Once you had a very trusted friend. But he no longer trusted him because he listened to the slander of others, and even despised him for a time. Can we still be friends?

A bowl is broken, even if it sticks back as good as new, do you dare to drink soup with it?

I can see that this friend is sincere to you. But the more sincere the other person is to you, the more harm you will do to him! In fact, even so, if you ask him for help again, he will be very generous if he doesn't refuse you! People should be content, and it is already very good to get along like this at present. As for whether it can be bridged in the future, the key lies not in him, but in you!

Many people fall into two dilemmas when making friends: one is utilitarian making friends, which is actually interested in each other's appearance, identity, status, wealth, ability, contacts and so on. There are also so-called "friends" who can eat and play together.

So what is a true friend? Take my good friend as an example.

First of all, tell me how I made friends with him. A married woman in the company took the initiative to flirt with me several times, but I refused. I didn't want it to be seen by people with ulterior motives, so I spread the news that I had proper relationship with this woman at work, even to this woman's husband. In order to save her marriage, a woman slandered me and tried to hide her hidden rules and plot against her. For a time, my colleagues in the unit regarded me as a morally corrupt person. Usually it's not bad for several people to make friends, and some are still speculating about what I call "privacy". For example, I live in a dormitory and like to go out for a walk alone at night, usually for an hour or two. Someone seriously speculated that I was looking for a woman. I don't like to disturb others. If I am hospitalized because of drug allergy, I don't want anyone to visit me. Some people say that I may have a dirty disease. It's just that he has repeatedly insisted that according to his observation and understanding, I am not that kind of person and don't believe that I would do such a thing. This incident has been going on for a long time, because there are women "testifying" and so-called "witnesses", and the unit almost fired me. In the end, because there were no other witnesses and evidence, the matter went away. Later, others found out that this woman was having an affair with two or three men before they understood what was going on! However, from then on, I made a new friend and broke up with several people who made irresponsible remarks when they were down.

Later this friend told me about his past. In college, because of family difficulties, he went to a bar near the school to be a singer. He sings well, looks ok, and soon became popular, and his income is considerable. I was in a dormitory with him at that time, so I asked him to take it to the bar from time to time. Only one classmate didn't go. Who knows, where is the blessing, where is the disaster. The underworld is after him, extortion. There is a rich woman who comes to pay tribute to him every day. Her husband found out and found someone to beat him up. During that time, he was too scared to go to the bar for a long time, and his living expenses were gone. As a result, that classmate had a heart-to-heart conversation with him. After learning about his situation, I took the initiative to persuade him not to go to the bar as a singer again. Although the income is good, but the risk is too great, it is suggested that he find a work-study program at school. At that time, he felt that the income from work-study program was not low, and he was afraid that other students would know that he looked down on him. As a result, this classmate promised to work and study with him. So they became best friends.

Therefore, a true friend lies in "heart-to-heart". A friend is misunderstood, so you should trust him. When a friend is in trouble, you should not only help him, but also take care of his face. Of course, don't trust blindly when making friends. Only after experiencing the test can we see the essence of a person clearly!