I am busy at work and have no time to pick up and drop off my children, but what should I do if my children don't want to go to a custody class?

Hao Hao, I'm Xinyu's mother. Let me answer this question.

For Ma Bao, a busy baby, the child doesn't like to go to the custody class, but because the baby is young and no one is in custody at ordinary times, he has to choose to let the baby go to the custody class. Parents also feel that it is often a headache.

In fact, there are many objective reasons why children don't want to go. Parents must carefully find out the specific reasons in order to solve this problem correctly. Generally, babies don't want to go to nurseries, mainly for the following reasons:

1, kindergarten teachers are very demanding and teachers are also very demanding of their children. Children will be criticized if they answer wrong, so they will be beaten. In desperation, some parents had to transfer their children to kindergartens. Although the conditions were a little worse, the children finally became interested in kindergarten.

2. The best friend who played turned and left, and no one played with him.

Some children don't want to go to kindergarten because they don't have good friends to play with, so they may have resistance to kindergarten.

In this regard, parents should enlighten their children and encourage them to actively play with other friends, so that children with playmates will not be lonely and will like kindergarten.

3, the mood is lost

Children don't want to go to kindergarten, which may be caused by mood loss. Maybe the children are in a hurry to wash and eat after getting up, and the overall rhythm is very fast, and they are not ready for kindergarten.

Parents may wish to leave some expectations for their children in the morning, such as telling them that there will be a small surprise when they come back at night, so that they can be full of expectations and reduce their resistance to kindergartens.

First of all, parents tell their children why they must go to kindergarten.

Children over the age of two and three already have their own understanding of many things, and they are gradually able to understand some truths and accept the reality that they have to accept.

Parents should tell their children why they have to go to kindergarten.

For example, mom and dad have to go to work to earn money to support their families, and grandparents are in poor health and can't accompany their babies during the day. Babies need kindergarten teachers to take care of them during the day, play games with children, make new friends, and repeatedly pass this information on to children, so that children can slowly accept this arrangement.

Second, parents should promise to pick up their children on time.

Many parents are busy with work and various affairs, which may lead to the failure to finish the promised things on time. However, when dealing with the problem of picking up and dropping off children, especially in the early anxiety period of children entering the park, we must be on time. Parents can tell their children when to send their children to kindergarten every day, when parents will come to kindergarten to pick them up, and explain the time and preconditions to their children (such as after meals, after exercise, after the teacher tells the story in the afternoon, etc.). ), let your children have clear psychological expectations and patience, which will help improve their endurance. Parents must also arrive at the kindergarten in time at the appointed time to let the children know that you are punctual and relax slowly.

Communicate with teachers to help children get familiar with the environment.

In kindergarten for three or four years, the teachers who accompany children are the most. For children who have just entered the park, parents should cooperate with the teachers to help them get familiar with the kindergarten environment and teachers as soon as possible, and build trust between them. At the same time, when sending children to kindergarten in the morning, we should interact with them more, observe many subtle new things, attract their attention with kindergarten scenes, divert their attention and anxiety about not going to kindergarten, and gradually alleviate their anxiety.

Discuss kindergarten life with children more, and stimulate children's desire for expression and pride.

Parents can often chat with their children, talk about interesting people and things in kindergarten, learn about their children's situation from teachers, affirm their children's performance in kindergarten, and make them feel that their life in kindergarten is happy and interesting, and their performance in kindergarten is worthy of pride. At this time, children generally have some psychology of competition and conformity, so we can seize this psychology and praise and encourage them more.

Remember never to ask your child if he has had enough to eat, slept well or fought with children in kindergarten, so as not to make him think that he will face various problems in kindergarten and increase his anxiety.

I have a friend who is very busy at work, and just because grandma can't help pick up and drop off the children, she wants to send them to a custody class. Hearing that he was going to the trusteeship class, the child was very unhappy, crying and making trouble.

Friends are also very distressed about their children, so they ask around. Later, they found a care class, and the children were very satisfied. I'll share with you some key points of my friends' choice of hosting classes.

First, there are acquaintances in the custody class. Children are very dependent on their parents when they are young, and they will be a little disappointed if they don't see their parents pick them up at first sight after school. It would be much better to manage acquaintances in the class.

In the trusteeship class chosen by this friend, there is a child and a close friend. They leave school together, go to training classes together, do their homework together, and then wait for their parents to pick them up in the game.

What is even more rare is that a teacher and a friend of the training class live in a community and are usually quite familiar with each other. The teacher is very kind and the children like her.

Second, the interest class of the custody class. My friend's children have been learning calligraphy. Last year's Spring Festival couplets were written by my own children. In this training class, in addition to tutoring homework, there are calligraphy classes, painting classes, handicraft classes and so on.

The child is happy to practice calligraphy in the trusteeship class, because this is her specialty and hobby. When people are immersed in what they like, they will feel happy, and the waiting time is not hard.

Third, the software and hardware conditions of the custody class are good. The environment includes the distance of traffic, the location of the custody class, the size of the facade, the quality and style of decoration, the level and quality of teachers, and the quality of meals.

Pupils/kloc-have lunch at school at 0/2. After lunch break and afternoon in physical education class, most of them were hungry after school at around four o'clock. If you can have a delicious dinner in the custody class at this time, the child's psychology of wanting his parents to go home will be greatly comforted.

Fourth, do a good job in ideological work. Children don't want to, don't be forced. Listen to the child's voice patiently, understand the reasons why the child is unwilling, and try to help the child eliminate psychological barriers.

