A child is ugly and self-abased. How can he change his mind and become confident?

Children are ugly and feel inferior. What should I do? Before answering this question, let's talk about what inferiority complex is. What are the deep-seated reasons for inferiority complex?

As Adler pointed out in the book Inferiority and Transcendence, everyone has different degrees of inferiority. Some people feel inferior because of disability, some people feel inferior because of height, some people feel inferior because of looks, and some people feel inferior because of poverty.

But why do we feel inferior? What are the deep-seated reasons? Nobody seems to pay attention to them.

Why do we feel inferior? Adler said that each of us is not satisfied with our present situation (status). When we are not satisfied with our present situation, anxiety will arise. In order to get rid of this anxiety, we must make changes. When change happens, anxiety will disappear and inferiority will be alleviated.

There are generally two reasons why a person feels inferior. One is the environment (where I grew up), and the other is the comparison.

The environment is relatively simple, that is, have you created a positive and loving environment for your children since childhood? Because a child who has lived in a positive, sunny and loving environment since childhood will also become positive, sunny and confident. If a child lives in denial and attack since childhood, he will not be confident that the child is good.

If the child is young, it is difficult for your child to have self-confidence when he is instilled with the concept of "I really don't know who you look like" and "this child is really ugly" every day at home. Because the evaluation a child receives from an early age belongs to his parents, he will engrave his parents' evaluation in his mind. How to solve it is to praise him and praise him hard. When you change the negative words in his mind into positive ones, he will naturally feel confident.

A child feels inferior because he is ugly. In fact, his inferiority complex is caused by comparison with others. For another example, someone feels inferior because he is short (who does he compare with? This reference must be the people around him.

How to improve this situation? Just don't compare. Why compare your own shortcomings with the advantages of others? The result of this comparison is only inferiority complex. In addition, psychology has a compensatory function, that is, when you have obvious advantages, you will ignore your weaknesses.

Everyone's appearance is beyond his control, and whoever judges a person by his appearance is also caught in the deviation of social living standards. However, the development of our thoughts and the choice of our destiny are in our own hands. Since God has given talents, let them be used! By setting up your own ideals and goals, you will finally shine.

For those who truly understand life, appearance is a very secondary element, and only positive thoughts and behaviors are the most critical. Look at the ordinary people around us, some of whom are terminally ill but optimistic and cheerful; Some physical defects can't even solve the basic life, but they often laugh. ......

So as long as we start from what we can or can control, such as reading more books, cultivating our hobbies and constantly affirming ourselves in many ways. Then slowly you will find that you are still excellent. A person's self-confidence generally comes from his understanding of the world and life. As long as he cherishes the present, he will find that inner beauty is more important than outer beauty and handsomeness.

Since God has given talents, let them be used! ! At the same time, we should also bear in mind that study, work and life are not smooth sailing, and life will inevitably encounter various setbacks. Setbacks are like thorns on the way forward. Only those who are not afraid of difficulties and setbacks, actively explore and strive for progress can embark on the road to success. I hope my answer can help you.

Li please refer to Faye Wong's daughter wei li.

I don't think an adult can completely judge the beauty and ugliness of childhood, let alone a healthy child. Can he compare with Li Yan?

However, Li Yan is a confident child. She walked to the runway and stepped onto the stage step by step. She likes to talk about self-confidence on WeChat official account and pull her out.

Li and Faye Wong just think their daughter is perfect. One said that she wanted her scar to be her glory, and the other said that she thought her daughter was really beautiful.

Therefore, parents should first adjust themselves, and you should believe in your heart that your children are perfect. The positive significance of this subjective initiative lies in that through this suggestion, you can change your psychological state, so as to pass on this self-confidence and appreciation to your children, and gradually let them believe that they are a perfect child from the heart.

Didn't Yan Li also say in the live broadcast that he thought it was perfect? She must really believe it.

From the heart, how ugly can a confident child be? Do you think Liu Yuling is ugly? According to the Asian aesthetic, she may not be ordinary, but she really has the demeanor of a king, and her gas field is bursting, and countless people will be attracted to her. This is charm, this charm, really has nothing to do with looks.

Keep a clear head, your child is not ugly.

Broaden your circle of friends: take your children to meet more and wider people, and don't trap yourself in a single aesthetic group. With the diversification of group aesthetics, people who appreciate children's style will naturally encounter it.

