I have been working outside for 4 years and cannot afford to buy a house or get married. How should I choose?

What does this matter have to do with the decision? How do you want to choose? Is there anything you need to choose? I don't quite understand the question, but it doesn't affect my understanding of your mood.

I have been working for five years, one year longer than you. Under normal circumstances, I cannot afford a house. And it is true that we cannot afford to get married now, but the problem lies here, what should we do? According to my understanding, the choice you are talking about refers more to changing a job that can make more money? Maybe so.

For me, I have been working for five years and my monthly salary is less than 3,000 yuan. In fact, I have also thought about changing jobs, but I am naturally a cautious person but not courageous. I think too much about everything. For example, if I want to change jobs, then I will think, what if the new job I change earns about the same as now, but has to pay more? What if the job I change is not as advanced as my current job? How long will I have to go without income before I quit this job and find another one? How will I survive?

You see, I already have so many concerns before I even start taking action, so the final result is that I am still hanging around with nothing changing.

However, this is not inevitable. Can't you think of other ways while having a job? It’s impossible that your current job leaves you with no spare time at all, right? If you make good use of your spare time, you can also increase your own value. Of course, what I do is relatively low-end and I just rely on selling my labor force in exchange for some money, but at least it is better than nothing. And it's only in my spare time. Anyway, it's a waste of time to go home and lie down. I can make a little bit.

Tell me about buying a house and getting married. It seems that you are quite traditional when you put buying a house first. Like me, you have to have your own home first before you think about getting married. I guess you already have it. Girlfriend, right? Otherwise, you wouldn’t talk about marriage directly, since your girlfriend hasn’t given up on you even though you have nothing. You should cherish it, then if both parties have reached the age of marriage and think they have the emotional foundation for marriage, then money is not so important. The worst case scenario is borrowing money to get married! Can a living person be choked to death by urinating?

In fact, you can think about it, borrowing money is not necessarily a bad thing, because there is a saying that without debt, you will be light-hearted, which means that if there is no external pressure, it may be difficult for you to work hard on the ground, so in your own Borrowing debt within the limit of your tolerance will also give you motivation! I owe almost one million now. Oh my god, I’m scared to think about it. My monthly salary is 2,000, and I owe one million. How many years will it take me to pay it off? But the reality is that it is already owed. But correspondingly, I own a house. Although it belongs to a bank, I pay off the monthly payment every month. Every time I pay back a little bit, a little bit of the house belongs to me.

Don’t worry about 4 years, or whether you can’t afford a house or get married. What you should really think about is: Why can’t I have a house, a car, and cable to get married? How can I accomplish these goals?