Through chatting with the children, this friend learned that the children were most worried that the children in the custody class would not play with them and the teacher was not gentle, so this friend found an acquaintance's custody class and specially asked the teacher to tell him.

To sum up, the child is a member of the family, and the situation and mood at home are actually clear to the child himself. Parents really don't have time to pick up their children. Children know it, but they will accept it even if they don't want to.

When a child cries, sometimes he may just be afraid and worry about the unknown. Have a good talk with your child, and then do a more comprehensive job of finding a custody class, and try to eliminate your child's doubts and resistance.

The above are some of my personal experiences and suggestions, hoping to help you.

Recently, children went to kindergarten and found that many babies have separation anxiety and are unwilling to leave their parents or grandparents. I attach great importance to my child's company and have never left her since I was born. Many friends around me are also worried about work and children's transportation. I have several suggestions for reference.

Method 1: You are busy at work, and the children are picked up by grandparents.

Method 2: If there are other children going to school in the same community, let their parents pick them up together.

Option 3: entrust an elderly relative to pick up instead of going to work.

Method 4: Ask the maid to pick up and take care of the children until you get home from work.

Hello, my mother loves life every day. I really want to say something when I see this problem. My boss has just entered the first grade, and many parents in the class are considering enrolling their children in a custody class. I think you are in the same situation. Combining the experience of my classmate Dabao and my personal experience, I would like to give you some suggestions here, hoping to help you.

First of all, children should be given enough time to adapt. Children who have just entered primary school will have a lot to adapt to. No matter the way of class, the environment of class, the content of study and so on. Primary school is different from kindergarten. I don't want kindergarten to be so relaxed and happy, and my children are under great pressure. In this case, if you let your child go to a care class in the same new environment after school, it will undoubtedly give him two strange environments at the same time, and the child needs more energy to adapt. This adaptation is not easy for children, so as parents, please don't worry, patiently guide children and give them enough time to adapt.

Second, do a good job in the selection and communication of custody classes. Going to a nursing class is like going to an interest class. It is equally important that children like it and teachers are responsible. If children don't like the atmosphere of the nursing class, it is difficult to adapt. That's what my Dabao did when he was in dance class. She tried almost all the dance classes around her before choosing one she liked. At first, I thought the best children were always crying. After careful communication with the child, full communication with the tutor, and good communication between the child and the teacher, she finally chose a dance class she liked. This class is not the most expensive of all the audition classes, and the environment is not the best. However, children can like it. Under such circumstances, she actually stood in the C position in the TV Spring Festival program, and really sighed: the right one is the best.

Third, do a good job in your own psychological construction and believe in your child's adaptability. Children need to adapt to many places when they first go to school, and so do parents. Only by managing your emotions and avoiding anxiety can you better help children manage their emotions. For example, when my boss went to kindergarten, he cried all kinds. When I entered the kindergarten, the teacher snatched the child from my arms. It was really bitter, but it took him two weeks to get used to not crying. He also does well in kindergarten, and can eat and sleep by himself. Therefore, children's plasticity and adaptability are very strong, which can be assured. After eliminating all the bad factors, I believe that children can receive unexpected returns.

Finally, I will give you some practical suggestions, which you can implement according to your own situation. 1, to get a comprehensive understanding of the situation of various custody classes around the school. You can use the enrollment advertisements of the custody class, the custody experience of classmates or seniors, and so on.

2. Investigate interested trusteeship classes. The focus of the investigation is mainly on the environment, meals, after-school homework counseling or curriculum setting of the custody class (some custody classes have tutoring combined with interest classes, such as calligraphy, Chinese studies, art, etc.). ) to determine whether it is suitable for children. This process involves children all the time.

3. After your investigation, you think the appropriate care class can negotiate with it to let the children try for one week or three days. Look at the child's adaptability and the actual situation of the custody class.

4. If the child can't adapt well, you can see if the neighbors you know near home or the classmates in your child's class are in the same custody class, and you can keep company with your classmates to enhance your child's sense of security.

A: The children in the lower grades are still very dependent on their parents, so they still want to be with their parents and ask them to pick him up from school. Children must think so, but now most parents are trying to create a good environment for their children. They don't have much time to spend with their children, so they have to send them to kindergartens. So when you choose a kindergarten, you must see how the atmosphere inside is suitable for your children. I remember when I just sent my child to Bei 'an, when he first entered the Yucheng Experimental Primary School, he was crying. Later, when I picked him up, I found that I was already playing with children around me. Only after asking the teacher did I know that it was an all-round animation course and game, which mobilized the children's atmosphere and increased a lot of interactivity. And this course can also review knowledge points for children. I feel really gratified, so you still have to choose a good care class to let the children adapt slowly.

Sign up for an interest class and put your children there, as long as they like it.

1. Communicate with your child correctly and know where the child's psychological resistance is.

2. Before attending the custody class, you should first set up a custody class with your child, build a series of blueprints, and give your child a beautiful vision.

3. If the child is unfamiliar with the environment and noisy at first, he can stay with the child in the custody class, and the child will leave when he is familiar with it.

4. You can bring children some interesting toys that you can't usually play.

5. Pick up the children on time and give them a sense of security.

6. After the child finishes the custody class, listen to the child's narrative and record all the good and bad to avoid conflicts.

7. Remember to beat and scold and explain to your child why you are busy. Understanding is mutual, and your child will understand.

8. Know how to stop loss in time. The environment of the custody class is also very important. Think twice before choosing.

9. Keep in touch with the teacher and take time to see how the children are at school.

10, children grow only once. Parents have a heart, and children need companionship after all.