What should a good parent-child relationship be like?

Parents should be independent

In a family, the most important relationship is the relationship between husband and wife, and then the parent-child relationship. Good parental relationship can cultivate mentally healthy children. A healthy family relationship means that parents bring up their children, bring them to a vast world, and let them explore their own world independently, instead of tying their children's world tightly to their own lives. If children are given the most important position in the family, parents' love for their children will be biased; In the process of children's education, all kinds of problems will arise, and misreading of love will occur. These problems will even continue until the children have their own families and incorrect parent-child relationship, which will turn into a bad mother-in-law problem and a bad relationship between father-in-law and son-in-law, and then lead to the incorrect parent-child model of the next generation, which will continue from generation to generation. Therefore, the first key to establishing a good parent-child relationship is that parents should be independent.

Let the children be independent

When the children are young, mothers don't take the independence of the children as a big problem, thinking that the children are still young and it will be fine when they grow up. Love takes the growth of children as the primary task, and constantly adjusts its role as a parent according to the development and changes of children. From unconditional love, to letting children explore the world by themselves, and finally, cultivating children to become people with independent consciousness and personality. However, education often deviates between square inches, and parents all over the world will think that what they provide to their children is the best love. Children have to do everything by themselves, and they don't believe in their abilities, so a vicious circle eventually forms: the less they trust their children, the worse their abilities, the more they rely on their parents, and the less they trust their children.