It is said that "it is difficult to have a child in a cold door." Can personal efforts really beat the family background?

Of course not, at least in today's college entrance examination, a certain degree of fairness is guaranteed.

"A poor family gives birth to a noble son, while a white family gives birth to a noble son" is an old proverb, which means that a poor family often gives birth to a noble man. However, in recent years, on the internet, there has been a lack of knowledge that it is difficult to have your son. This includes not only dissatisfaction with the current education system, but also anxiety about class solidification, and it also reflects the real products such as school districts.

Looking back at the speculation of online public opinion, the positive view is the comparative data of higher education enrollment rate of urban and rural population in recent years. It is not difficult to find that rural students are being squeezed out of prestigious schools step by step, and those who win at the starting line, especially urban students with superior family material conditions and rich social resources, can still have a smooth career after graduation. On the contrary, they are bad karma children from poor families. Even if you stand firm in a big city by yourself, you will be labeled as "Phoenix Man" and other colored labels.

Representatives of the opposing party often start from more intuitive factual logic. For example, there was a saying on the Internet recently, "How can the efforts of several generations be defeated by the efforts of ten years?" Or compared with developed capitalist countries, the national college entrance examination system is already a fair talent selection mechanism.

Generally speaking, compared with the past few years, the phenomenon of poor children is indeed decreasing rapidly, but the channel of success through hard work has not been completely blocked.

From the sociological point of view, aristocratic children born in poor families refer to the mobility of social classes. A benign society must maintain a certain degree of mobility, because the solidification of social strata brings about the increase of social costs and the rigid flow of resources, which is extremely unfavorable to the long-term sustainable development of a society. Not only that, once it is difficult for the poor to have children, the bottom people cannot rise through effective channels, and the widening gap between the rich and the poor will inevitably lead to social tears and intensified contradictions, let alone stable development.

Economic development perspective

From the perspective of economic development, a family's investment in children's education is to get predictable returns in the future. Many rural families scrimp and save money to send their children to cities to study, which is bound to hope that their children can get rid of poverty one day. Even if parents don't want to go to the city to support the elderly, it is in line with the general economic law, just accumulating the capital inherited by this family. One generation goes from the countryside to the county, and the next generation can go from the county to the city.

Individual value

Finally, when it comes to personal value, whether you are a poor child or a city background, a person's life value will ultimately be pursued and realized by himself. The innate conditions of the family are advantages and burdens, and the help that can be provided is mostly success in the secular sense. We can see that the children of poor families resolutely return to their hometowns to feed their hometowns after graduating from prestigious schools, and many rich second-generation children are frustrated in their dreams and have no choice but to inherit their family business. Therefore, your son's precious words are stained with too many narrow utilitarian colors. Whether you can be a precious son depends on yourself.

3. How to be your son?

If we want to be your son, we must first find your direction. Although money worship and consumerism prevail in the materialistic society, we should strengthen our faith and find our own value and direction.

First of all, as a member of society, young people should give priority to the development along the existing path, participate in compulsory education, pursue advanced studies in colleges and universities, and find employment in a market-oriented society. Only those who can live independently in society are qualified to find their own direction.

Secondly, starting from personal interest, this interest can come from family inheritance and cultivation, from childhood dreams, and from ardent expectations for the future. Even if you are confused for a while because of the brutal competition of exam-oriented education, you can try different fields and find something that can make you smile and feel satisfied.

Finally, after determining your own direction, you should first set your own goals or role models in this field and have a reference coordinate to make your efforts more clear and quantitative. Second, you should eliminate external interference, because each field has different characteristics, some are accumulated, some want to suppress before promoting, and some even run counter to mainstream public opinion. However, keep your bottom line and stick to it. When the flowers blossom and bear fruit and become your son, the onlookers can only keep their mouths shut.

The birth of your son is the courage to break free from the shackles of fate and shout "My life is up to me!" Like Nezha.

Unyielding fate has made many heroes. Song Lian studied hard, not because his family was poor, but because he worked hard year after year with a tenacious heart, and finally made a name for himself. Gou Jian, the king of Yue, was better at hanging his head and stabbing stocks, working hard in secret in difficulties and finally achieving great things; Helen Keller was deaf and blind from childhood, unable to speak, and able to achieve high academic attainments ... There are countless examples, all of which tell us that my life is decided by heaven and my life is decided by me. If you are born in poverty, you should have the courage not to be afraid of difficulties, ambition, perseverance and indifference.

Born in the cold, you dare to look directly at the obstacles ahead, dare to face the bleak life, dare to break the shackles and pursue your dreams.

Being a poor son is difficult for a reason. Faced with economic difficulties, lack of learning resources and other difficulties, it is easy to shake people's hearts and gradually lose their morale. I regard this as an exercise in my life. Without tempering, it is difficult to shape quality, achieve greatness and taste life. Only those who have experienced tempering can better face the future, and only those who have experienced tempering can live a life that is not wasted. The greatest success is not afraid of tempering, breaking the shackles and daring to eradicate the thorns on the road of chasing dreams.

Children from poor families are strict with themselves and have a strong heart, which has been honed by thousands of experiences.