Talking about depression, staying in the room for a long time and not wanting to go out.

You may not believe me. People who don't come out will feel that their predicament is both desperate and real. Even if others say they can change it, they won't believe it:

1, patients with depression have cognitive bias and don't know it, and think the difficulty is too serious. Actually, it's not. When you recover, you will find that everything you are worried about at this time is nothing to be afraid of.

2, long-term depression, life out of control, let oneself feel frustrated, powerless, should be learned helplessness, this is a kind of thinking inertia, in fact, it is an illusion, we must consciously break this vicious circle.

3, closed-loop thinking, set up a maze for yourself, how to get out, there is no way out, once you want to break the game, modify the rules of the game, you will be trapped.

This is just a life card. If you make up your mind, rush out and break a link, the situation will open.

Friends with depression either live in the past or live in the future.

some advice

1, accept everything brought by depression, the past interpersonal relationship has been destroyed by yourself, and if it is destroyed, it will be destroyed. They are all passers-by, and the old will not come.

2. Strive for economic independence as soon as possible, and keep a distance from families of vicious origin. If it is a vicious family, give up the illusion that parents should love themselves. Love is an ability. Parents like that don't have this ability at present. Love yourself.

3. It is normal to be confused about the future, even for friends who are not depressed. Set yourself a goal, only for a short time. For example, the process of taking some certificates and preparing for exams is also to hone and enrich your opportunities, take exams for civil servants and positions. , or find a professional counterpart. Success or failure is not important. The key is to try, starting with simple exams, such as teacher's certificate, tour guide's certificate and law exam.

4, the current interpersonal relationship, can be handled well, even if it is not handled well, just try your best, don't ask too much of yourself, social skills will recover after recovery, even if it is not handled well, it is no big deal, in fact, most social activities are useless.

Yes, there is nothing wrong with entertaining yourself, which saves a lot of trouble. Loneliness is also a kind of enjoyment.

5, be sure to go to bed early and get up early, balanced nutrition is very important, and poor health will really affect the mood and make people more negative.

6, as for personality defects, personality imperfections, don't worry, even if people are not depressed, most of them have this problem, more or less, change takes time, perseverance, cruelty, don't rush, take your time, spiritual growth takes a lifetime.

time

7. Don't compare with others and consciously change your thinking habits. Everyone is a special existence. Others' lives have nothing to do with themselves. Find the life you want and pursue it. People's growth is not linear, no matter what the reason.

After several twists and turns, as long as the general direction is upward, don't compare with others, just surpass yourself.

8. Most friends with depression are mentally immature, and their parents may be mentally immature and unable to give themselves the necessary guidance and unconditional love.

There is no savior in the world, and self-reliance is the only solution.

Read more books, guide yourself and adjust your three views, and you will mature.

Exercise more, increase your hobbies, pay more attention to the outside world, pay attention to life, and pay less attention to your depression as far as possible. Time is a good medicine. Sometimes, even if you do nothing, things change quietly.

9. Learn mindfulness and concentration at least once a day.

Depressed friends are generally inattentive and inattentive, which is a symptom of depression and can be changed. Meditate and do yoga.

After improving concentration, learning efficiency will also improve.

the road less traveled

The power of moment

These two books must be read.

Remember, what you think of despair at present is actually an illusion, not a way to go, but your cognitive deviation will take it to extremes.

Believe me, after my recovery, my opinion will completely change. Stick to it and don't give up.

Pay attention to the present, pay attention to the present, pay attention to the present

Accept what cannot be changed, and change what can be changed.

The only way to solve anxiety is to act immediately.

Take action, even if you make a little change, even if you take a small step.

Accept everything about you.

No matter what the world is, accept it.

good luck