What does "live in groups and keep your mouth shut, sit alone and be defensive" means

Live in groups and keep your mouth shut, sit alone and be defensive. From "Zhu Zi Jingzhai Proverbs": "Keep your mouth shut like a bottle, and guard your thoughts like a city."

As the name suggests, "keep your mouth shut when living in groups" means that when you are with many people, you must control your tongue and don't talk nonsense. . "Sit alone and guard your mind" means that when a person is alone, he should control his mind and not think wildly.

No one talks behind someone’s back, and no one talks behind someone’s back. However, "Misfortune comes from the mouth" is not an empty statement. Talking too much will lead to mistakes. After all, the speaker does not mean it, but the listener means it. In the heat of the moment, they speak indiscriminately; or they talk nonsense after drinking three or two glasses of wine; or they like to gossip and talk about people's private affairs; or even worse, they confuse right and wrong, stir up trouble, and stir up trouble. All these kinds of things are caused by words. They create "verbal karma" for no reason, and the "karma" is immediately released. Is there any reason not to repay it? "There are two paths of good and evil. Those who cultivate are cultivated, and those who create are created." What is cultivated is a good path, and what is created is bad karma. People have right and wrong, and we are not others after all, so how can we understand other people's situations and feelings? We are just speculating and commenting on others from our own perspective and using our own thinking. Keeping your mouth is actually keeping your inner moral bottom line, value bottom line, and personality bottom line.

Live in groups and keep your mouth shut, firstly, do not say anything that goes against principles, do not say anything that goes against conscience, and do not brag about personal trivial matters; secondly, do not care about people's rights and wrongs, and do not seek people's privacy; thirdly, do not blame others for their minor transgressions, and do not remember people's past evil deeds. .

The human heart is always restless, especially when alone, it is easy to be distracted, distracted, and have random thoughts. To sit alone and guard your heart is to guard your heart and prevent your mind from being messy and having random thoughts. The key point is to prevent your mind from having evil thoughts and falling into the wrong path. When delusions arise, find a way to eliminate them. For example, find something to do, divert your attention, and let your mind focus on one place. As the saying goes, "Concentrate on one thing and do nothing." As long as you focus on one point, focus your thoughts and not be distracted, you will get twice the result with half the effort.

The highest state of being alone and defensive is - being cautious in being alone. Shen means to be cautious and alert at all times; solitude means to be alone and act alone. The so-called cautious independence means that when people are alone in an unsupervised environment, they still act according to certain norms with a high degree of consciousness, be strict with themselves, keep themselves clean, and do not do anything that violates moral beliefs and principles of life. Shendu pays attention to the cultivation of personal moral standards and values ????the integrity of personal conduct, which is the highest state of personal style. It is not something that a person can achieve overnight, but if he can establish lofty ideals and noble moral sentiments, always keep his faith in mind, examine himself three times every day, and pursue it day after day, I believe he will become more and more independent. The closer.