Being famous is not to let others see you, but to let others be kind to you.

Being famous is not to let others see you, but to let others be kind to you.

Fame, this thing, is an understanding that you show yourself and let the outside world know about yourself. The formation of word of mouth, some things you do, let others automatically form the impression, some things you operate or use the influence of public opinion to intentionally let others form the impression.

Being famous is the appearance, being a man is the connotation. People can't pretend for a lifetime, so it is fundamental to have a good reputation and be a good person. Some people cherish feathers and attach great importance to what others think of them, that is, as the saying goes, "people want face, trees want skin" and so on. There's nothing wrong with that. It is necessary to establish our own excellent personnel. However, there is really no need to care too much about this thing, because it is like being led by fame. Smart people have always used fame as a tool. They regard fame as a way for others to look at and treat themselves. They create a word of mouth, so that a large number of people who can't contact them can find and contact themselves through this word of mouth. In this sense, reputation is a selective channel, that is, as the saying goes, "Birds of a feather flock together."

The most famous figures in the late Qin Dynasty were Xiang Yu and Liu Bang. Let's look at their reputation.

Liu Bang, Ji Zi, started his army in Pei County. His nose is very high, his forehead protrudes like a dragon's forehead, and there are 72 moles on his left thigh. Be kind and generous to people, like to give money and property to others, open-minded, always ambitious, unwilling to engage in ordinary people's daily farm work. At first, Liu Bang was the curator of Surabaya Pavilion, and his single father Lv Gong liked to look at faces. Seeing Liu Bang's appearance, I felt unusual and married my daughter. When Liu Bang escorted the laborers to Mount Li as a curator, everyone ran halfway. Seeing this, Liu Bang wanted to let the rest of the people go, saying, "You all go, and I'll run for my life from now on!" " "These workers see liu bang so loyal, a dozen people together to revolt.

It is said that once Liu Bang was drunk and walked at night, when he met a big white snake, he immediately drew his sword and killed it. An old woman cried and said, "My son was Bai Di's son, but now he was killed by Chi Di's son!" " Then he suddenly disappeared. Liu bang fled and hid in the mountains and rivers where strange phenomena often appeared. Most young people in Pei County want to join him after hearing the news.

When Chen Sheng went to war, Peixian county magistrate planned to raise the city to respond. Records of Xiao He and the supervisor said, "As an official of the Qin Dynasty, now you want to betray the imperial court and lead the youth in Pei County. I'm afraid they won't listen to your orders. I hope you can gather people who have fled abroad and get hundreds to threaten the public so that they will not dare to disobey. " The magistrate ordered Fan Kuai to call Liu Banglai to see him. At this time, there are hundreds of people in Liu Bang Department. The magistrate regretted it afterwards, worried about what would happen if Liu Bang and others were called, so he ordered to close the city gate and defend the city to kill Xiao He and Cao Can. Xiao and Cao were frightened and went out of the city to Liu Bang. Liu bang wrote some encouraging words on silk, shot an arrow at the city and said that Chen was interested. The elders led the younger generation to kill the county magistrate, opened the gate to meet Liu Bang, and made him "Pei Gong". Xiao He and Cao Can called Peixian youth for Liu Bang, with 3,000 people, to respond to warlords' resistance to Qin.

Xiang Liang, the son of General Xiang Yan of Chu, fled to Wuzhong with his brother's son Xiang Yu in order to avoid the enemy. When Xiang Yu was a teenager, he studied cultural knowledge. If you can't learn, you won't learn. He went to practice sword again, without success. Xiang Liang was very angry about it. Xiang Yu said, "You can write, write your name! Learning sword is only the courage of every man, and it is not worth learning. Learn to learn the skills of ten thousand enemies! " Xiang Liang taught Xiang Yu the art of war, and Xiang Yu went to heaven, but after learning the general idea of the art of war, he refused to learn. Xiang Yu is more than eight feet long, can lift the tripod, and his talent is beyond the average person. Yin Tong, the satrap of Huiji County, wanted to send his troops to respond to Chen Sheng after hearing the news of Chen Sheng's crusade against Qin, so Xiang Liang and Huanchu command post launched military forces, and Xiang Liang tricked Xiang Yu into beheading Yin Tong. Xiang Liang carried the chief's head and wore his official seal. The attendants and guards of the county magistrate panicked and were at a loss. After being killed by Xiang Yu, hundreds of people lay on the ground in fear, and no one dared to get up. Xiang Liang then withdrew from Wuzhong, and ordered people to collect Ding Zhuang from the counties under the county, and got 8,000 chosen men. Xiang Liang was appointed as the governor of Huiji County, Xiang Yu as the lieutenant, and Zhen Fu County as the county. Xiang Yu is 24 years old at this time.

