Lugu Lake —— The "Walking Marriage" Temptation of the Mysterious Daughter Country (Ⅱ)

Mosuo people, people independent of 56 ethnic groups.

Walking marriage is a unique marriage custom of Mosuo people.

Different from other ethnic groups, Mosuo people will hold a grand adult ceremony when their children 13 years old. Boys and girls who accept the ceremony should stand under the pillars of grandma's house, put on children's clothes and put on adult clothes. Since then, their identity has changed from boys and girls to boys and girls, or men and women.

At the bar mitzvah, girls get two most important things. One is a pleated skirt made by my mother, with 365 folds, representing 365 days a year; One is a silver belt made by my uncle himself.

A woman will have at least two silver belts in her life. First of all, it was made by my uncle, who personally brought it to her at the bar mitzvah, about two fingers wide. The second is that when a woman is pregnant, her man calls her, at least three fingers wide, and the width of the belt represents the degree to which his man loves him. If someone goes out with five fingers or a wider belt, I think many people will envy him.

Different from girls, all adult gifts for boys were given to him by my uncle, including a knife, a belt and a hat. And these, as you will know in a moment, are definitely practical strategic targets, because they affect boys' later life to some extent.

After the bar mitzvah, these boys and girls can fall in love freely, and relatives at home will not interfere in this respect. But in the outside world, parents who can accept children falling in love and have children after 13 years old are much more open.

If a boy meets a girl he likes, he will take a special courtship way-hold the girl's palm tightly for three times. This is equivalent to what we call confession, but their confession is silent. At this time, if the girl doesn't want to associate with this boy, then the girl doesn't need to respond and the boy won't pester her (I think the boy over there is really literate). And if the girl likes this boy equally, she will give him a triple rebate, which means "we can try".

Here, it's time for boys to be happy and miserable, because it's time to climb the flower floor.

① Hualou. Every Mosuo family will have at least one greenhouse, and more than 13 women will live on the second floor. Their room is also called the greenhouse. So a family will have many greenhouses.

② Why do you want to "climb" the flower building? Climbing the flower floor is a standard to test a man's physical fitness and whether he is willing to pay for a woman. In Mosuo custom, only on the second day after the child is born will the woman's family know who the father of the child and the man of the girl are. So before that, men come to women to avoid the girl's uncle and dog, sneak into the girl's greenhouse from outside after dark at night, and leave before dawn. This process may last for many years, until two people feel that there is no need to contact. Perhaps you will wonder, two people, from the realization of having children, climb the flower floor for such a long time, to ensure that they will not be found? I can only tell you this. First, among Mosuo people, no one is interested in knowing who the girl's boyfriend is, and will not deliberately observe it. 2. In case the family really finds out. Then people who find it will pretend not to see anything and will not spread it around.

There are so many greenhouses in a family, how can a man enter the girl's room he likes? Of course, you can't climb whichever you want. People like that are either thieves or hooligans. When two people shake hands and decide to stay together for a period of time, they will agree on a secret code, no matter whether the cat barks or the dog barks, as long as the girl can recognize the secret code when the boy goes to the girl's house to open the window of the greenhouse. So boys can locate their lover's house.

My uncle's adult gift began to play. The girl opened the window, the boy threw the long belt on the shed, and the girl helped tie it to a strong post for the boy to climb up. For the first time, boys have an important thing to do, that is, declare sovereignty: put the knife on the window beam and hang their own hats. This means that this woman is in love with me, so others should not covet it, and through this, the girl's family will know that her child is in love. At this time, the elders at home should closely observe the girl's physical changes, because at a moment you don't know, maybe two people will get pregnant after marriage. After a girl is pregnant, the labor process should be appropriately reduced.

At the beginning of the flower climbing building, two people chatted in the room and got to know each other. If they find that they don't get along, the boys will take their knives and hats and stop climbing the flower floor. If after a period of time, I think two people can be sure to be together and their relationship can be determined, then they can have a relationship.

Learn to ask when you see this. Aren't you getting married? Didn't you get the certificate? Don't you set the wine? Don't you accept red envelopes? I'm telling you, none of this. In the Mosuo people's worldview, their own beliefs are much more important than the law. They believe that the relationship between husband and wife is through a comb, a silver comb made by a man himself. After that, the woman will put this comb in her head to show "I am married". If one day either of them decides not to continue this marriage, the woman will put the comb next to the window where the man came in, which means that we broke up, and the man will understand what this means and walk away with the comb and hat. Or if a man wants to break up, he wants his comb back. This is definitely not a petty thing, because it is a token. This is a good reunion and a good breakup. Marriage is that simple.

When a woman is pregnant, a man will give her a silver belt. "Silver" is very important in the Mosuo world. Both men and women should wear it. On the one hand, the silver belt can protect the waist and warm the palace, and it can also reflect the physical changes of women. If there is a health problem, the silver belt will cool and darken. If the belt is hot and bright, it means that women are healthy. The woman's family can guess the number of children by observing the change of the belt, and then take some necessary measures.

Most importantly, I want to tell you that Mosuo people are not polygamous or polygamous, nor can they change spouses at will. Although they have not gone through legal procedures, you should believe that in the hearts of believers, the word "faith" is more important than anything else.

Moreover, as Mosuo people gradually integrate into the modern world, their ideas are also changing. Although 13 years old will still hold a rite of passage, many parents will choose to let their children receive school education after that. Although in the girl country, the education level is still very backward, teachers are badly needed, and it is difficult for children to go to middle school, but they still expect their children to have a better future than them.