My aunt, how is your life going?

Basic situation: My father’s biological sister (my biological aunt) has just turned 60 and has never been married.

Current situation: quite miserable.

Tell her story.

My aunt was quite pretty when she was young, with fair skin and a good face. My grandfather was an accountant in the village at the time, and his family background was pretty good, so the material conditions allowed my aunt to have a fashionable short haircut and wear fashionable clothes. In terms of clothes, she can be said to be one of the hottest girls in the village.

However, she did not like reading but was rebellious. In her best years, she fell in love with the handsome barefoot doctor in the village, even though he had a family and was married with children. In the early 1980s, when reform and opening up was still in its early stages, it can be imagined that the social atmosphere in rural areas in northern Jiangsu was still conservative and feudal. My aunt had two pregnancies and abortions for this man. Each time, she induced labor more than 6 months into the pregnancy. She was criticized by many people, insulted and beaten by the other family members. She was rejected by her own family for a long time and was not allowed to enter the house. However, this man never He loved her so much that he left her original family for her, and kept letting her live together illegally in the county town despite being stigmatized.

Time passed quickly, and that man’s children began to grow up. In order not to affect the children’s marriage, he chose to leave her and bought them out at one time with a small house of less than 40 square meters in the county. All the past years. From now on, no more contact.

At that time, she was not too old, just over 40. Because she had a good foundation when she was young, she still had some good looks, and some men showed favor to her. However, in these years, she had become deformed. Her relationship experience has made her unaccustomed to a normal love life. She has lost confidence in men as she was abandoned in the end. Her years of being kept has made her habitually lazy and indolent. She started to play games, wandering around in different unmarried couples. /Married men exchange this for material rewards. Over the past ten years, she has held several jobs. Her education level was low, she was old, and she lacked work experience. It was difficult to find a job, but she could not stay in each job for long. She probably felt that the work was too tiring or I had a bad temper and had conflicts with leaders and colleagues. During this period, the only real estate, a small house of less than 40 square meters left to her by the first man, was demolished. She was overjoyed when she suddenly got a fortune. As a result, all the money was defrauded, and she had to suffer to save face. Her character made her never dare to tell the truth in front of her family, but in fact, her family knew everything.

When she was in her 50s, she finally realized the sense of crisis and wanted to save some pension money for herself. She went to nearby Shanghai to work as a nanny for two families, but because of a bad relationship with her employer, she eventually lost her job. Got a job.

Now that she is 60 years old, she already looks like a little old lady. Time has left age spots and wrinkles on her once beautiful face. Her once slender waist has changed beyond recognition, and her hair is gradually growing gray. As expected, time passes. Spare people. I had no fixed place to live in these years, so I had to apply for the government's low-income housing. I had to eat, drink, and survive. I could only go to work at an age when others were retiring, with an income of less than 2,000 a month. To survive in this world. The brothers and sisters have worked hard to manage the family and raise their children for many years. Now the children have grown up, live and work in peace and contentment in big or small cities, and even have grandchildren, starting to enjoy family happiness. Only she was still alone.

I don’t know if anyone has been waiting for her when she was sick all these years. I don’t know if they have wiped away her tears when she was wronged all these years. I don’t know if she looked at her sister’s little granddaughter who was already a toddler. A little envious, I wonder if there is anyone to accompany her through the loneliness on the stormy night, and I wonder if she will feel regret when she looks back at the years. However, there is never any regret medicine in this world.

She can be considered free and live her life as she pleases. However, as willful as the past was, the reality is as muddy as it is.

Life is not only about travel and delicious food in the circle of friends, but also about crying alone in the dark late at night.

Marriage or non-marriage is a personal choice. If you are not a practitioner of non-marriage, please do not use those hearsay "glorious cases" of selective blindness to influence (poison) the lives of others. .