In rural areas, why do many two brothers have bad relations?

In rural areas, why is the relationship between the two brothers generally bad? Let's look at the analysis of several netizens:

Netizen 1: In the countryside, why is the relationship between the two brothers generally bad? Your question is very poor and one-sided. In rural areas, brothers are separated and generally have a good relationship. Brothers will come to help if they have something important. Such as: building a house in the countryside, weddings, funerals and banquets, please help, others are very enthusiastic. A brother doesn't even give this face, even if he is busy, he will stop to help his brother finish things. However, the question you asked does not mean that it does not exist. There are few cases in rural areas. The main reasons are as follows: first, unfair division of property will affect brotherly relations. There is a saying: "The tree is wide open and the child is far away." Rural brothers should be divided when they get married, not only in households, but also in property and houses. As parents, it's best to treat each other as equals, and the palms of your hands are all meat, regardless of which one. If you don't break up, it will affect the contradiction between brothers. Second, two sons and two daughters-in-law should be treated equally. The uneven end of a bowl of water will affect the relationship between brothers and sisters. After the children separated, they managed their own homes. Originally, they lived in peace. As soon as their parents intervened, there was a contradiction. Such as: help with housework, help with children, and wait on the daughter-in-law who is confinement. If parents have a preference, one helps the other, then there will be contradictions and quarrels between brothers and daughters-in-law, and they think that parents should be big or small. Parents must "keep a bowl of water flat", otherwise it will deepen the contradiction between brother and daughter-in-law. In this case, sons and daughters-in-law usually do not support their parents for this reason.

Third, the contradiction between children affects the feelings between sisters-in-law. Every parent loves their children very much and doesn't want their children to be bullied. Although the two brothers are separated, they still live in the same house, and it is inevitable that children will fight and make noise when they play together. As a sister-in-law, you should have a good sense of proportion, persuade each other, and don't beat your brother's children when they suffer. If this kind of treatment is seen by the other brother, it will reflect the unhappiness between adults and even fight because they don't want each other. There is a saying: "If you don't do it, you will make a fool of yourself." Since we are brothers and sisters, don't mind quarreling between children. Losing and winning are all children. Adults are angry, but children are at the player's house. These three reasons often affect the relationship between brothers and sisters. If you don't master them well, your brother will become a stranger. I hope everyone can manage it well. Brothers in this life will never be brothers again in the next life. I hope that brothers can understand each other and be tolerant. In the new year, brothers will be more harmonious and sisters-in-law will be better.

For the two brothers who are nursing compatriots, there is no revenge for killing their father or taking their wives; Then, why is the relationship between the two brothers so tense in some families in rural areas? In the final analysis, parents have never given them excellent family education since childhood, and they have never been interested in the moral concept of "harmony is the most important thing", but anyone who deeply understands this moral concept will remember their close relatives, understand each other and remember each other. After the two brothers got married, the reason for the tension between the two brothers was the provocation between their sister-in-law. No matter how deep the feelings of the two brothers are, they can't resist the deaf ears of the people sleeping next to them, so the feelings of the two brothers are getting worse and worse. In the discord between brothers and sisters, it reflects the evil consequences caused by "the tip of the needle is against the wheat", and both brothers and others have to muddle along. Endure a calm moment and take a step back. Poor family conditions caused the two brothers to split up and haggle over every ounce. Without Kong Rong's pear virtue, it is still not a sign of great wisdom in the future. Imagine being rich just by sharing a little more of your parents' property? Besides, the parents themselves are very poor, and they simply don't understand that this family's transformation from poverty to wealth is achieved by their own hands and extraordinary brains.

Netizen 2: I married a family with two brothers. Ever since we got engaged, I have buried traces of discord. I have never offended my sister-in-law, who is hostile to me because of an imaginary conflict of interest. When I got engaged, she clamored for the decoration fee, and the couple didn't come to our engagement wine. Actually, we set the engagement wine and prepared the present ourselves. Talking and talking, the two old people showed that they had no money, because the boss's marriage debt had not been paid off, saying that they could only try their best to lend us 50 thousand yuan to get married and buy a house. There is nothing they can do. When talking about marriage, it was13,65438. This money is definitely not enough. When you bought a small house, you had to prepare at least 200 thousand, but I didn't think so much, and I didn't have the heart to force the old man. Forget it. The small engagement, the down payment for buying a house and the preparation for getting married are all slowly saved by the two of them. The younger brother's marriage is a big deal, and the older brother and sister-in-law are also making excuses, not showing up and not receiving gifts. I'm definitely not happy about it! Coupled with my father-in-law's unfair accident, although I am dissatisfied, considering that I am my husband's only brother, I will still keep a pleasant face.

With children, resentment accumulated, and I broke out and completely tore my face! There is a difference of half a year before and after pregnancy, because the eldest sister-in-law is pregnant first and the mother-in-law takes care of it. My eldest sister-in-law has never been to work, and everyone works in Shanghai. My mother-in-law was appointed by my eldest sister-in-law, and she didn't even have time or mind to see me. The whole luck is to go to work, buy food and cook early after work, and take care of yourself. My unit has moved, and there is nothing to eat around, so I can only eat in the ramen restaurant downstairs. My husband can cook something delicious on weekends. I live far from where I work, and it takes two hours by bus. As soon as I got on the bus, I was afraid to hold my urine halfway. I am not a saint. In the face of injustice, there must be grievances. In the face of my complaints, my husband can only say that there is no way. His sister-in-law is strong and unreasonable, and his parents can't help it. I told him that now I can handle it myself, and I can't control it. I don't care how your sister-in-law distributes your mother, but I want to be clean. Make sure your sister-in-law doesn't bother me or pick me! This is my last bottom line! My husband patted his chest again and again, making sure there was no problem.