Improve the quality of the circle of friends: Get to know people with high quality, and they often see other characteristics besides the appearance of children. For example, strong logical thinking, strong emotional ability, more caring for others, and more team consciousness in the process of cooperation ... These abilities have nothing to do with looks, but are inseparable from children's future growth.

Improve the way of education: family members themselves should completely abandon the old concept of judging people by their appearances from the bottom of their hearts. Let children understand a truth: people who think they are ugly are biased against themselves, perhaps because they are narrow-minded and can't see their own beauty, or they can maintain their self-confidence by attacking others, while children have nothing to say but their appearance, so they will say their appearance.

All the above premises are that children's spiritual world is indeed rich, or in the process of continuous improvement and enrichment. Only in this way can China become the most powerful weapon against all malicious attacks in the world.

Ma Yun's face can be regarded as "ugly" or a feature. Ge You's face can be regarded as "ugly" and has its own characteristics. When your whole body has no other features except a face, all your attention is focused on your face, and all the attention of others is focused on your face. At this time, your face can be said to be really "ugly".

The above two people are both men. Now let's talk about a famous lady-Xifeng. It's a pity that few people in China would call her beautiful. So what? She is still active on the screen with her head held high and in the public eye; Through unremitting efforts, she got what she wanted and achieved her goal. It can be seen that as long as there is a strong heart, even an "ugly" face recognized by a great family can turn decay into magic.

Never label your children as "ugly". Psychologists tell us that labeling will make a person lose his personality, his unique personality and his unique charm. A word "ugly" classifies your children as unwelcome and unwelcome people, thus causing them to feel inferior, self-abased, timid and self-enclosed.

Parents' view of beauty and ugliness will also subtly become children's view of beauty and ugliness. When parents think that a person's popularity in society depends only on his face, and an ugly child has no future, the child will be finished in his parents' hearts, and the child will be finished in his own heart. When we want our children to improve their aesthetic taste, parents should first improve their aesthetic taste; When we want our children to have a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook, parents must first have a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook. Parents are the guides for children, and when children go astray, parents are the street lamps for children.

Tell the child that he is himself, a unique individual in this world, and a different fireworks in this world. No one can replace him and no one can compare with him. Tell your children that a person who only depends on his face is incompetent. If he wants to prove himself, he must tell people around him with his own practical actions that he is a diligent, self-disciplined, kind, interested, sociable, idealistic, ambitious and persevering person. Nothing can be hard to get and nothing can beat him.

When your child finally wins the respect of others with his personality charm and fighting spirit, he is the most beautiful person in the world.

First of all, judge whether the facial features are really ugly and deformed, or whether the facial features are a little ugly and do not conform to the public aesthetic. If it is the former, my opinion is to go to a plastic surgeon to determine the time and cost first, and even if it is a loan, it will fundamentally solve this problem. For example, my child has good facial features but is short. I'm discussing with the doctor to give a growth hormone injection at an appropriate time, even if it costs tens of thousands of dollars a year. I believe that when children grow up, they will thank their parents for this decision. Looking back at this case, if the economic conditions do not allow for the time being, they can collect some cartoons and fairy tales for their children, and then buy some clothes and novel toys that look better than other children, or let their children learn a certain interest class to give them a skill and improve their self-confidence, but I still suggest looking for a plastic surgeon to solve this problem. If they are just not beautiful, they can also use my method above. At the same time, find some pictures of China people/surgeons and entrepreneurs on the Internet for children to see, and tell them that they will become more and more beautiful when they grow up. The key is to study hard and make achievements. ...

A child is ugly. If someone tells him to his face, he will feel inferior. If no one says he is ugly, I think he will be very narcissistic. You have to ask the child who said no.

How old is the child? If you are sensible, tell him/her that your appearance can be changed, and now medical beauty is perfect. But character and conduct are more important, once formed, it is difficult to change! Da ji is so beautiful, still a monster, but it was destroyed!

Read more books and broaden your horizons. Study hard and learn to love yourself and life.

Everyone is different, accept your own advantages and disadvantages and live every day well. Welcome attention

What is the definition of beauty? It is useless to be lazy and cheat like the story of diusim. Beauty is a virtue and an affirmation. Doing well by yourself will have a subtle influence on children. _? )