Envy is not just talk.

I saw a female netizen ask such a question in the post bar before: "Why do more and more married women like to live a single life now?" This question was quickly answered by many female friends, who all responded positively, not only put forward their own views, but even proved their views with their own personal experiences.

This vulgar girl browsed most netizens' replies, and one of the most popular answers was this: "If you can take care of yourself and your children, why do you have to find a husband?" My own experience is a good example. My husband and I have been married for five years. Now we all have our jobs. My husband hardly does anything except work. In addition to going to work, I have to pick up my children from kindergarten every day and take them to interest classes or playgrounds on weekends. Tell me, what's the difference between my life now and being single? "

In fact, for this netizen's point of view, vulgar girls are also supportive. Because this vulgar girl has heard the reactions of many female friends before, they all complain that her husband looks like a different person after marriage. Before, they kept saying that they would take care of themselves all their lives, but afterwards they only cared about themselves regardless of their own lives.

After summing up, the common girl found that most men will change at these two time points. The first time is shortly after marriage, and most men will relax themselves after marriage. They think that if they marry the woman they like, they will feel that their life is complete, so they begin to indulge or even degenerate, and their previous vows to their wives naturally become empty talk.

Another time was after your child was born. In fact, this time is the easiest time to test a man's quality. Some good men who are self-motivated will feel the hard work of their wives, so they will put pressure on themselves, and then devote themselves wholeheartedly to the family, help their wives and children at home, and strive to earn money to support their families outside, just to create a better life for their wives and children. On the other hand, some bad men behave just the opposite. I didn't see my wife's hard work, but I was crushed by the pressure of life and became sloppy and degenerate.

If you, as a wife, unfortunately meet the bad man mentioned above, the vulgar girl can tell you without hesitation that single life may really suit you better. Although there is no man to accompany you, your pressure will be even greater, but at least you live in peace and will not be bound by others.

Netizen Xiaomei is Pumei's friend in real life. She was originally a woman who had been married for three years, but not long ago, she returned to the ranks of single women. When Pujie asked her why she wanted to end her marriage, she just sighed and said, I'm tired and don't want to love anymore.

To tell the truth, when Pujie first heard Xiaomei's words, she was puzzled, because in the eyes of others, Xiaomei had a good relationship with her husband. Just look at Xiaomei's circle of friends, which is basically that the couple are in all kinds of show love, that is, after Xiaomei is pregnant, the dynamics of the circle of friends gradually decrease. Therefore, we never thought that Xiaomei would suddenly divorce. Later, after many inquiries from the vulgar sister, I gradually understood the reason why Xiaomei decided to divorce.

Xiaomei and her husband are in free love. When they fall in love, they will be a match made in heaven in the eyes of others. Xiaomei is fair and beautiful, easy-going, and her husband is tall, handsome and humorous. I have been in love for more than three years and have been recognized by my parents. Then, under the envious eyes of others, they walked into the wedding hall.

When they first got married, Xiaomei and her husband had a wonderful life. Although they are busy with their lives every day, as long as they are free, they will go shopping, watch movies and even go to the campus to recall the past. Xiaomei's circle of friends is the best proof. From the first marriage to Xiaomei's pregnancy, for two years, their relationship was envied by others.

However, probably shortly after Xiaomei became pregnant, her husband gradually changed. Because Xiaomei had severe morning sickness, she rested at home soon after pregnancy. At first, her husband did well. He goes home early after work every day, and then helps Xiaomei clean the house and tells Xiaomei all kinds of interesting things that happened in the unit. But after less than a month, Xiaomei's husband gradually began to change. Every time he goes home, he doesn't do housework, but lies on the sofa playing mobile phones and games.

Once Xiaomei finally asked her husband to help her cook dinner, but later Xiaomei found that she couldn't eat, and then she wanted her husband to help her cook a new bowl of noodles. But her husband didn't give her the following note, but said while playing with his mobile phone, "How do I find you more and more difficult to serve?" I have cooked dinner for you, and you are picky about food. Are you kidding? "

Xiaomei was hungry at first, but when her husband said so, her hunger suddenly turned into anger, and then shouted at her husband, "You promised to take care of me and spoil me before marriage. Now why do you think I'm difficult to serve? " Don't you know I wasn't feeling well when I was pregnant? Is it necessary for me to deliberately embarrass you? "

However, Xiaomei's words did not make her husband feel guilty, and he immediately slammed the door and left. After that incident, the relationship between Xiaomei and her husband gradually cooled down.

