Husband always complains when he doesn't do housework, so how can a man save him?

My family is a person who doesn't like to do housework. Seeing this topic today, I will "complain". In the eyes of many people, I call him "warm man", which is a nickname given to him by a female fan friend of mine. However, I put it in double quotes. "Warm Man" is like me, a child of a rural family, and he is the boss of the family. People think that rural children are good at housework and farm work, but this is not necessarily the case. Because I went out to work after finishing junior high school, I basically did not do farm work. As for housework, he doesn't have to reach out. Before marriage, he had a mother and a sister. After marriage, he met a hardworking wife like me. He became a well-cut shopkeeper. Because he can't do housework, the child never quarreled with him when he was a child. Every time he wins or loses, he is completely defeated in my tears! According to the truth, he will correct his mistakes, but first, he has no chance, because he works all the year round and has less time at home; Secondly, and most importantly, that is to say: a leopard cannot change his spots! He just doesn't like doing housework, and trivial days are always spent in noise. When you can't change others, you have to find a way to change yourself. This is how I dried my tears and walked step by step. In fact, I am also a baby who grew up in my parents' hands, but no matter how happy a woman is at home. The key is that the "second reincarnation" of marriage is very important, which has been her life. I remember once, because he didn't do housework, I was so angry that I cried and yelled at him: Do you think you are a young master? I am still a golden leaf! Why should I wait on you every day? ! But no matter how "language attacks" him, he always accepts it with an open mind and refuses to change his mind. I slowly chose to shut up about such "hob meat" ... maybe I am "the identity of a young lady, the life of a servant girl". When I was a child, the noise gradually decreased with the growth of children and their age, and now it is almost gone! It's not that he has become diligent, but that I don't care! Are you tired? Tired! Now let's talk about our ordinary daily life in the last ten years. Because I drifted north with the "warm man", I temporarily settled in Tianjin. Because my son has a stable job after graduation, in order to better take care of the "warm man", I "left home and left my job" and came to his work area. Because his job is to run business outside, he seldom stays there for a long time. But in the past two years, he had to stay in Tianjin for more than 20 days because of the epidemic, which is rare for him. I found a temporary worker here in Tianjin and worked for 10 years. Because it is a private enterprise, I don't have weekends and sundays. I only have two days off a month. If I exceed it, my salary will be deducted. I am a "greedy" person, so I will not easily go beyond the holidays. Go to work from 7: 30 am to 6: 00 pm every day and don't go back at noon. But what if that person at home can't cook? So, I basically get up after 4 o'clock every day. Besides cleaning and grooming myself, I just prepared breakfast and lunch for him to get up and keep warm. When he comes home from work at night, no matter how late it is, he must be leaning on the sofa and bed, either the computer or the mobile phone. As soon as I entered the door, I rushed into the kitchen, chattered about preparing meals, and finally finished eating. People sat in front of the computer and watched TV. After washing the pots and bowls, before I could catch my breath, there began to talk: "Go out for a walk?" Although it is in the tone of discussion, there is no doubt that I have to change my shoes and go out with him for about 40 minutes before coming back. Every night after he washes, I soak all the dirty clothes, including socks. If it is not too late, I will wash it at that time. If it is too late, I will get up early to wash them.

Especially in summer, clothes are scarce. I never use a washing machine. I wash them by hand.

I love cleanliness and neatness, so I never save my dirty clothes and wash them together. I always solve them in the first place.

After washing the dirty clothes, I will definitely find out the clothes he wore before going to bed the next day and put them on his bedside, because my wardrobe is all cleaned by myself. Whose clothes are in which position, I can reach for them, but he can't. As long as he turns them over, it will be messy like a thief entering the house, but my workload will be even greater.

Another reason why I am so hands-on, is that I want to match his clothes, shirts and pants, and even socks. I don't want my man to go out and look sloppy.

I often feel that I have obsessive-compulsive disorder, and my son was also a child. No matter how hard the conditions are, I always keep this two fathers clean and make them look comfortable.

Alas! It's really tiring to walk around my family and work every day. But what can I do? This is life!

However, the "warm man" now is much stronger than before. Occasionally, when I don't go back, I will cook a meal. Although the taste is not flattering, it is really changing. Cooking porridge is now his forte. Almost every night before I go home, porridge is ready. I just need to fry two dishes.

But then again, I am willing to be tired because others are good. In addition to housework, they are actually good, especially good-tempered, and belong to the kind of "death without compensation." What's more, people do a good job! He is the sales champion in the factory every year and is highly valued by the boss.

In his words, the military medal is more than half of yours!

Haha, I don't care about so many short positions, just give me all the annual income! At this point, I can ignore it no matter how tired I am

Question: In marriage, it is actually the most tiring for a woman to live with a man who doesn't do housework. what do you think?

My answer is:

That's true. But living depends on the strengths of the other half, or whether he has the reason and capital not to do housework. As long as the couple love each other, tolerate each other's shortcomings and communicate calmly to guide each other, I believe it will change slowly.

If you feel really tired, then choose to turn a blind eye and take a vacation for yourself. If you are tired, you are afraid of mental fatigue.