High emotional intelligence refuses to eat?

Why do you need to be smart? If you don't want to go, you don't want to go. In many cases, it is more appropriate to go straight than to beat around the bush. You know, the straight line between two points is the shortest. If you complicate things, it's easy to screw them up. Once it is broken, the problem will be serious. Here are several cases to illustrate how to deal with this situation.

Between suitors, it is assumed that the suitors find themselves for dinner, but they don't want to go, but they don't want to hurt each other, so they want to politely refuse each other's invitation. Then the problem comes. I politely refused the other person, but if my behavior gives the other person a wrong signal and you are testing him, I will continue to invite you in the future, then the easiest way is to refuse him directly and tell him not to waste his mind on himself, so he won't be with him. Although it hurts, it is the most appropriate way, which is good for both of us.

Between friends, if they are friends, there is absolutely no need to use clever methods. You invited me to dinner because we have a good relationship, and I refused you because I didn't treat you as an outsider. What's the use of finding those futile excuses? Just tell your friend the reason why you don't want to go. If you have some moths, it will easily lead to alienation between friends. Instead of this, just say the reason. If the reason is sufficient, your friend will not be forced to do so.

Colleagues will inevitably encounter some workplace entertainment, especially group building. In this case, many people in the workplace are reluctant to participate, mainly because they are embarrassed to go, and it will be annoying and embarrassing to let leaders talk about their work through dinner. But so what? If you are in this team and enterprise, you must face these problems. This is not a question you hate or like, but you must participate, so you can't refuse this kind of thing. Once rejected, it is easy to be excluded by leaders and isolated by colleagues.