Why are more and more grandparents helping the baby?

1. Feel sorry for your daughter and avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Many families finally choose grandparents to take care of their children. Asked about the reasons, the subjective factors are almost always that the woman deliberately avoids the contradiction between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many grandparents volunteered to take care of their children. Grandparents raised their daughters and married others. To take care of their daughter, they help them. This situation is generally manifested in the only child.

2. Because of the region and retirement time.

After the child is born, it must be a tangled problem for many mothers to be looked after by grandma or let grandma look after it. Let grandma take care of it, because it is her own mother, so communication is convenient; Let the mother-in-law take care of it, communication will be more or less hindered, and even differences will arise in the process of parenting, leading to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is of course one of the reasons why grandma takes care of children, but geographical location, retirement time and other reasons also affect who will take care of children.

It is "helpless" to help children take care of their babies.

Nowadays, most young couples are only children and have a baby, which is the only treasure of the elderly on both sides. In addition, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, son-in-law and mother-in-law are easier to get along with, and more and more families, grandparents will come without hesitation as soon as the baby is born.

As the old saying goes, if you can have children, you should raise them, which means that parents of children should have children and raise their own children. In the years before the implementation of family planning, elders usually gave birth to many children, and even if they were short of food and clothing, they could take pains to raise them. In today's competitive society, young parents need to fight for their careers and families. Although they only have one child, they are also self-sufficient and unable to raise them alone. Therefore, they need outside help to tide over the difficulties. Usually, they can seek help from the following angles:

First, consider hiring a nanny to look after the children. However, due to the frequent incidents of stealing or abusing children, parents have many doubts about nannies, and the quality of nannies is mixed. They are not optimistic about their children's enlightenment education. Even if you dare to hire a nanny, you have to have your own family to take care of you, so you can rest assured, but the economic pressure is too great.

The second is to ask the children's grandparents for help, but the eternal problem-the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is inevitable, and the husband is in a dilemma between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if the wife is open-minded, but living under the same roof, whether living habits or educational concepts, differences are like a natural barrier. In the short term, we can still respect customers, and over time, differences will gradually arise, which will affect the feelings of husband and wife and undermine family harmony. It is not worth the loss, and it is too late to regret;

Third, look forward to your grandparents. Because of their love for their daughters, retired grandparents are the first to take care of their grandchildren in order to help their daughters. The reasons for their confidence are: on the one hand, if the son-in-law knows something, the old couple will love my house and my dog and live in peace with them. Moreover, the financial power of the family is in the hands of the daughter, and most of the son-in-law are obedient; On the other hand, it goes without saying that daughters have lived with their parents since childhood, and their living habits are the same. Occasionally, contradictions are also contradictions among the people. My daughter is my mother's intimate cotton-padded jacket and my father's ex-lover. How harmonious this relationship is!

To sum up, it is becoming more and more common for grandparents to help with their children, which is not only the product of customs changes, but also the embodiment of social progress.

Children are the responsibility of parents, and old people help children because they care about them. Otherwise, it is not good to retire, dance and travel. But now that young people are busy, it's best to take turns to take care of the children and see who has the time and energy.

Now, it is a common phenomenon in society that mothers are born and grandmothers are raised, fathers go online when they go home, and grandfathers go to the vegetable market every day. The main reason is that my in-laws refused to take it, so they excused themselves, and my husband was more handsome. My grandparents care about their daughters, so they help them, so bringing them is like getting flour on their wet hands. Then, when the children are old and sensible, many in-laws will take them back. It can't be said that this is the case now, but there are many such phenomena.

