead. Once something goes wrong, she blames her husband for his recklessness.

It's all her fault anyway.

Appropriate encouragement can be the driving force for people to forge ahead.

The encouragement of ignorance may be the curse of death.

Fourth, little women outside, big women at home.

A good wife is a little woman outside, but a big woman at home.

When you are away, save face and establish an image.

Life is not easy, and sometimes it is inevitable that men will dine and feast outside.

A smart wife won't "shout for life" when you socialize with clients, she will often rely more on you when she participates in activities with you, and she won't poke her when you occasionally brag.

At home, smart women know how to "command" their husbands and enhance their feelings.

This kind of "pointing fingers" is actually not to command or instruct you to work, but to increase the interaction between husband and wife.

Talking and laughing, fighting, while eliminating fatigue and relaxing, the two will be closer.

A good wife helps half her husband at home.

Such a wife, even if she can't give you much support in her career, will be a strong spiritual support for you.

Fifth, don't turn over old scores when quarreling.

When a rational wife quarrels, she will talk about the matter.

A conscientious wife often turns over old scores when quarreling.

There will inevitably be differences and quarrels in life.

A wise wife seldom turns over old scores when quarreling, because one thing is easy to solve. If they turn over the old scores, they may not finish talking for three days and nights. The more they talk, the angrier and noisier they get.

"What you did last time was wrong."

"Last year that ..."

"How many times have you made? How can it be so useless? "

"Waste, it's useless."

……

Impulsive angry words are like spilled water, but they can never be collected.

When some wives get angry, they cry, make trouble, hang themselves, dig up the accounts of these years, and even go back to their parents' house to call relatives and friends to criticize their husbands. It may be a trivial matter at first, but in the end, it is well known and it is impossible to close the case.

A wise wife talks about the matter, does not turn over old scores, and will not implicate your relatives innocently. This kind of quarrel comes and goes quickly.

The young couple had problems and tried to solve them themselves behind closed doors.

In the final analysis, what everyone wants is to solve the problem, not to aggravate it.

6. Don't expose your weaknesses in front of outsiders and embarrass your husband.

Intimacy between husband and wife does not mean that you can trample on each other's dignity at will.

A smart wife will maintain your image in front of others, while a confused wife will take pleasure in telling others your shortcomings.

I saw a video.

At the wedding, the bride counted the shortcomings and shortcomings of the groom, saying that he was so stingy that he washed the toilet several times together, and even publicly told private things such as the defects of husband and wife's life.

The bride originally wanted to express that she still loved each other under various unfavorable conditions and chose to marry him, but forgot to take care of each other's self-esteem.

Finally, the groom called off the wedding and left angrily.

A good relationship is not how good two people are, nor what two people have sacrificed for each other, but that two people respect each other and are willing to protect each other, and two gentle hearts are warm to each other.

You may not like it, and you may even hate it, but that doesn't mean you can not respect it.

Seven, don't gossip, don't make irresponsible remarks.

Some women seem to be born to gossip. If they just talk about unimportant things, forget it. But if they get together to gossip and gossip behind others' backs, not only will there be discord at home, but also between neighbors.

Smart women know very well that those who are right or wrong are mostly right or wrong.

Oriental parents are short-sighted and seemingly chatting, but it is inevitable that there will be false information, which will damage the image of others and may even cause greater harm to others.

Smart women want to enrich themselves when they are free, instead of getting together every day to say right and wrong to pass the time.

Whether other people's business is good or bad is other people's business, and it is useless to discuss yourself more.

Smart women will live a stable and happy life if they don't "gossip", live in harmony with each other and help each other.

Eight, good temper, big measurement.

A clever wife knows how to control her temper in trivial matters.

Good temper, big measurement, but there are bottom lines and principles in doing things.

The elders said it was heavy, the children were disobedient and playful, and the husband threw away his smelly socks again. ...

If you study it carefully, you may be angry all the time.

The emotional solution will never solve any problems, but will make the family full of resentment every day.

A clever wife knows how to turn a blind eye, so that big things can be reduced to small things.

I trust my husband, too, instead of being paranoid every day, turning over my mobile phone and checking each other's privacy in private.

My best friend is usually angry about a little thing, but the other half will be fine, and the contradiction will not last overnight.

If you throw things easily, cry and hang yourself, and hurt people who spoil you for a long time, you will be tired.

If the other side gives in, enough is enough.

Such a wife, even if there are contradictions at home, will soon pass.

Nine, spiritual independence

Do men like women who are obedient to themselves, or women who are mentally independent and have their own opinions when things go wrong?

Many men may choose the former.

But in fact, having a mentally independent wife is a long-term blessing in your life.

An independent wife has her own ideas and opinions and her own principles of dealing with people. They are not easily influenced by other people's opinions, they are efficient and know how to constantly improve themselves.

She won't depend on you for everything, let alone listen to you. She will treat you as a companion rather than a man's accessory.

Such a wife holds up half the sky at home and supports this family with you.

When you can't make up your mind, when you are at a loss, she will be the one to help you and walk side by side with you.

There is a joke in Tik Tok.

It's about a man showing off his wife, which is very reassuring. He earns his own money, the baby brings his own food, and the old man takes care of himself, regardless of anything.

Another person said: Do you know what such a woman is called here? Call it a widow.

Many men want their wives to be beautiful and capable, and at the same time, they want their wives to take care of their families and careers, be financially independent, and the most important thing is to be obedient, not to fight or scold.

In this regard, I just want to say to such a man: leave others alone, you don't deserve it.

Whether your wife is financially independent or not, if she is mentally independent and has her own opinions, you should be lucky to find the treasure.

Good couples achieve each other, and bad couples tear each other down.

If there is a woman in the family who is doing nothing all day and complaining,

Good-natured people will collapse and their families will not be at peace.

Similarly,

If a man can't do it, he can't do anything in his career, and he also orders his wife and children around him. If there is a contradiction between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law, he only cares about himself all day.

When you meet such a man, even the best woman will be forced to be a bitch and a dissatisfied housewife.

No one is perfect, and living is not just a matter for two people.

This is a trivial matter, but it is not a trivial matter.

The wife understands that it is not easy for her husband to earn money, and the husband should also feel sorry for his wife's contribution.

When there is love, care and sharing between husband and wife,

No matter how hard and tired you are, you feel sweet;

When two people care more and pay less,

No matter how good the day is, it will be very hard.

When you meet a good wife or husband, you must cherish it.