Beyond most people's efficient learning methods, can you talk about it?

Nan huaijin's 1 1 The Method of Teaching Children is a classic, which all parents should read.

First, educate children, teach people first.

Teacher nan is particularly concerned about the growth of the next generation. He often uses Zhuge Liang's classic works, such as Commandments, Letters from Zhu Zi and Zeng Guofan, to explain the truth of educating children in simple terms! He often said:

First, children should be taught to be human beings, and then knowledge (skills) should be taught. Don't do it backwards!

Nan believes that educating children should first teach people to be human beings, and being human beings should start from the cultivation of mind.

Physical and mental cultivation is the foundation of being a man. No matter what occupation or position you are, as long as you are human, this is the basic literacy. This is the foundation of education in China. "University" said, "From Tian Zi to Shu Ren, one is to cultivate one's morality".

Our Chinese nation has always taken education as its purpose: to be a man, not to live.

Second, it is harmful for children to expect their success.

Parents should not subconsciously entrust their unfulfilled wishes to their children. Children are independent individuals. What parents should think most about is how to train and coach their children correctly, instead of asking them to study and take exams blindly, which will only make them lose themselves.

Third, don't spoil, let the children stand up by themselves.

In ancient times, parents raised their children by sending their 12-year-old children out as apprentices, instead of doting on them as parents do now. There is a saying in ancient China that "bite the hand that feeds you". Parents' love for their children is to bite the hand that feeds you, but "bite the hand that feeds you", which makes children unable to stand on their own feet.

Fourth, as long as the child is a good person and has skills.

There is an old saying: "A thousand hectares of fertile land is not as good as a skill." Learning is learning, and eating is eating. There used to be many learned and capable people in China, but he didn't come out to be an official, because he had the ability to make a living, and getting rich and being an official was a thing of the past.

Nan huaijin's education for children is like this. Everything needs their independent development. This is what the ancients said: "People are expensive and independent".

Fifth, we must first understand the nature of children.

Some parents have a deep preference for their children. They always only see the advantages of children, but they can't see the shortcomings of children. Parents should know their children's nature. After all, "knowing a child is better than knowing a father."

Sixth, education should start with prenatal education.

According to the Book of Rites, once a woman is pregnant, her habits will change and she will read different books.

Therefore, don't think that children will not be affected if they are not born. After five or six months, parents' quarrels, good deeds and bad deeds will affect children's intellectuality.

Seven, mother's education is particularly important.

Only when a family has a good housewife and a good mother can it talk about ways to maintain family order.

A mother will affect three generations, and most of the problems are rooted in the mother. It is necessary to catch "mom" by the nose. Because in an ordinary family, as long as there is no big problem, the mother will become the core of the family.

Eight, let children start from small things.

It is one thing for children to start studying, but according to the traditional culture of China, the real purpose of children's pedagogy is "sweeping and coping".

Children enter primary school between the ages of six and eight. How to sweep the floor and clean the table, how to talk to teachers, adults and friends, etiquette rules are the most important.

Nine, be sure to let the children recite the classics.

There is only one primitive method of human education, and that is reciting. Both the culture of China and foreign languages should be memorized. Endorsement has many advantages. Children recite ancient books and really recite ancient Chinese. After intelligent development, they can read the current school textbooks at a glance. This benefit has already come out.

X. Respect children's hobbies and support training.

A person will always try his best to do what he is interested in. And those who have no interest, even lack hobbies, will regret for a lifetime. Parents should face their children's interests with a peaceful attitude, admit that children have the right to "have their own hobbies", respect his personal interests and don't tell him what to do.

Eleven, education must be gradual, and never go too far.

Nowadays, parents in many families are very happy to see their children smart, and they all try their best to cultivate their children. In fact, educating children is like planting a good flower. If you fertilize too much and water too often, a good flower seedling will be hurt.

Teacher nan huaijin often says: Many parents make two mistakes:

First, take compensatory education: compensatory education is to let children enjoy what they don't enjoy and cultivate their selfish nature!

Second, pull out the seedlings and encourage education: pull out the seedlings and encourage them, unrealistically put their ideals on their children, and forget to teach them to cultivate themselves!

Is not desirable.

It is not difficult to find that Nan's concept of educating children is in the same strain as China's traditional concept of educating children. It is to really train children from being human beings and adults before they can make contributions. This is the essence of China's traditional culture and education wisdom, which aims to let children establish the virtue of a gentleman before talking about her husband's career.