Marriage is your own, children are your own, and you live very tired. Why did your mother-in-law become the culprit?

Unmarried people yearn for marriage, while married people always want to get out of the misery. I really don't know what happened to humans. Always living in such contradictions.

Whenever I give up the idea of falling in love, there is a wave of dog food hitting me on the Internet, which makes people envious and vows to try to find someone. Whenever the idea of finding a partner is ignited, the news hot search is domestic violence and derailment, and I immediately feel that being single is not bad.

What exactly is marriage?

I think marriage has nothing to do with love, but more of a responsibility. If one wants to get more love from marriage, I advise you not to get married. Love of life is better than marriage.

When we enter the marriage hall, we should shed our childishness and tell ourselves that when we grow up, we should behave like adults in our later life, and don't give up easily in the battle of marriage defense.

Yes, as long as you get married, no one wants to divorce, and everyone wants to live forever. Women, in particular, will regard marriage as a bargaining chip in their life and cannot let themselves lose. Perhaps, some men don't care so much about marriage, but what I want to say is that it is a minority after all. If you are unlucky, you can only blame yourself for being blind.

There are many factors that lead to the breakdown of marriage. I think the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very hot topic. Men are easily angered by splints if they don't deal with them, and they are not people inside and outside.

Recently, Zhao Li was very confused, complaining to me that it was too tired in this big city, Shenzhen, which operated 24 hours a day, as if it were going to explode. My husband doesn't understand himself and often talks back to her. Sometimes he really wants a divorce, but the child is only 8 months old and divorced. What can he do in the future?

All this confusion and anxiety actually appeared after giving birth to a child.

I thought my mother-in-law could help with the children. She and her husband worked hard for their careers, but after her mother-in-law came to the rural areas of Shenzhen, she did not adapt. She stayed for a month or two and then went home, leaving only her father-in-law in her sixties to take care of the children here.

Although my father-in-law is helping with the children, he is a man and old. Zhao Li's inner discomfort and reluctance caused him to lose his temper easily and quarrel with her husband.

She put all the responsibility on her mother-in-law, thinking that her mother-in-law is too melodramatic, why can't she be as great as other people's mother-in-law and can't stand any hardships. The more she thought about it, the angrier she got. She took all her anger out on her husband.

Originally a loving couple, now the relationship is indifferent to the extreme. Zhao Li said that she had postpartum depression, and she cried many times while watching her children. She doesn't want to send her children back to her hometown and countryside for fear that poor conditions will affect their growth. Stay with me. I have to go to work to earn money and support my family. I don't have much time to take care of it. There are many contradictions!

After all kinds of crying, she blamed her mother-in-law in her heart, thinking that she was not a good mother-in-law and that her mother-in-law had made her live such a hard life.

Zhao Li's experience is actually the experience of most people in current society. Two people work hard outside, have children, but don't want to send them back to their hometown, and both want to stay and grow up. However, the pressure of life is so great, how can a person work to maintain the life of a family?

How happy it would be if an old man came from the countryside to the city to help him take care of his children.

There are many such things around me. Although the old people have come, I have never seen a smile on their faces. It seems that I really want to escape, but what about my grandson after I leave?

So sometimes I really respect and admire those old people who can take care of their sons far away from home. They may not expect anything, but they just want their children to live comfortably and have less pressure, even if they are wronged and depressed in a big city of reinforced concrete.

However, I don't blame those old people who left, and they don't want to stay in big cities with their grandchildren. There is nothing wrong with them, but they can't stand the repression in big cities.

Many of our young people go hiking in the suburbs on weekends and holidays to release the anxiety caused by reinforced concrete, not to mention the elderly who have lived in the countryside for decades.

The children are born by ourselves, the marriage is our own, and the old people can help us take care of them. We are grateful, but we can't take care of them for us. If we have them, we can't hold grudges, let alone be unfilial, and we won't come and go in the future.

Put yourself in their shoes. How can we adapt to the sudden changes in the environment that we have lived in for decades? It's like suddenly having a child in your life. If you were asked to resign and take care of the children at home, would you accept it?

A happy marriage needs your own efforts. Don't pin everything on others. The solution is always more difficult than it is. Don't cling to one thing. As long as the husband loves you and the children are healthy in marriage, it really doesn't matter whether you are poor or bitter. Everything will be fine when the children grow up slowly!