When people reach middle age, this is how couples get along.

Brush a Tik Tok, Wang Siwen said at the "Tucao Conference":

"Is there a pure friendship between men and women? I think there is. My husband and I are. "

It's funny to get countless praises and messages, but I really feel the same way.

I used to suffer from loss and gain in my marriage. I loved each other and killed each other. I have a wonderful feeling of missing someone and want to strangle this person a hundred times. Now I turn a blind eye to it.

When people reach middle age, our marriage doesn't need romance. Passion is gone forever, and most middle-aged couples are "fearful" in marriage.

Only around children's communication, or children's children are the center of communication with each other, with rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea as the research theme, this kind of intimate friend plot is interpreted and properly developed into brothers of revolutionary friendship.

Cousin's house, all kinds of crises and wars in those years of marriage. Because the son is too young, it is agreed to maintain a seemingly complete home for his growth. When the son got married, he became a United front because of his granddaughter.

They didn't want to live that day, claiming that they would take care of their granddaughter for one day. Let the son adjust the contradiction, the son said, well, send the child to grandma's house tomorrow, don't worry about it. Finally, two people * * * with the baby, division of labor, play.

The only child is their emotional bond. There is no love between them, but they love the same person, have the same spiritual sustenance and the same goal.

Time is too long, day after day of life, wasted years, lost love, and became relatives of each other.

Classmate WeChat confides that holding hands with her husband is like "holding hands with your left hand". I usually play mobile phones after work, without attachment and expectation.

However, when my husband was cleaning, he cut a big hole in his hand and watched the blood drip. Then he almost fainted with love.

Middle-aged couples may have been bored, beautiful and cared for, but the roots of a row of two trees have been deeply entangled in the ground. Once they are torn, they will bleed profusely and lose their vitality.

Time is really terrible, it can always disintegrate all deep feelings. When parents get old, when friends drift away, when children pull away from our lives, when passion has become insignificant, our partners have already been promoted from lovers to relatives.

Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in and people in the city want to come out. "

Convinced, how many people feel that they are deeply involved, and it is still dark to try to break free. How many people think that meeting chicken ribs is tasteless, boring and tiring.

How can we get along so that two people who are bored with each other can find a fulcrum, live in harmony and get married for a long time?

I. Forgiveness and redress

Sometimes, it is not infidelity and domestic violence that make the family in jeopardy, but disdain, unequal dialogue posture and arbitrary arrogance.

The filial piety of being caring and attentive may only be given to one's parents, leaving the other's relatives in the cold. I only remember my contribution to my family in the workplace, ignoring each other's long-term efforts, ignoring each other's feelings and efforts, having no sense of existence, and getting disheartened over time. There are many grievances at home, and emotional communication is blocked, leaving only silence or perfunctory and ineffective communication.

Colleague Liu Jie lives in such a home. The husband is strong and overbearing, and has never had the right to speak to Sister Liu. The decoration of my home was given to a designer friend, without considering Sister Liu's hobbies. After moving into the new house, the lack of storage space and complicated decoration style made Liu Jie resentful, and she still resented after living for many years.

Sister Liu sometimes complains, and her husband will be furious, saying that he doesn't want to hear unhappy things, which will affect his mood. It is more important to treat both parents, favoring one over the other.

Then when you reach a certain age and have the foundation and ability, make up for it. These debts, these regrets, for her who is just smiling, do not mean that she is not heartbroken.

Realize your mistakes, let heartfelt apologies make up for broken relationships and enhance feelings. Love me, love my dog, do your best to help her repay her affection, and do something for her that you can, and she will be deeply grateful to you.

Just like when we love someone deeply, we warm her, touch her, warm a heart again, and turn the balance of emotional account into a positive number. Women are emotional and often moved. I hope you become the hero of this story.

Even if you have a conscience, you should always surprise each other, give someone roses, leave a lingering fragrance in your hand, make yourself better first, and then put "friendship" in your pocket.

Second, mentors and friends

Zhong Nanshan, a medical expert, and his wife Li Shaofen are both close lovers and mentors.

In his later years, Zhong Nanshan was his wife's health care doctor, urging her to stay healthy. And his wife is a fitness instructor in Zhong Nanshan. They love each other, and the 84-year-old Zhong Lao is still strong, running in the front line of fighting the epidemic and making indelible contributions to the victory of fighting the epidemic.

But the situation of most of our middle-aged couples is different. She may have lost her face because of the passage of time and her wrinkles are looming. He may be out of shape and not as great as he was when he was young. Don't dislike each other, be persuasive and get rid of bad habits; Turn discontent into encouragement, like a spring rain that moistens things silently.

As time goes by, everyone highlights their own advantages and disadvantages. Don't judge and criticize, but point out the maze, give suggestions and make demonstrations at an appropriate time, take pains to correct each other and solve the difficulties encountered, and the other party will thank them for their love and dedication.

When people reach middle age, they should not only be teachers, but also be good friends. Only by being independent of each other and being a teacher and friend can we get along more comfortably.

You may be used to her cooking soup for you and making your bed and quilt. Without gratitude and emotion, everything is taken for granted.

If you get along like friends, you will not be arrogant and overbearing, nor will you submit to humiliation and compromise. There is no disdain and accusation, no humbleness and flattery, only gratitude, gentleness and consideration.

Respect her choices and hobbies. When she was young, those who dared not do it had their own time and regained their hobbies. Leave more space for each other, give full play to their own specialties, and let her have no regrets.

She went shopping to buy clothes, trying to catch the spring, dressed in fashion and elegance, and stopped trying to give you the most beautiful side, but there was still a girl living in her heart.

He and his friends went to the streets to play chess and have afternoon tea. This is no longer an idle job. Besides hard work, there is leisure in life. Maybe he also devoted himself to planting trees and flowers. Isn't that what we're after?

Third, dependence and communication.

I don't know when the people across the street became distant and strange, and there was nothing to say from before to now. Don't be silent, your feelings tend to be dull, and more communication with each other will avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles.

When you are upset, stand by and listen patiently.

You don't have to be afraid to express. When you share your feelings and thoughts with him, you will feel safe. He won't laugh at and hurt your deep-rooted obsession.

You can talk about your child, and you will see him smile like you. Talking about the future, you want to have a small yard to put the rest of your life; Talk about the present, think about time stagnation, and leave romance in the world of two people.

Some people say that to love someone is to talk well. Chen, an artist, doesn't smoke, drink or eat. In my spare time, I make clothes for my daughter and sew wallets for my wife, while my wife Du Xian embroiders. The two of them chatted with each other. Harmony of harp and harp, quiet time.

When people communicate, the ups and downs experienced in the past few days will come to mind, and the hardships and sorrows of the past, tolerance and understanding, efforts and efforts will be vivid. They will know how to depend on each other more, treat each other sincerely, appreciate each other and themselves along the way, and cherish today's hard-won happiness.

Bernard Shaw said: "Home is the only place in the world where human shortcomings and failures are hidden, and it also contains sweet love."

Once the gap is created, it is difficult to eliminate it. When time and years attack you, don't give up resistance, surrender, be insensitive, and you will lose.

When people reach middle age, they can disdain to talk about love, but there must be short-sighted and sophisticated parents, and the terrible thing is that they have lost patience with each other. Sometimes it is not time or time that defeats our marriage, but our compromise.

The pressure of life makes people lose their minds and forget their original intentions. Forget how you tried your best to pursue each other and stay with her until death do us part.

Every middle-aged couple has their own way to get along with each other, but no matter what age, don't forget the hardships they have experienced together, and don't forget that they once cared for each other. So as to treat each other more sincerely, which is the way of marriage management.

Who is the most important when you are old, or your wife! Your wife is the person who has love, affection and friendship with you in this world. You should cherish it more. He is your own support after the hardships of life. The mind is exhausted, she is your warmth.

As the old saying goes: looking back at the Millennium, you can get this life.

Forgive you for everything, don't want to lose the world with you, be kind to each other; Only by relying on each other and helping each other can we respect and cherish each other.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, only by managing their feelings with heart can they trust each other, treat each other honestly, give warmth and care without regret, and the marriage will last forever.