Nowadays, some parents continue to give their children extra lessons and attend training classes. What is the ultimate goal?

This is all to improve children’s performance and not to lag behind. My daughter spent a lot of money on tutoring in the five years from the second year of junior high school to the third year of high school. Her academic performance was average to above average, and she was better than her average. Even those who were better than her were tutoring, and we didn't dare not give up. She studied Latin dance for four years from the third to sixth years of elementary school in order to improve her temperament. In short, it is for her to have a good future. The child may have worked hard, but she is willing to make up the lessons without forcing her. She is afraid of falling behind, which is pitiful for parents in the world. They all hope that their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed

Parents continue to give their children training classes and cram schools, the purpose is to hope that their children can become talents and live a better life when they grow up.

Studying is the shortest way to get ahead. Especially children from ordinary families.

There are many children from ordinary families who have changed their destiny through reading.

Today’s society is really very realistic. The richer you are, the more popular you are. Many times, if you don’t have money, you have no right to speak. It means nothing, and it is difficult to live with your own dignity. Therefore, everyone wants to live a good life.

Many parents are well aware of the importance of reading, and hope that their children can live a good life through reading, so they continue to enroll their children in training classes and cram schools.

In fact, an important factor that determines whether a person can live a good life is a good mentality.

Many wealthy people should be able to live happily, but they also suffer from various psychological problems.

Therefore, parents should always let their children have a good attitude.

How to let children have a good attitude?

First of all, be content with what you have. Many children get first place in the exam, but their parents are still unhappy and think that they should get full marks. This mentality will affect the children, causing them to pursue perfection and lack happiness.

Secondly, let the children be caring. Research shows that caring people live happier lives because caring people love to help others. In the process of helping others, they will reflect their own sense of value and gain more self-confidence.

Finally, parents should be optimistic. Parents are their children's best teachers, and every word and deed will affect their children. If parents are optimistic about things, then their children will also be optimistic about everything.

If a child does this, he will definitely become a popular person and a person capable of happiness.

Of course parents hope that their children can have a good future.

In junior high schools in my country, most parents believe that children need to change their destiny through learning. The current university admissions model in our country mainly uses test scores as the evaluation criterion.

In order to get high scores, parents can say that they are willing to prepare everything for their children as much as possible!

This is a very natural thing in itself. There is no need to speculate on other people's thoughts, and there is no need to evaluate whether it is good or bad. Is there anything to criticize or blame?

Everyone has his own way of life and his own goals. There is nothing good to say about working hard for your goals.

We cannot simply evaluate the behavior of others from our own perspective.

I personally don’t agree with enrolling in many cram schools, especially in primary schools. However, I will not interfere with other people's practices, nor will I despise other people's choices.

I have a classmate in Hangzhou. She gave up her big house and bought a small house of about 50 square meters, just so that her children could go to a good school. My friend wakes up at 5:30 every morning and spends nearly 2 hours on his way to work.

I would not choose such a life, but I cannot say that others are not living well or living well. Everyone has his own philosophy, and as long as he can stick to it, he will live a meaningful life.

Similarly, it is the same for children. Whether learning is hard or not mainly depends on whether you want to learn.

Children who want to learn will find it easy to attend any cram school, while children who don’t want to learn will find homework extremely painful!

Finally, I would like to emphasize one point: Do not follow the trend whether to sign up for a cram school or not. Family education is very important. At the primary school stage, family education has a great impact on children. Please be sure to maintain an appropriate rhythm and cultivate your children's mentality and study habits. Whether or not to enroll in a cram school and how many subjects to enroll in are all very personal matters and are determined based on the child's situation.

Junior middle school children study very hard. There are more than 10 students in the class, more than 200 grades, and about 150 key points in the school exam every year. What should you do? Make up a lesson! If the 200 students make up the class and then catch up, what will happen to the 100 students? Make up for it too! As a result, we collectively educate students in advance, improve their grades, and improve the entire province’s college entrance examination scores. So we continued to increase our efforts to make up lessons. What a helpless cycle.

