Why do people feel less and less friends and more and more lonely when they are forty?

Forty years old, under normal circumstances, there are old people and young people in the world.

At this age, everyone has to cope with the pressure of family and work. So I don't have much spare time to exercise. So correspondingly, there will be fewer and fewer friends.

True friends don't need to contact each other, but when it comes to the key, they will still be connected; Friends in the general sense, if they are not together, there will be no relationship.

Forty is not confused. A lot of things, I will see more. Don't care too much.

Forty years old, I know some things to do and some things not to do.

And some things, knowing that you can't do it, are helpless. Some words were said, but it was useless.

Slowly, many things can only be borne by yourself. No one can say for sure. Will be more and more lonely.

People have changed and their mentality has changed.

However, if you face it, it is the most critical. Some people will choose to escape; Some people choose to bear; And some people will face difficulties. ...

Everyone has his own way, and everyone has his own way of life.

Low-level social interaction is not as good as being alone ... If you are not at an ideological level, an economic level or a social level, your views and opinions on things are not at the same level. Do you think it is necessary to talk about it?

Impetuous society, unpredictable people's hearts, and realistic environment that can't afford to get up early; Others will not help you for no reason, let alone give alms to help you. ...

Can only say that the more you play, the more realistic it is. We all contact each other carefully for fear of losing friends carelessly. If you complain that the society is too realistic, it is better to complain about people's hearts than to go back decades. ...

Time is an hourglass. When people are over forty, many people in life are filtered out, and most of them are true friends. Loneliness is the normal state of life, and everyone will eventually become lonely.

When we are young, we hope our life will be rich and colorful, and we will make friends everywhere. We even regard making friends as a top priority, believing that it is a well-connected person and that "there are many friends and many roads". Some people often ignore the opposition of their families and ask their friends to go out for karaoke, preferring to offend their families rather than their friends. This is called the just war.

Slowly, you find that some people are not suitable to be your friends, some people don't treat you as friends, some people don't reach out when you need help, some people are unable to help when you need help, some people become more and more strangers because of the change of environment, and some people just walk away. I haven't contacted your good friend who was inseparable for a long time, and my good friend who was drunk is no longer in contact. Those so-called friends who have eaten and dealt with several times have disappeared from your life because there is no interest support. Therefore, you have fewer and fewer friends, and sometimes you feel lonely. But at this age, you don't want to make friends as you did when you were young. You would rather stay at home quietly alone than waste time making friends with people with different aspirations.

I had a very good friend when I was a child. After graduating from junior high school, she dropped out of school and I continued to go to school. One winter vacation, I went to her house to find her. She is playing mahjong and doesn't want to talk to me. I stood for a while and then left. Then she got married and went out to work. We haven't seen each other for over 30 years. When we met during the Spring Festival the year before last, we felt very strange and had nothing to say. After a few words, the former best friends left each other, because the living environment has changed, we haven't seen each other for more than 30 years, and there is no language. We can only cherish each other by recalling our childhood friendship.

As people in their forties, we don't need many friends, and a few people are enough to talk to each other. Too many friends will only consume too much time and energy. It is the best choice to make friends.

As for loneliness, this is the normal state of life. With the departure of relatives, children's travel, friends' separation, etc. Everyone will eventually become lonely, and it is everyone's ultimate task to adapt to and enjoy loneliness.