As the old saying goes, it's too late to speak.

Editor of World Chronicle

As the saying goes: "If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer."

The old man said, "You are lucky to sleep flat." . But in fact, sleeping in a flat head is not only unlucky, but also affects the child's face value and IQ.

The old man said, "You are late." . However, if we don't pay attention to the fact that children speak late, it may lead to great disaster.

"A child's prosperity is bound to bring disaster", "Life is not long, look down at your feet", "Age depends on three years old, and age depends on seven years old" ......

Did the old man say science? If you don't listen to the older generation, will you really suffer a big loss in life?

This is a nursery rhyme in northern China. It can be clearly seen that the older generation really has a soft spot for "flat heads", and children who are not flat heads will try their best to sleep them into flat heads. Vivi, who lives in Shandong, had such a helpless and speechless experience.

20 19, Vivi lives with her mother-in-law after marriage. On weekdays, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along very well, and there are no terrorist incidents such as "mother-in-law's war" and "mother-in-law's abuse of daughter-in-law". So, Simon has always respected her mother-in-law, and they almost never quarreled.

Including Vivi's pregnancy, even if she is emotionally unstable during pregnancy and often loses her temper for no reason, her mother-in-law will smile and comfort her and take good care of her. Even after the child was born, her mother-in-law took care of her day and night and never complained. Simon Simon's kindness to her mother-in-law has always been in her eyes, and she is also very grateful.

But one thing, Simon Simon is very concerned. Mother-in-law is bent on sleeping her child in a flat head. She always puts a hardcover book on the back of the child's head, and her mouth always mutters "Good luck with a flat head" and "Good looks with a flat head".

Vivi, who has been educated in the new era, doesn't know whether her mother-in-law's "good crew cut" is true, but she doesn't agree with this sentence. Why? Vivi, who usually pays more attention to entertainment news, can often see the comparison between stars, including "flat head" and "round head". Everyone says round heads look good, flat heads look ugly, and she thinks so.

But very helpless, Vivi complained to her husband, who also said that the older generation was experienced. They are just novice parents, so listen to their mother. Vivi can't beat her mother-in-law, so the child still sleeps on the Xinhua Dictionary. Later, seeing that her mother-in-law's "flat plan" was about to succeed, a doctor friend from Vivi came to see her. As soon as I entered the door, I saw the child sleeping with a book on his pillow, and my friend frowned. Then she looked at Vivi and told her softly, "It's not good to take the book under the child's head."

Mother-in-law saw Simon Simon get a "hard book pillow", a face of displeasure, and said that she also tried every means to obstruct Simon Simon's behavior. It was not until doctors and friends told her mother-in-law about the dangers of deliberately giving her children a flat head that her mother-in-law was willing to let go, but she was still dubious and dissatisfied.

Then, why do the older generation have such a deep obsession with children sleeping on their backs? What are the hazards of "sleeping flat"?

"The dross of traditional culture"

China is a big country with a history and civilization of more than 5,000 years. Since ancient times, many cultural treasures and traditional customs have been handed down. "Sleeping flat head" is one of them, but it is a bad habit.

In the Republic of China, it was published in the annals of Chinese national customs:

As a "nation on horseback", Manchu was defeated by excellent strength. Ancestors believe that: firstly, sleeping with a flat head can make the "anti-bone" disappear, showing "faithfulness and good appearance"; secondly, sleeping with a flat head will make your face big, your forehead full and you will have a "good fortune".

Therefore, when Manchu babies are born, they will sleep in the cradle covered with hard boards on the ground floor, with a hard pillow full of rice on their heads and lie on their backs. They believe that babies who sleep in this way are blessed with "a complete paradise and beautiful Fiona Fang".

But this statement has not been scientifically confirmed.

Unknown harm of "flat head syndrome"

When the baby was born, there were many cranial sutures in the head, which were not completely closed and ossified, relying on soft tissue connection. Therefore, when a normal child is born, his head is very soft and elastic, and the baby sleeps and rests most of the time. Therefore, if the head keeps a posture for a long time, it will collapse and deform like plasticine.

"Flat head" is to keep the baby lying flat for a long time, and the head is caused by hard objects. After the flat head is formed, it will bring a lot of harm to the baby in the future.

1. Total face value

In the past, the old man said that there was a "blessing", but it was actually only aimed at men, so that men had a "national face" that looked righteous. But woman, how ugly a "pie face" should be! According to the flat-headed sleeping method, not only the face is prominent, but also the cheekbones are prominent, which has the situation of "covering the sky".

To say that the "flat head" has the greatest impact on the face value, of course, it belongs to the head. There is no radian, whether it is short hair or ponytail, the hair is attached to the scalp. Compared with the "round head", the shortcomings appear immediately.

If a child's face value is influenced by a flat head, it will be laughed at by the students around him, resulting in psychological problems such as inferiority and self-abandonment.

Step 2 be healthy

Deliberately "sleeping flat" has actually changed the natural structure of head development, compared with the natural sleeping posture. Cranial deformation affects the development of brain volume, and the organs of the head will be affected to varying degrees. Such as astigmatism, strabismus, hearing deficiency and so on. , will seriously affect the intellectual development and nerve development everywhere.

The key point is that these different degrees of symptoms are late and not obvious, and they are generally not noticed until the child grows up. Once this happens, it will be too late to correct it.

So, pass the science on to your family, and don't ruin your child's life because of "rumors".

Before the baby is born for 6 months, if it is found that the baby is sleeping flat, it can be corrected in a targeted manner to help the child turn over, sleep in a variety of different postures, learn to lie down more, and strengthen the muscle exercise of the back and neck. You can also use a fixed sleeping pillow, which can be restored to a "round head" under normal circumstances.