I would like to say a few words to parents who provide supplementary classes:

1. Who needs supplementary classes? Junior high school students. If a junior high school can take 100 students into a key high school, 200 to 50 students will need to make up classes. High school student who is seriously partial to science. For example, 150 out of 100 points, 50 in mathematics. This shows that the child is completely incapable of mathematics and can easily improve to 100 by completing one-to-one lessons from scratch.

2. What type of classes provide make-up classes? Personally, I feel that the class size is small, one-on-one, and the purpose is to solve problems. It is targeted and saves time.

3. Which teacher should I find to make up lessons? Teachers who can write correct papers without looking at the answers, or students who have scored 135 or above in the subject in the college entrance examination. Many teachers themselves teach based on the answers and cannot explain the problem-solving ideas at all.

Parents care about their children. The education industry allows many families to spend everything they have!

The ultimate goal of parents enrolling their children in training classes and supplementary classes is for their children to have good academic performance, to be admitted to a good university, and to have a good job and an ideal future. Life.

Leaving the best for your children and giving them the best life is something that parents will always do without hesitation. No matter what behavioral decisions parents make, the ultimate goal is to enable their children to have a happy and happy life, including: parents spank and scold their children, spoil their children, enroll in supplementary classes, send their children to private middle schools, key elementary schools, and study abroad. All these behaviors are aimed at giving children a good future.

This is the so-called "poor heart of parents in the world". Don't parents know that they can eat good food, wear good clothes, and enjoy themselves? But parents still invest all the money they save and spend in their children's education. This is the selfless love parents have for their children.

It is a pity that many children do not understand their parents' thoughts. They think that learning is for their parents, and that their parents force them to study, and they even hate their parents' behaviors. I am also the father of a child, and sometimes I cannot understand the child’s thinking. Do children really think that they can survive in society without learning anything, knowing nothing, or having any skills? Your parents will one day grow old, and one day they will no longer be able to take care of you. How will you survive independently?

Parents follow the crowd -

As far as I know, some parents watch other people's children sign up for training classes, and out of concern for face, sign up their own children for training classes, forcing their children to attend training classes. .

There are also some parents who, because they work and have no one to take care of their children, or even cannot control their children, so in order to save worry, they let their children attend training classes.

Some parents enroll their children in many cram schools. Why?

The most direct purpose of parents enrolling their children in cram schools is to achieve better results for their children.

The most direct purpose of children attending cram schools is to improve their academic performance. When academic performance improves, children are happy, parents are happy, and teachers are happy.

The child’s grades have improved and he can enter a good elementary school, a good middle school, or a good high school.

Parents enroll their children in cram schools. The medium-term goal is to get good grades in the college entrance examination and enter a good university.

Our college entrance examination is still an exam-oriented education. Although the college entrance examination has introduced new reform policies, it is still an exam-oriented education. Exam-oriented education requires students to have good grades, and only with good grades can they get into a good university.

The ultimate goal of parents enrolling their children in cram schools is to make their children become dragons and phoenixes, transcend the class of their parents, and have a good future.

China's education system is a branch education. There is no difference in education for everyone in primary school and junior high school, but it is different in high school and university. High school and university education is a selective education. Only by passing the selection can many people achieve a leap in class and take off in life.

When parents enroll their children in cram schools, following the trend is just a formality.

Some children do not study well, so they enroll in cram schools for tutoring. Other parents saw this and were afraid that their children would be left behind, so they also chose to enroll their children in tutoring classes. This is bandwagon behavior, a form rather than an end.

In many cases, enrolling in remedial classes is the wishful thinking of parents. It depends on whether the child is willing. If not, enrolling in remedial classes will be in vain.