I just became a grandfather for 20 months, and I took my grandson with me. There are several reasons: 1 mainly worrying about my daughter. She has to work during the day, often working overtime until nine o'clock, and then going home by bus for an hour. When she got home, she could be considered exhausted, and she couldn't sleep well at night, which directly affected her work the next day. My in-laws passed away a few years ago. In-laws are too tired and old to take care of their children alone during the day. Anyone who has children knows that it is really hard to take care of children alone. Now that our wife has been suspended from work at home, my job is also easy, and I can help them. 3. Generally, the communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good. Of course, our daughter is no exception. It would be much better to communicate with us and avoid some contradictions. Honestly, that's it. We also have joys and sorrows, and we have joys and sorrows! No regrets!

I feel that I am surrounded by grandparents and grandparents with children. There is no obvious feeling that grandparents bring more children or grandparents bring more children.

But on the whole, it is really more beneficial for grandparents to take care of their children than grandparents to take care of their children. The main advantage is to avoid discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Generally speaking, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is largely related to the happiness of a family. Because of different times and different educational concepts, it is difficult to disagree. If the grandmother takes care of the children, the young mother naturally has no psychological pressure. If grandma doesn't do well, just say so. After all, no matter how big the contradiction with her mother is, she can laugh it off. However, if the grandmother takes care of the children, the young mother has to consider ways and means. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, it is likely to lead to a bad relationship between husband and wife and even parent-child relationship.

In addition, if the grandmother takes care of the children, the role of the father is very important. If the father does not handle it properly, it is easy for the young mother to feel lonely. And if the grandmother takes care of the children and the father has no worries, he can spare more time to think about the development of his career.

In addition, in the process of raising children, mothers have a heavy burden, and grandparents will care more about their daughters and take better care of their daughters and grandchildren.

Human nature is good. No matter grandparents or grandparents, their love for children is the same. Although this is not the case for young mothers, we must believe that this is just a matter of ways and means. After all, the two families can't be exactly the same in living habits and parenting concepts. Disagreements are inevitable, but love can resolve all difficulties.

Why are more and more grandparents helping the baby? There are the following points:

First, the only child has grown up and given birth to a child. As an only child, there is only one daughter in the family. Daughters are as important as sons, and daughters are no longer spilled water. Therefore, it is as natural for grandparents to take care of their children as grandparents do.

Second, the young couple have their own home and no longer marry into their husband's family. In the past, most women married their husbands and lived under the same roof. When they have children in the future, of course, grandparents will help. Now, the young couple live alone. If they have children and the elderly need help, they can take them with them whoever they want.

Third, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a century-old problem. As the saying goes, it is most important for a man to take care of his children. The son's participation is low, and his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often the main ones. Under the influence of different parenting concepts, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is easy to break out. Once there is a problem, the family atmosphere will be affected, and even if there is friction between mother and daughter, it will pass quickly and will not affect the future relationship.

Fourth, mother-in-law often doesn't treat herself as an outsider, while grandma often treats herself as an outsider. Mother-in-law often likes to take care of her children, including not only the children's affairs, but also the young couple's affairs. The family seems to want her to be in charge. There is a little friction between husband and wife. Mother-in-law often helps her son, which easily encourages his arrogance and makes him more and more lazy. When the contradiction between husband and wife intensifies and there is a quarrel, the mother-in-law will still stand on her son's side, forming a vicious circle. Grandma always treats herself as an outsider when she takes care of her children, and always considers the young couple everywhere, especially the son-in-law, although it is good for the son-in-law to treat his daughter and is conducive to family harmony.

The situation in my family is very interesting. My home is far from my wife's home, with a distance of 1600 km. My mother-in-law came for a week when my wife was in confinement. She brought an oversized suitcase full of local chickens. I'm so touched! My own parents are here, too, because my mother-in-law just arrived here, and I can see that she wants to help, but when she first arrived in a strange environment, she was very strange and reserved. Then my own parents are also those who are not good at dealing with people. My mother-in-law was unhappy and left after staying for a week. I can see that my parents are not used to going back to their hometown here. Sometimes when I am at work, my mother simply cooks noodles for my daughter-in-law at noon. I feel terrible, and my mouth is full. