In a relationship, why break up?

Any pair of lovers, when they are together, must want to spend their lives together, but in many cases, only one percent of lovers can go to the end, and most of them will be separated on the way forward, for one reason or another.

Sometimes, it is true that we are destined, but sometimes, we really don't cherish it. So, today I want to talk about the reasons why those lovers broke up. I hope we can find a way to make our relationship longer and longer together.

1, incompatible personality

This reason will be encountered by many couples. Before two people get together, they always show their best side to each other. Girls don't make trouble, boys are gentle and considerate. But really together, for a long time, there is not so much fear between each other and they begin to show their true nature.

Girls at this time may be willful and unruly, and boys at this time may be macho and grumpy. Then, two people find that the other person is not the right person, which makes this relationship come to an end.

Liu Xiaomin and her boyfriend are like this. In the first three months of their acquaintance, they always thought each other was the best person in the world. They have the same temper and three views, but they are really together, only to find that they are all illusions.

As a result, the two began to quarrel frequently and complain to each other. Within three months, they broke up again. I asked her if she didn't regret it. If she said she didn't regret it, it wouldn't mean anything to someone who wasn't right.

Actually, I don't think Xiao Min and her boyfriend are necessarily the right people, but they didn't fully understand each other before they got together, and they didn't solve the problem after they happened.

I have always said that you must be the truest self, so that you can really meet the right person. Then, if you get together and find each other's personalities inappropriate, don't break up in a hurry, try to get used to it. After all, there are no perfect two people in this world, so you must do your best to leave no regrets.

2, make conflicts, break up in an angry manner.

Many young couples broke up because of anger, and no one refused to bow their heads after breaking up. Finally, it became a lifelong regret.

In fact, we don't know who is the love of our lives, but I think it would be a pity to break up because of anger.

Once I went out drinking with my friends, the boy named LAM Raymond burst into tears. When people asked him what was wrong, he said, "She is getting married tomorrow."

After all these years, LAM Raymond has never forgotten that girl. She was Lin Feng's first love, and they met at that most innocent age.

Many times, we will meet the people we love the most when we are most naive, and meet the people who want to protect our whole life when we are most unable to promise.

The two of them often quarrel and often threaten each other by breaking up. In the end, the two broke up in anger, but I didn't expect it to be a lifetime.

So, I want to say that if there is nothing serious wrong with your relationship, you are just angry, and you must be calm, because such a breakup will make you feel unwilling and will make you regret it for the rest of your life.

What people fear most is regret. The sadness after those midnight dreams is the most exhausting.

3, in a different place, feelings have changed.

Long-distance love is one of the most difficult feelings to adhere to, because two people are not together, any problems and contradictions can not be communicated face to face, and the other person is not around when they need companionship, and in this kind of feeling, the sense of security will be very lacking.

Yiyi talked about a long-distance relationship for four years, and finally came to the end of breaking up. She said that she thanked the other person for telling herself frankly that he no longer loved, instead of deceiving himself all the time. She also said that once in a lifetime is enough.

In fact, I particularly understand Yi Yi's feelings. In this relationship, she gave everything she had, spent all the holidays alone, and had no one to accompany her when she was sick. In order to reassure her boyfriend and put an end to the possibility of her vacillation, she refused all the boys who wanted to get close to her.

In those years, her boyfriend really loved her. In order to save her money, she tried her best to see her, buy her gifts and call her on holidays.

However, the time is really too long, and neither of them can see any hope about the future. Finally, my boyfriend chickened out.

I think such feelings are regrettable, but there is nothing to regret. Everyone has done their best, and letting go is an inevitable choice. Since feelings have changed, let's settle down separately. There is no need to torture each other, let alone embarrass yourself.

4. Someone changed his mind.

This reason for breaking up is probably the most common. In the feelings of modern people, too many people don't understand the meaning of responsibility. In the other half, they are always having an affair with other members of the opposite sex, saying that they are playing, but over time, they change their minds.

This is how Xiao Shao was divided. Her boyfriend is a central air conditioner. I will like him at first and think he is really warm. But later, he found that he was so good not only to himself, but also to all the girls.

Also, such men, in particular, don't know how to refuse. As long as girls come to the door, they won't refuse. You know, long-term love is really a very heartfelt but reasonable word. Any couple who are too close for too long will have an accident. In this world, there is no pure friendship.

So, when Xiaoxiao found her boyfriend with another girl, she realized that she had been broken up. This feeling is really heartbreaking, but there is nothing she can do.

In fact, I want to say that anyone's change of heart and departure is a sign, just like laughing. Only afterwards can I understand why her boyfriend was getting colder and colder, but in fact she had an affair.

So, girl, please be sensible emotionally. Don't let the whole world know that you are green. You are still waiting and dreaming. I really hope every girl is happy, but if you really meet the wrong person and feelings, please stop in time.

5. Parents disagree and cannot continue.

Many fans have asked me, will the feelings without parents' blessing be happy? I want to tell you, most of them won't.

Many of my friends, both of whom have no problems in their feelings, have been together for a long time, but in the end they broke up because their parents didn't agree.

To tell the truth, I don't feel sorry for them, because those who get married regardless of their parents' opposition are often unhappy.

Because your parents object, there must be reasons, and these reasons may become the biggest obstacle to your feelings. And some people turn against each other and their parents, which will be where he thinks you owe him for the rest of your life.

So, if your parents are really against your feelings, you should communicate with them first to see why, and then decide whether to stick to it. After all, you can't choose your parents, because it is also a very unwise choice to break with your parents and cut off your own back for love.

6. Weak and scattered

This last one is the calmest and most helpless.

When Qingqing broke up, both of them were calm, without heartbreaking tears or fierce quarrels. She said that after seven years together, it seems that they have no passion for each other, and they have no feelings when they meet, and sometimes they are even a little annoying.

Boyfriends don't surprise themselves as they did in previous years, and they are no different from usual. She really didn't want to live the life of an old couple before she got married, so when her boyfriend broke up, she accepted it frankly.

This may be the status quo of many couples who have been in love for a long time, so I often say that you should not talk about love for too long. In about the same time, you must move forward and see the future before you have hope.

But ah, not all couples who have been in love for a long time will be like this. I know several couples who have been in love for 78 years, and they are as sweet as ever. What they do is always willing to pay attention to each other, often doing something with a sense of ceremony, never ignoring festivals and never forgetting to prepare small surprises for each other.

In fact, I think, if you can't survive seven or eight years when you are in love, how can marriage last for decades? Must it be family or children? Isn't that pathetic?

So I sincerely hope that every couple can love her as always, no matter how long they have been in love. Think about how hard you worked for each other at the beginning, and now you have to work harder to stick to it.