As a result, something really happened the next month. I haven't finished my second month when my eldest sister-in-law called to rob someone. The reason is that my nephew has loose bowels and is not ready, so he brought some blood. My eldest sister-in-law clamored to go to Nanjing for hospitalization and called my father back from Shanghai. It stands to reason that even if you are nervous about your child, it is enough to have the help of your father and grandfather, but she just wants to find fault and has to call her mother-in-law back. The reason is that the men in the ward are inconvenient in summer. My husband and my sister-in-law discussed that I can't ask my grandmother for help, because my grandmother lives near, half an hour's drive, but people react strongly directly. Your grandson and grandmother have no obligation! My father-in-law followed, fearing that my grandson really had something to do, and hoped that I would compromise in order to keep the big family clean! In this way, I finally compromised, and I took care of my eczema and spitting milk daughter. My daughter was born very small, weighing 5 kg 4, so she is small. She still spits milk in summer and takes a bath every day. Therefore, I can't do it alone, dare not, feel wronged and helpless! Grandma was discharged from the hospital the day after she went back, on the grounds that the doctor didn't think it necessary to be hospitalized.

I was very angry when I learned the truth about the oolong farce. I called my in-laws directly and told them not to come over. I will take care of my daughter myself. You take care of your eldest grandson and baby! In this way, I broke the last straw! With resentment, I take care of my daughter alone, and the pain sequelae left by caesarean section will not get better until my daughter 10 months! For almost a year, I just held my breath and took care of my daughter alone. My father was a little angry at the New Year, but he also took the initiative not to go home for the New Year. On the eleventh day of the new year, because my own grandmother died, I attended the funeral and went back to my husband's house. The next day, my sister-in-law came back from her family in town and found fault everywhere! Block a door and don't give me a good face. I caught a cold and wanted to drink some porridge, so she ate it up! The next day, she and her in-laws were arguing with me, so I stepped in and everyone quarreled. Nobody likes it anyway. She likes swearing, and I can't have a son. I started it! The two men scuffled! Later, she ended up with a fake pregnancy and abortion, and she planted it on my head and asked me to claim compensation! I don't want to take the blame and let her provide evidence, but it will go away and everyone will not contact! Now that my daughter is almost three years old, considering all aspects, I dare not and don't want to have a second child. If I were given another chance to choose, I would never choose a two-brother family. Without absolutely fair parents, disputes will be inevitable.

Netizen 3: Now the society is talking about who is rich and who is a grandfather and who is poor and who is a grandson. Although the words are not rough, this is a very realistic society. Bian Xiao will share with you the true story of the poverty relationship between two brothers in the countryside. Please read it patiently: in a village, Uncle Zhang has two sons. The eldest son works in other places all the year round, and the second son is now the manager of a small hotel. The business is very good, and the salary income is relatively high; I only pity Uncle Zhang, who is over 70 years old and has no financial resources. He only makes a living by picking up rubbish and selling waste products. In fact, the second child has long been separated. Ignoring my biological parents led some neighbors to accuse my brother of being unfilial, and my hometown neighbors who came back ten years later overheard some unfilial words. I asked my neighbor, what happened to my family? Aunt said, son, you haven't come home for so many years. Your father is ill and no one takes care of him. Living expenses only depend on picking up garbage and selling waste products, regardless of the second child. You also hurry home to see your father! ! ! Hearing this, the eldest son couldn't help crying and was anxious to go back to his hometown to see his old father. On his way back to his hometown, the eldest son met his brother driving a Mercedes-Benz and stopped to say hello. The second child happily said to the eldest brother, eldest brother, you haven't come home for so many years. Look at how you are getting along outside, and then look at the clothes you are wearing now.

And conveniently took out thousands of dollars and stuffed them into my brother's hand to buy a new dress. At that time, the boss was very angry and immediately threw the money in the face of the second child, saying, you don't want dogs to look down on people. Why don't you care about your father's illness and make a living by collecting garbage and selling waste products? Still brothers? It's not rare for your stinking money Second, you haven't come home for so many years. Besides, your brothers have separated. Of course, the old father belongs to the eldest brother. During the quarrel, the boss was very angry and hurried home to visit his father. When I came home, I saw my father catching a cold and lying in bed coughing. The boss immediately knelt down in tears and said, Dad, it's really unfilial for my son to come back to see you. When the eldest son finished, he put his old father on his back and went to the hospital for treatment. The boss is actually the chairman of a group company, worth hundreds of billions, pretending to be a beggar and going back to his hometown to visit his old father. Later, the boss took his father to the mansion where he lived and enjoyed his family. Not long after this, when the second child was calculating the running water, he saw the economic news report about his brother taking care of the elderly on the LCD TV hanging on the wall. What he didn't expect was that his brother turned out to be the chairman. He just held his cell phone in a flurry and couldn't get through, which is a pity! This shows that some people forget the brotherhood with a little money and regret it if they are not arrogant!