Because she needed someone to take care of her, Xiaomei specially asked her mother to move in, and then she never asked her husband again until the baby was born. Husband and in-laws have been going through the motions in face, and have never given Xiaomei substantial help in life. It was at that time that Xiaomei had the idea of divorcing her husband.

With the birth of a son, the attitude of her husband and in-laws towards Xiaomei gradually improved. Xiaomei's husband also offered to let his mother come and take care of Xiaomei and let Xiaomei's mother go back to rest. Xiaomei thought that her husband had changed his mind and his life would get better and better in the future, but the fact was not as simple as she imagined.

Although her mother-in-law took care of Xiaomei wholeheartedly, Xiaomei's husband didn't do a little bit of her husband's responsibility. Because Xiaomei spends her mind on taking care of her children every day and has no time to take care of her husband. For three months, Xiaomei hardly had a complete sleep, but her husband never cared about her and comforted her.

Xiaomei doesn't know what it's like for her husband to work outside every day. Xiaomei only knows that her husband often comes home late, and even at home, she plays games with her mobile phone and computer. She never knows how to help her share some pressure, and even has no time to chat with her. Her husband's behavior completely chilled Xiaomei. Since pregnancy, Xiaomei has been forbearing from playing mobile phones and giving up many snacks she likes to eat for the sake of her children's health. The husband, on the other hand, doesn't consider these things at all, only cares about his own comfort.

Finally out of the month, Xiaomei can finally play with her mobile phone with peace of mind. She opened her husband's circle of friends and found some pictures of him drinking and singing with his friends. Xiaomei looked at it carefully. Almost since she was pregnant, her husband has been so handsome.

Xiaomei is already disgusted with her husband's behavior. When she saw that he and his friends were so handsome, but she couldn't get out, her heart became more and more unbalanced. Then she vented all her resentment against her husband.

Xiaomei directly called her husband's family home, and then said to her husband who was playing with his mobile phone, "Don't you think I am difficult to serve?" Now I'll give you a chance. Let's divorce. I'll take care of the children myself in the future, so you can live on your mobile phone. "Xiaomei's voice fell, and her mother-in-law said anxiously:" Xiaomei, the child has just been born, and your husband and wife have problems. Don't influence the children. "Besides, you are a weak woman. If you are divorced, can you support yourself in the future? "

"Mother-in-law, don't worry, I have hands and feet, don't worry about not finding a good job. In addition, I always take care of the children alone, so it makes no difference to me whether I have a husband or not. As early as I was pregnant, I was no different from a single woman. "

Xiaomei's husband is still playing with his mobile phone, but after Xiaomei said this, he suddenly put down his mobile phone and stared at Xiaomei and said, "Are you serious? You really don't think about the children? Have you forgotten our love? I have been trying to make money all these years, and I really left you out, but I will take good care of you in the future. Isn't that enough? "

Obviously, Xiaomei's husband's words did not impress Xiaomei. Xiaomei just smiled faintly, and then said calmly, "Love is not just talk. I am really tired and don't want to love anymore. " The next morning, Xiaomei left with her children.

In fact, in our life, men like Xiaomei's husband are not uncommon. That kind of man's behavior is a good proof that no matter how good things are, they don't know how to cherish them after getting them. Because of this, more and more men are irresponsible and ungrateful, so more and more women like being single. After all, living with such a man is not as good as being single.

Here, Pujie wants to advise those men who are still making mistakes to take good care of the women around them and think more about their hard work in pursuit of her. Don't be the one you regret. Don't wait until the marriage breaks down to know how to cherish it.

In addition, vulgar girls also want to remind men that love is really not just talk. Don't treat every woman as a child. They really like listening to your sweet words, but they need your practical actions more.