How to spend a good year with parents and family?

Migrant workers can only go home three or four times a year. Their parents worked hard to raise them for 20 years and left home just after independence. As the ancients said, parents do not travel far. And our generation, especially those who went to college, often choose to leave their hometown and stay in big cities for a better life after graduation. If you can't take care of your parents on weekdays, the New Year will be a good opportunity to get along with your parents.

However, it is a great pity that in many families, there are often great problems in communication between the two generations. "The first day smells good, the second day stinks, and the third day runs away from home" is a common state of many children at home. "Happy to go home for the New Year, full of resentment and running away from home" and "noisy at the end of the year" have made many families with bad parent-child relationships worse.

Considering that the older generation generally can't communicate, the important task of regulating parent-child relationship naturally falls on our younger generation.

Therefore, I hereby present the cheats of "A Must-read Guide for the New Year-Coaxing Parents" summarized from more than 20 years of practice. I hope I can help you spend a smoke-free Spring Festival.

Coaxing parents should adhere to two principles, one is active dedication, and the other is harmony.

Offer many details before, during and after the year. Harmony is the most important thing, that is, to avoid quarreling when encountering contradictions. Details are as follows:

1. Donated years ago.

Call your parents in advance before the Spring Festival and ask them what they need to buy. If the budget is relatively large, you can buy some gifts according to the preferences of your parents and elders. Buy some tea, cigarettes and alcohol for my father, and some skin care products and jewelry for my mother. Although my parents say no, they are people who go out to show off in the blink of an eye.

Go home and take the initiative to share housework. Cleaning, cleaning windows and washing curtains can be done. Like my family, I am tall, and I do all the work of opening and washing curtains.

Those who can cook take the initiative to cook, those who can't cook take the initiative to wash dishes, or parents help to cook New Year's Eve, pick vegetables and cut vegetables, whatever.

2. Positive actions in the middle of the year

Don't be urged by your parents to visit relatives. Greet them warmly when you see them. Ask relatives questions with enthusiasm and sincerity, and don't disturb others. Don't hide in the corner and play mobile phones at relatives' homes. Take the initiative to chat and socialize with relatives.

Treat guests at home, be the host, take the initiative to take slippers, pour water, play cards with relatives and friends, and help with the children. Give play to your strengths, share them with your parents and give them face.

If necessary, make a blind date actively, express sincere thanks to the introducer, and don't make excuses to shirk it. It is embarrassing not to show reluctance. The reason for refusing should be sincere, and don't prevaricate the introducer with reasons such as too big face and too old shoes. You should also show your parents the attitude of "I want to, too, I'm trying, but I haven't succeeded yet". Be patient and don't quarrel. For details, please refer to the question "What should I do if I quarrel every New Year?"

3. Do a good job in the aftermath after the year.

Generally, it will be all right after the New Year. Facing parting, it is more or less lonely. At this time, letting parents cook something to take away can dilute the sadness of parting. Let parents feel their unique and irreplaceable position in our hearts.

After I left home, I took the initiative to call my parents to report that I got home safely and cared about my parents.

School, career and marriage have made progress in at least one aspect.

4. Actively communicate and mediate contradictions.

For some temporary conflicts, take a step back and broaden the horizon. If you want to pay a New Year call to your second aunt, or forget to buy anything, you should keep the word "forbearance" in mind and focus on solving problems.

For some structural conflicts, the strategy of "active communication and heartfelt" is adopted. For example, why not find a partner, why not take the postgraduate entrance examination, why go abroad, and so on. This kind of conflict generally comes from the ignorance of the other party. As a junior, if you take the initiative to speak your mind instead of playing with your mobile phone behind closed doors, you will start to speak if you disagree, and at the same time guide your parents to speak their minds. So many conflicts will be self-defeating.

By doing the above, you can basically give your parents a good New Year experience. Children come all the way to worry about their parents, so they can worry less when they are not at home during the New Year. When we are outside, we can worry less.