In the past, Chen Ying, an official of Dongyang County, lived in the county seat and was always honest and cautious, so she was called an elder. Young people in Dongyang County killed the county magistrate and rallied 20,000 people to support King Chen Ying. So, Chen Ying's mother said to Chen Ying, "Since I became your daughter-in-law, I have never heard of any prominent figures in your ancestors. The sudden fame now is not a good sign. It is better to be attached to others, so that things can be sealed if they succeed, and it is easy to escape if things fail. " Chen Ying didn't dare to be the king, and said to his ministers, "Xiang's family has been the door for generations and enjoys a good reputation in Chu. If you want to do great things now, you must be such a general. " We rely on noble families, and the demise of the Qin Dynasty is certain! "His men listened to his words, namely the troops to Xiang Liang command.

Xiang Liang sent Xiang Yu to attack Xiangcheng, but Xiangcheng stuck to it and could not attack it for a while. After the fall, Xiang Yu will bury all the soldiers and civilians guarding the city alive, and then return to Xiang Liang.

After Chen Sheng's death, Xiang Liang listened to Fan Zeng, a 70-year-old man. In order to unite people, he found Chu Huaiwang's grandson Xinmi, who was herding sheep for others and named him Chu Huaiwang and Wu Xinjun himself. Later, because he looked down on Qin Jun, he was defeated in Dingtao and killed by Qin Jun.

At the beginning of the army, Chu Huaiwang agreed with the generals: "Whoever breaks into Guanzhong first is the king of Guanzhong." At that time, Qin Jun was still very strong, and no one wanted to attack the customs westward. Only Xiang Yu was dissatisfied with Qin Jun's killing of Xiang Liang and flew into a rage. He is willing to enter the customs with Liu Bangxi. The veterans in Chu Huaiwang all said, "Xiang Yu is brave, cunning and cruel. When attacking Xiangcheng, all the soldiers and civilians were buried alive. Wherever he passed, he was killed and destroyed. Besides, the Chu army attacked several times, and the former Chen Sheng and Xiang Liang all failed. Therefore, it is better to reassign honest and sophisticated elders, take benevolence and righteousness as the call, lead the army westward and explain the truth to the Qin brothers. The brothers of Qin suffered from the tyranny of their monarch for a long time. If a generous elder can really get there now, he will not invade or bully, and Guanzhong should be captured. The item can't be sent, but Liu Bang has always been generous and has the temperament of an elder, so he can send it. " Chu Huaiwang did not agree to Xiang Yu's request, but sent Liu Bangxi to seize the land and took in Chen Sheng and Xiang Liang's stragglers to attack Qin Jun.

Liu Bang led his troops to Yangcheng and Bali, attacked Qin Jun Camp, defeated the two armies in Qin Jun, and defeated Dong Jun County Commandant in Chengwu.

Liu bang attacked Changyi, but failed to capture it. He led the army westward and passed through Levin. Laiwen was addicted to delicious food, with a poor family and poverty, and became a petty official who looked after the inner door. One of Liu Bang's cavalry happened to be a fellow villager of Shi Li. When Shi Li saw him, he said to him, "There are dozens of princes and generals passing by Levin. I found that these generals are narrow-minded, so they are stuck in red tape, self-righteous, and can't listen to enlightened and ambitious remarks. I also heard that Liu Bang has no shelf and no foresight. This is really the person I want to make friends with, but unfortunately no one introduced me. If you see Liu Bang, tell him:' There is a Li Sheng in my hometown, who is in his sixties and is eight feet tall. People call him a crazy student. But he himself said, "I'm not crazy." "The cavalry said," repeatedly don't like Confucian scholars. Whenever a guest comes wearing a Confucian hat, Pei Gong always takes off his hat and urinates in it. I often swear when talking to people. So you can't lobby him as a Confucian scholar. " Li Shiqi said, "Just tell him these words." The cavalry calmly conveyed their entrustment to Liu Bang.

When Liu Bang arrived at Levin's guest house, he sent for Shi Li to see him. At this time, Liu Bangzheng sat on the bed and asked two women to wash his feet. Li Qi's food came in, but he just made a greeting, didn't bow and kneel, and said, "Do you want to help the Qin Dynasty attack the vassal States, or do you want to lead all the princes to defeat the Qin Dynasty?" Liu Bang scolded: "An ignorant Confucian scholar! People all over the world suffered from the tyranny of the Qin dynasty for a long time, so countries began to attack the Qin dynasty. How can it be said that it is to help the Qin Dynasty crack down on princes! " Li Shiqi said: "If you really want to gather the masses, join the just army and crusade against the tyrannical and heartless Qin Dynasty, you should not meet the old people so insolently!" Liu bang then stopped washing his feet, got up and arranged his clothes, seated Li in the VIP table and apologized to him. Shi Liqi narrated the history of the six countries united with Lian Heng.