Tuition classes, tutoring classes, interest classes, special classes, research studies, etc. It was originally a relaxing summer vacation, but many children now have headaches when they think about summer vacation. It is not as easy as going to school in normal times and having to take these supplementary classes every day. Ah, the intervertebral discs in the waist are protruding due to training or other surgery. If we want to talk about the purpose of parents letting their children attend training classes, let’s talk about the unknown secrets:

1. For It proves how much pressure you have to push before your children completely lose interest in learning!

There is a saying that when things go to extremes, they will be reversed. Some children are just as good without tutoring. Some children can be effective if they participate in tutoring. However, for some children, tutoring not only has no effect, but may also cause negative effects. To what extent can it be negative? I feel like vomiting as soon as I hear about studying, and the steady improvement of my grades has become out of reach. Therefore, through such a learning path that is not suitable for my children because they do not understand them, my parents have successfully turned their children into Guinea pig!

2. How much money can be wasted on ignorance in order to prove that you can!

3. To prove that you are not smarter than other parents!

I once spent some time in a college-to-bachelor institution, and they had a training program called "Guaranteed to Pass", which means that if you pay more, you can guarantee that you can pass! Why do they dare to make such a promise? In fact, they can't guarantee it at all. In fact, they are taking advantage of the parents' eagerness and using the guise of ensuring that they can pass, but they are actually pursuing a probability. In other words, if they really can't pass, they will quit. There is a fee, but if there are students who can pass, they will make money. In fact, many students may have already reached that level, but parents think it is safer to sign up for a guaranteed passing class, so it is an injustice to spend this money. Other than that, Many tutoring institutions say it takes a few days to reach a certain level, and refunds will be made if the level is not reached. They are just taking advantage of probability! Moreover, some unscrupulous institutions will have a test on the first day of training for children, and then there will be another exam at the end of the study period. Often, the final test score will be very high, because it is very simple, and there is nothing else to do in a month. Just follow the questions on this test paper and do your best. Do you think my score will be high?

4. In order to prove that you are indeed too busy to take care of your children’s studies, institutions are mankind’s good friends!

In modern society, there are all kinds of pressures, and people are rushing for life. One word is: busy! Two words: very busy! Three words: extremely busy! How to prove busy is that you don’t have time to take care of your children! When two parents meet together, the most bragging thing is how they have no time to take care of their children, how busy they are and how busy they are to take care of their children. If the children have good grades, it is all the child's own credit. If the children are poor in studies, it is because they are too busy. I really can’t spare the time, in short, I just don’t have the time! So based on such an excuse, it is logical for children to be sent to training institutions, because training institutions have always been good friends of mankind!

There is a very interesting short paragraph: Someone asked the sheepherder what he did to herd sheep. He said that he herded sheep to make money, to make money to marry a wife, to marry a wife to have babies, and to have babies was to herd the sheep! Going around and around, I got myself involved. In fact, we are not saying that training institutions are necessarily bad, but whether they are good or not is not the institution itself that has the final say, but whether your child meets the conditions for being sent to the institution for training. Be sure to What you need to understand is that institutions are always willing to accept students, and what we need to reflect on is, what exactly have we brought to our children through training?

For wealthy people, there are actually two purposes. First, to spend money to save worry. Second, go to a good university. For us ordinary people, there is only one purpose, that is, in this way, we will not have to work as hard as our parents do now, go to college, and become a promising person!

There are many situations when parents enroll their children in training classes, which can be roughly divided into three categories:

1. Attend homework classes with the purpose of improving grades or maintaining excellent grades so that they can go to school Go to a good middle school and a good university in order to have a good job, earn a high income, find a good partner, and live a good life.

2. Attend interest classes, hoping that children will have one or more interests or skills of their own, and will either become a major or maintain an interest in life in the future.

3. There is also a kind of self-comfort in one's heart: seeing others enroll in this class and that class, it seems that I can't feel at ease if I don't enroll my child in one, so I just sign up and don't learn too much. He should also learn a little bit. Learning a little is better than not learning at all. It will be his destiny if he learns it in the future. If he cannot learn it, he can't blame his parents.

I myself belong to the second situation. No matter what kind of psychology, it is only a kind of psychology of the parents. As for the future development of the child, it still depends on the child's own future strength and luck.

In summary, enrolling children in extracurricular classes, no matter what kind of psychology, is for a better and calmer future life, although whether it can be achieved is another matter.

This is what I know. Do you have any other situations or thoughts?