Talk about the wife with the lowest emotional intelligence

Language is a basic function of human beings, but it is a skill and ability in life. Everyone in the collective society cannot be kind to others, and the most basic medium of communication is communication.

So whether a person can speak or not largely determines his interpersonal relationship. Many people in life have academic qualifications and ability, but they are not good at talking, and it is easy to give others a bad experience when they open their mouths.

Therefore, this kind of messing up one's interpersonal relationship has a great negative impact on one's life and career. People who can't speak usually think that their emotional intelligence is low.

If you observe carefully, people with low emotional intelligence are most likely to make these three mistakes when chatting, so it is annoying to open your mouth.

1, throw cold water directly.

Whenever we are confident and want to do something we like, we always want to share our ideas with others. (william shakespeare is proud of Hamlet) On the surface, he is asking the other person's opinion, but in fact, he wants to get others' affirmation and praise.

But some people always like to belittle others and say cool things that will lower their self-confidence. (William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Proud) I really hate such people. What you said is of no use at all, and nine times out of ten, it will arouse others' disgust.

Dialectically looking at things, everything has two sides, but no matter how reasonable the person who said this is, he will eventually hurt others.

People with high emotional intelligence know the charm of language. They know they can't be too flattering, and even if they know there is a problem, they can't help but say it.

So I'll confirm each other first, and then I'll say my own suggestion. In this way, others will accept your proposal better.

2. Complain about what others say

How do you vent your negative emotions?

Complain to others or digest it yourself?

I once watched an emotional program together. My husband decided to divorce his wife because she is too nagging and always blames her husband. My husband put up with it for seven or eight years and finally couldn't help it.

His wife also rushed to the scene at that time, and really, as her husband said, her complaints left the judges speechless. So the program finally failed to arbitrate.

Sometimes, if you complain a word or two, many people will agree with you. (william shakespeare complained in Hamlet) But when you complain too much, no one wants to talk to you anymore. Because everyone doesn't want to complain about your influence on the mood. John Kennedy complained.

Because everyone knows that complaining can't solve any problems, so everyone knows that facing bravely is the right way, so we can't be cynical.

People who complain blindly and avoid life will never succeed. He is a negative energy transmission tower in the eyes of others. People always want to escape. Bernard Shaw.

Step 3 talk about negative energy

People with low emotional intelligence always feel that their lives are not good, or that fate is unfair to them. When you have such people around you, you must deal with them less.

Life is hard. If you let yourself fall into negative emotions, it will be very depressed and painful. (Life).

Everyone has a different attitude towards distress. Some people like to write all their misfortunes on their faces. They show unhappy faces when they meet people, complaining everywhere and making others unhappy.

It is normal to be depressed and vomit occasionally. But some people like to repeat negative energy bursts every time. (great).

It is difficult for such people to make friends.

We all say that the roots are red and black. Make some friends and eventually become a person.

Do you have such people around you?

How do you get along with them?