"Since ancient times, people have talked too little" is a common saying of many older people. What does this mean? In other words, it is a good thing for children to talk late, which means that they will become richer and richer when they grow up.

But is this really the case? Ms. Wang from Jiangxi almost killed her 6-year-old son because of this sentence!

Ms. Wang's son, Cong Cong, is 6 years old, but he doesn't look as smart as his name. Other children are 6 years old, let alone reading an article, at least communicating with others is no problem. But Cong Cong is only 6 years old and hasn't said a complete sentence yet. Every time he speaks, he opens his mouth and reads two words.

The reason why this happens is to blame the child's grandmother and Ms. Wang. It's strange that she has been listening to her mother-in-law say that "the nobles speak late." Generally speaking, children can be spoiled when they are 4 or 5 months old. At the age of one, you can call yourself mom and dad. When I was about two years old, it was no problem to express myself in simple words.

Ke Congcong, two years old, not only can't express himself, but even his voice is hard to pronounce. Ms. Wang and her husband looked at the child like this, distressed and confused. Whenever asked about her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law always said, "Don't worry, take your time. Sun Tzu's late words are "late words of nobles", and there is much to be done in the future!

After listening to her mother-in-law's explanation, the couple's anxiety eased a little, thinking that her mother-in-law had been here after all and had seen countless children. Maybe Congcong really just talked late. He should relax. In this way, taking the children to the hospital for examination has been blocked and delayed by her mother-in-law's "good advice".

Time flies, when Cong Cong was 6 years old. Because he will go to primary school in the second half of the year, Cong Cong still won't say a complete sentence. Isn't it necessary for children to suffer from different eyes, rejection and bullying at school?

Ms. Wang feels that her son's affairs can't be delayed any longer. Despite her mother-in-law's efforts, she took Cong Cong to the hospital for a comprehensive examination. This survey made Ms. Wang anxious and angry. The doctor said: Cong Cong's head has a cavernous hemangioma 3 cm in size. This hemangioma is congenital, that is to say, when Cong Cong was born, something grew in his brain.

The doctor also said that fortunately, Ms. Wang brought the child in time. If it is a year or two later, the child will not only be unable to speak, but also have symptoms of bleeding and cramping. At that time, the treatment will not be so simple, and the life risk will be greatly increased.

The doctor immediately arranged an operation for Cong Cong. After the resection of hemangioma, Cong Cong recovered quickly, and there was no need to "split" his speech. His expressive ability and learning ability are not lost to others.

The child is 6 years old and can't talk. Should I say that parents are really big-hearted or have a good attitude? It doesn't make sense to say that all this is because my mother-in-law said that "nobles speak late" Young people in the new era do not believe in medicine, but believe in some unclear "proverbs" and "old people's words", so there is no need for social progress!

"Noble people talk late" is indeed an old saying. There is such a passage in The Analects:

But the noble people here refer to people who are strategic, who are not good at words but dare to do things, rather than "noble people" handed down from the people and later imposed.

Then, if it is superstition to say that "aristocrats speak late", is it really because of the low level of intellectual development that children speak late?

Therefore, once the child refuses to speak for a long time, first of all, don't think that the old man said "the nobles speak late", and don't blindly think that the child is mentally retarded and ignore the child. After all, Einstein, a famous scientist, didn't start talking until he was 7 years old. It is right to go to the hospital as soon as possible.

So, what are the reasons why children usually talk late?

1. Infant's own brain development and congenital genetic diseases

Language development and brain development are actually synchronized, such as cerebral palsy and autism. , affect brain development, but also cause different degrees of language development retardation. There are also children like Cong Cong who suffer from congenital hemangioma and hereditary chromosome diseases, and they will lag behind others in the beginning of language ability.

2. complementary food is too delicate

Babies who eat liquid or liquid food for a long time after birth are easy to be digested by the fragile digestive system. However, if children use food that is too soft and rotten for a long time, their chewing function will not be properly exercised, which will affect the development of oral muscles and thus the development of language.

Therefore, we should pay attention to children's diet and avoid language barriers.

3. Language environment

When children learn to know the world, they spend the most time with their parents and family. If the communication time between parents and children is less, the language environment is too single; Adults talk to children too fast and too long, and they don't leave enough time for thinking, which will also affect children's language function.

But for whatever reason, if the child appears, it is too late to speak. If there is a problem with language expression, seek medical advice in time and improve as soon as possible, so as not to affect the child's future life.

It is said that "if you don't listen to the old man, you will lose money", but in recent years, there have been many cases of "listening to the old man for several years". Not to say that we should abandon all "old people's words", but to "have a choice and have no choice."

In addition to the above, such old people's sayings as "a child is full of misfortune", "a baby is born without breaking the moon" and "seeing the old at the age of three" are all unscientific.

It is a happy event for a family to carry on the family line and have children. As long as it can ensure the safety of pregnant women and their babies, there are not so many rules. A child's personality and habits can't be the "bane" of a family, and he hasn't "fixed" his future path. God doesn't know what the future holds.

Proverbs such as "eat radish in winter and ginger in summer, without a doctor's prescription", "don't sit on a stone in winter, don't sit on a tree in summer" and "freeze in spring and freeze in autumn, don't get sick" embody the great wisdom of "the old man said" and contain many scientific truths, which are worth learning.

Therefore, one thing is not absolutely good or bad, just like "the old man said" is not without right or wrong. As a new generation of new human beings, even technology and new times can be created, but can't you tell the old saying from the bad?