How to educate children who talk too much

Every child will have his or her own little problems as they grow up, and they are bound to conflict with us. Today we list eight situations that you will definitely encounter, combined with some advice from Australian parenting experts. Suggestions and sharing with you the most practical method. Without relying on high pressure and so-called parental authority, your children can still accept your suggestions.

1 The child always procrastinates and refuses to go to bed. Useless sayings:

Hurry up, hurry up, it’s very late, stop playing, go to bed quickly. (Nagging imperatives are the most ineffective)

We can say this:

In 10 minutes, we will go to bed. (Give the facts and set aside a certain amount of time to prepare the child mentally and make him feel respected)

Also:

It’s bedtime in 10 minutes. Should we wash up first or tell a story first? (The way of supervision is to provide choices)

The baby thought like this at the time:

I am not sleepy at all and don’t want to sleep. I wanted to play a little longer and do something fun. I still don’t understand the concept of time. But my mother told me my bedtime and asked me to abide by it. At the same time, she also gave me respect and I could choose what I liked. I have to try my best to sleep well.

2 Children play while eating

Useless saying:

Stop playing, eat like you are eating, sit down and eat quickly . (Nagging again)

We can say this:

Baby, you must sit at the dining table to eat. Let's finish our meal and play with toys. Show me, you can eat well and play well. (The rules must not be changed. They must be clearly informed and encouraged later.)

If you still refuse, tell your child, "Then we are eating. Come and eat when you are done playing! But after we finish eating, that's it." Put it away!

The baby thought like this at the time:

Actually, I haven’t differentiated between eating and playing. Now I understand; maybe I’m not hungry yet. I really don’t want to eat; I’m having a good time, and you want to interrupt me again. I just don’t want you to say anything and do whatever you say. But you’ve all eaten. I’m bored playing alone, so I’d better come over and eat with you. (Please remember, if he comes, don’t be stingy with your praise!)

3 The child refuses to turn off the TV for a long time

Useless statement:

You have been watching for a long time, why are you still watching? You want to turn it off. (Command, blame, it is unacceptable)

We can say:

The time is almost up, we will turn off the TV in ten minutes! (Notice in advance)

Or:

The time is up, Should you turn it off or should I turn it off? (Give a choice)

The baby thought like this:

Mom and Dad, the TV is so good, I am enjoying it, but I don’t want to turn it off yet. It’s time to remind me, okay, I understand. Should you close it or should I? Saying:

Why are you losing your temper? You are not a good child. If you lose your temper again, I will ignore you (impatient, threatening).

We can say:

I see that you are very unhappy. You can talk to your mother slowly, or you can think about what you can do to make you happy! (When the child is not very expressive, you can divert his attention. Find something he might be interested in and let him see it)

The baby thought like this at the time:

I am very unhappy, but I don’t know how to express it correctly. I saw it. I have never seen others lose their temper and thought it was okay to vent like this. It really makes me feel better.

5 The child cries when he is not satisfied

No. Used expressions:

Stop crying, why cry, you cry again, cry again, don’t cry (impatient, command)

We can say this:

I will wait for you to finish crying, and then we will discuss what to do together.

What do you want to say to me? (Wait for the child to answer you) Do you want to go out and play for a while? Still want another cookie? still? (The child will tell you)

The baby thought this way at the time:

Crying is an effective weapon. I cried before and you agreed to my request, so I cried this time too. Well, sometimes I really don’t know how to express my request other than crying. If you say this, I understand. You don’t need to cry in the future, just talk it over.

6 Children must buy unnecessary or inappropriate things

Useless sayings:

Why do you buy whatever you see? I already have a lot of them at home, so I won’t buy them for you today. (blame)

We can say this:

I can’t buy it for you. Remember this: none of us can buy whatever we want. (Gentle and firm)

The baby thought like this at the time:

Growing up, you bought me books, toys, and a lot of things. I didn’t say I wanted to buy it, but you all bought it for me. Now that I want it, you should buy it for me. When you said this, I understood. It turns out that you don’t get whatever you ask for. That’s when I understood.

7 Children always hit others

Useless sayings:

Babies cannot hit others. This is wrong. Do you understand? (Preaching)

We can say this:

Baby, if someone hits you, will it hurt? Do you want others to hit you? If you don't want others to hit you, you can't hit others. Let's think about it together, if we don't hit people, what else can we do? (Use empathy, let the child feel, explain the truth, and let him think and digest by himself)

The baby thought like this at the time:

I am anxious and want to hit someone; I want to cause When others pay attention, I hit them. I saw other children hitting others, so I learned it and thought it was okay. You say this, oh, I understand, I don’t want to be hit by others, so I won’t hit others in the future.

8 The child was beaten by others

Useless statement:

Ah, let me see, who hit you? Does it hurt? Next time, you have to hit them back. (Increase conflict and violence)

We can say this:

Can you tell your mother why they beat you? (Listen to the child) Then just say that mom knows you are sad, but you are great, which means you trust me and told me. Next time, block him with your hands to protect yourself, and also tell him, "You can't hit me." Moreover, you have to remember: Just because you don’t fight back doesn’t mean you are afraid of him. (Listen, give guidance, and provide effective solutions)

The baby thought like this at the time:

Mom, Dad, I was beaten by someone else, and I felt a little sad. I don't know what to do. Now I know.

I especially want to say that sometimes when a child is beaten, we as parents feel very distressed, and then we desperately ask him how he is doing. But in fact, it is very likely that the child is not that hurt at all, and he can completely resist it. And because we were so nervous, it made him feel uncomfortable and panicked. It is also an important lesson for children to learn to deal with it on their own. What we need to teach them is how to protect themselves instead of being needlessly nervous.