What does it feel like to reach middle age?

When people reach middle age, their thoughts become more and more mature, they see through a lot and have more and more experience.

When people reach middle age, everything seems to be fixed, such as career, family and so on. It seems so, and it seems that this is the only way. I am still confused about the joy and superiority brought by success, and occasionally I will encourage myself. Now my efforts are still coming, but it is too late to succeed.

When people reach middle age, many feelings become deeper and deeper.

1. It's normal for people to come and go. Some people come into your world, and some people go out of your world. The older you get, the fewer people in your life. Some people come into your life just to teach you a lesson and then turn around and leave. Some people used to be very close to you, but then suddenly they lost contact with you forever. But we are used to all this.

It's normal to be said behind your back. Who doesn't talk behind people's backs, don't care too much about what others think of you. As long as your heart is strong enough, no one can influence you.

3. The ultimate outcome of man is to leave this world. Nothing is more important than a healthy body when people reach middle age. If you get sick at that moment, you will know that health is a luxury. Living well and living healthily is the most important thing.

4. People are snobbish animals. Others treat you according to your status and available value, but it doesn't matter to others whether you are good or not. When you are down and out, even your relatives will look down on you. When you contact them, their first reaction is to borrow money again.

5. live high, live a happy life. Everything in the past is not important, what is important is to live down-to-earth every day in the future.

6. Only by stopping all thinking can you be truly happy. Your mind is a carnival for one person. No matter what you think, you will eventually repay it with loneliness. Everyone is busy, and no one will care about your strange things.

Before and after I got married, I bought three houses one after another. On the edge of the outer ring of Shanghai, a suite has a loan, a daughter and a scooter.

My wife and I are both only children. We are locals of Magic Capital. Our parents are ordinary workers and farmers. We were lucky to catch up with the relocation policy. Our homestead has been moved, and our parents also have pension and medical insurance.

After graduating from college, I entered this unit 14 years. I used to be the youngest department-level cadre in my unit, but with the change of personality and leadership, I was gradually marginalized. My position has not changed for nearly 10 years, and I have reached the professional ceiling.

At that time, I chose this unit and insisted on 10 for many years. I value being close to home and having a stable job.

For the current salary, although it is not as good as the surrounding peers, it is still quite satisfactory. When I first joined the work, I took public examinations many times and wanted to enter the system, but I was stuck in the interview stage. Later, with the growth of age, I gradually lost the idea of retaking the exam.

Almost 40 years old, people reach middle age. Now I think it's good to chat with my parents for dinner every day and take them around when I have time. My daughter is now studying in an ordinary public primary school near her home, and she has not participated in much extracurricular training.

Because my wife is a teacher and is responsible for the usual education, my parents help me pick up and drop off from school. Usually responsible for cooking and other housework.

Usually, I don't have much entertainment when I go to work overtime, and I live a nine-to-five and two-point and one-line life. I don't pay much attention to food and clothing now, just clean and concise, and keep a certain amount of exercise every week.

For the future, I just want to retire quickly and walk around with my wife; Parents are healthy and safe; Daughters can study hard, find a suitable job, find a lover they like and live a happy life.

About the house: I want to say that the lot I bought is close to the outer ring, and the price of 2-3 houses is not as high as that of houses in the same area in the urban area, and the rent is not high.

10 years ago, there were no restrictions on buying houses in Shanghai, with a low down payment ratio and a 50% discount on loans. There was no big concept of school district housing.

My husband and wife are middle school classmates and have similar living habits. Two people can stay at their parents' house on weekdays and weekends without spending too much money. Marry your parents, give some bride price, add provident fund and commercial loans to buy a house. I can only say it's a coincidence. Like the house prices around us now, with our current income, it is very difficult to buy a suite.

For my own career, I used to work in the unit, but it was out of tune with the style of state-owned enterprises. Many people are not used to it and do not consider the feelings of leaders and others. After being gradually marginalized, I was very painful and depressed for a while and thought about resigning.

But I'm not afraid of jokes. I have been in state-owned enterprises for a long time and have no courage to resign. On the one hand, there are different opinions in my family. On the other hand, I feel that I have given up my job for ten years and have no confidence and ability to find a stable job again.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, they will slowly relax, and when they see that their previous positions are not as good as their own people's promotion, they will inevitably feel a little more lost and unwilling. I think as time goes on, my thoughts will gradually disappear.

In recent years, it has become more and more low-key and there are not many friends. My wife and I don't have high material requirements. I don't smoke, and I don't like drinking and playing games. I don't have any requirements for electronic products or cars. It's good to have enough. It's been nine and a half years since the last car, and now my mobile phone has been used for almost five years.

Wife doesn't buy expensive bags and cosmetics. I may have lived in the suburbs since I was a child. I have never seen the world, and my income is not high. I just want to save some money to deal with the health risks of my family in the future. At the same time, I can also save some money for my daughter's dowry in the future, so that I can have a little confidence.

We don't have much chicken blood for our daughter's education. At present, the extracurricular activities of Daughter Newspaper only sign up for the art training activities in Shaoke Station and Children's Palace. At present, extracurricular tutoring is taught by my wife every day. As for my daughter, I always hope that she can stay with me and become a teacher or doctor in the future. But this is just her personal opinion. When she grows up, she will have her own ideas.

My parents are almost 70 years old. The usual fun is watching videos, playing mahjong at noon, picking up our children after 3: 30 in the afternoon and buying or cooking some dishes for us. I really appreciate them.

Parents also have their own life circle, and they can travel with mahjong partners and friends regularly, but this year they have never traveled far because of the epidemic.