Liu bang is very happy. He gave Ali a meal and then asked, "What do you think I should do next?" Li Shiqi said, "You started the uprising with a mob and gathered some stragglers with less than 10,000 troops, so you want to directly attack the powerful Qin Dynasty. It's like grabbing a tiger's mouth with your hand! Chen Liu is the hub of the world, extending in all directions. Now the city stores a lot of food, and I happen to have a good friendship with county magistrate Chen. Please let me send Chen Liu to persuade him to surrender to you. If he doesn't listen to advice, you will lead the troops to attack the city, and I will be the inside. " Liu Bang then sent Shi Li, followed by his own army, immediately surrendered to Liu Chen and appointed Shi Li as Hongjun. Li Shiqi told these things to his brother Li Shang. At that time, Li Shang gathered young people and got 4 thousand people to return to Liu Bang. Liu Bang appointed Li Shang as a general and ordered him to lead Liu Chen's army. Shi Li often acted as a lobbyist and sent envoys to various vassal States.

Personality is the first impression, and most people will take it as the first step of someone's image. Because character shows a person's behavior, and it is a certain reaction of a certain character to what others can foresee. Personality is not isolated, a person will not show his personality without communicating with others, so personality characteristics are the basis of a person's reputation. Liu Bang shows generosity, no love for money, helpfulness and ambition, and these things have a good reputation and can gather people's hearts. Xiang Yu also has his own personality characteristics. He doesn't like writing, he is decisive in fighting, fearless and fierce. He gives the impression that he is a brave soldier. There is no good or bad personality, but different personalities can achieve different careers. Personality lets people know that your behavior patterns are predictable. People prefer certain things to uncertain things, but there are still many uncertain things in this world.

Birth is also a big part of a person's reputation, because in some cases, birth determines what you can and can't do. Xiang Liang and Xiang Yu are descendants of the late general Chu Wang, so they can foster a puppet Chu Wang to give orders. Chen Ying was born in an ordinary family. Although she dared to revolt, she dared not be king. Liu bang was born in a bad family, and he could not go it alone after the success of the uprising, but he was smart and his background was infinitely upgraded, relying on public opinion. He made up a story and turned himself into Chi Di's son. No one saw the white snake killed except himself. The so-called vision is also around the barren hills, and few people see it. Three people make a tiger, everyone says so, and it slowly becomes true. But he didn't dare to be king at first, so he just called him "Pei Gong". Later, he obeyed the unified orders of Xiang Liang and the King of Chu and fought against the State of Qin. Fame determines many things, and there are endless hidden dangers in thinking. Of course, birth can't determine everything, and Liu Bang, who was born at the bottom, can still succeed.

What you do, especially influential things, will be remembered by others and bring corresponding reputation to individuals according to the cultural environment at that time. In the cultural environment at that time, the dead were normal and the slaughter was normal. Liu Bang also slaughtered a city from time to time, but Xiang Yu's massacre of a city's soldiers and civilians was unforgettable, because it was too cruel and did not conform to mainstream values. It is not a good reputation to be labeled as cunning and cruel, because people dare not use him because of uncontrollable behavior. So don't do anything wrong and discredit yourself. Once an impression is formed, it is difficult to change it.

Consciously spreading some rumors about people and things can naturally attract corresponding people to come and take refuge. Liu Bang said that he didn't like Confucian scholars. He did something out of line to strengthen people's impression, because when the war was turbulent, what he needed most was people who could fight. At the same time, capable and courageous Confucian scholars will not give up the opportunity to take refuge because of such rumors. This is equivalent to setting a threshold, which means that Confucian scholars full of benevolence, righteousness and morality should not come. I need people who can use it. This is what Shi Li looks like. If you look right, you can naturally overlap. Fame is something that can be manipulated. Everything is for the overall strategic goal and the current practical needs. Liu bang can be said to be very proficient.

No matter how you whitewash your reputation, it is still based on being a man. You can't hide who you are and how you do things. There is a saying that "the eyes of the masses are discerning", because people are social people, and in the process of having relations with the outside world, they must have their own styles different from others. If someone knows how to pretend, he is definitely a great man who can pretend for a lifetime. Fame will change with the change of personal status, because people's behavior will change accordingly, and people have different requirements for people with different status. Being a man is fundamental. For example, some people say that Xiang Yu is an elder like Liu Bang and no one will believe him. Shi Li-Qi said that dozens of governors passed by Levin. He found that these generals are narrow-minded, rigid in red tape, self-righteous, and can't listen to the lofty rhetoric. He also heard that Liu Bang had no shelf and was far-sighted. These things can't make people think like this. You have to really do it.

In short, people can't help but care about their own reputation, because reputation is the channel for the outside world to know themselves and communicate with themselves. People should not be tired of fame, but also know how to control and use it for themselves. The channel is for people. Being a man is fundamental, seemingly so, worthy of the name. In order to create a good image, we must do something to maintain it. Within the scope of operation, we should set a reputation according to the goal and achieve the goal through reputation.