We will take the children to my parents' house at the weekend. Our parents have no material requirements for us. They have old-age insurance and medical insurance, and each has a relocated house for rent. I just hope it won't cause us any trouble.

This is the life experience of an ordinary middle-aged person, ordinary and monotonous, timid and boring. Although I still have yearning and longing in my heart, the responsibility is still on me. There is still a long way to go. I wonder what will happen in the future.

Sometimes I think: What kind of life have I been pursuing when I reach middle age?

What I want to pursue is the stability and balance between myself, my family and my career. On this basis, I will work hard. Even if one aspect develops slowly, as long as the overall stability and balance are maintained, I think it is worthwhile.

Metaphorically speaking, I think life is like a stool with three legs, which represent self, family and career respectively. Too long or too short legs will affect the balance. The three maintain a stable balance, and you can sit down regardless of your status or wealth.

It's a long story. Tell me what it's like to be middle-aged.

Middle-aged laid-off, want to cry, never give up in order to survive, struggling to find in confusion, reborn in despair.

/kloc-joined the work at the age of 0/4 and worked as a middle-level cadre in a large state-owned enterprise. My future is in full swing. Catch up with the restructuring of state-owned enterprises, and the state-owned enterprises with good benefits have become private enterprises overnight. Thousands of employees and I were swept out of the house and lost their jobs.

Middle-aged me, there are old people in the world and young people in the world, and my family has lost its only source of livelihood. A family of four or five has to wait for dinner, and a pair of children go to school on my salary. What should I do?

My husband and wife are completely disappointed. On the night I will never forget, my wife fried a dish and a peanut bean. I took out a bottle of Erguotou, poured half a bowl and drank it all at once. I felt an indescribable heat flow in my heart and went straight to my brain. My eyes are moist, and tears are in my eyes.

The lover said, "order, don't drink so much white wine in one gulp." She looked at my eyes moist and wanted to say something. On the tip of her tongue, she swallowed it again and managed to squeeze out a sentence: "God never shuts one door but he opens another, the trend of the times, so let fate take its course"!

I reached out my trembling hand, picked up the remaining half bottle of Erguotou, and poured it into the bowl again. I hold it in my hand and want to drink it again. My wife grabbed the wine bowl and said, "Don't drink any more. The family is counting on you to live."

At this time, I got up and came to the balcony, looked up at the dark and endless factories and mines in the distance, sighed a long time, and looked down at the entire staff residential area, which was full of buildings and a bungalow, and every household was brightly lit.

I know that I have never seen the lights of every household during the Spring Festival, and thousands of employees of state-owned enterprises have fallen into a state of confusion like me.

Only then did I really understand what the working class is and what the proletariat is, and I became a member of the proletariat before I knew it.

At that time, millions of college students faced employment difficulties, and some people lost their jobs in middle age. At that time, there was too much porridge to find a job. What should I do?

Listen to Liu Huan's song "Start from scratch", cheer up, be young again, start over, and go to the society to find the most bitter and tiring job. As long as there is work, no matter what the salary, work hard so that everyone in the family can have a mouth to eat.

Bricks were moved on the construction site, the walls were built, the mine went down, and the harvester was pushed by a pneumatic drill. As long as you earn money, where can you stand being dirty and tired? I dare not neglect for a moment, and I will fight the disease until I fall ill on the construction site.

I have worked on the construction site for more than ten years, and I am over 50 years old. Unfortunately, I got a rare disease and was rejected by several famous big hospitals.

There are old people to live in the world, and my children have to go to school. I don't want to fall. Look at my colleagues. Many of them are under 50 years old and in their early 50 s. Because of overwork, they give up halfway.

Do I have to go their way? Don't! I will never give up halfway. I will fight until I retire, and a better life will beckon me in the future. I can't ...

I fell on the bed, tried my own prescription while working, risked my life and finally succeeded in the experiment. I cured a rare disease and returned to work.

Fate always torments me like this. Soon after I got sick, I found out cancer again and started a long road of seeking medical treatment. I spent all my savings. With the help of relatives and friends, after a series of radiotherapy and chemotherapy and surgery, he finally saved his life.

What should I do in the face of high medical expenses? I had to give up treatment and drag my dying body up the mountain to collect medicine and prescribe anti-cancer drugs.

Many things happened, and I miraculously survived again. My son gave me four years of labor insurance, and I finally made it to retirement. Now I can enjoy my old age carefree.

Looking back on the course of life, beauty lies in childhood, restraint in adolescence, fatigue in middle age, and real happiness in old age.

Childhood is to enjoy the happiness of parents and grow up happily. Teenagers study hard and accumulate knowledge under the guidance of social education and family, laying the foundation for independent social existence in the future.

Young and middle-aged people are the process of integrating into society and practicing the value of your life. This process can be said to be ruthless, and it is also a process that you can't shirk.

Middle-aged people are you who shoulder social responsibilities and family obligations. You have no choice but to move forward with a heavy load, and your body gradually overdraws and goes downhill. It's just a ground donkey. As long as you have breath, you will move forward.

Any society, any environment, as long as there are people, competition will be different. Some people live a comfortable life and have a smooth sailing. Some people have been busy all their lives and are hungry. That is the reality.

So, no matter where you are, don't complain about injustice. As long as people gather in the world, there will be injustice. The existence of the law of the jungle virtually divides human beings into three classes. In a law of the jungle society, if we don't possess social resources, we must try our best to sell our labor force to support our families.

The only thing we can comfort ourselves is to adjust our mentality, face the reality and strive to realize the survival value of life in society.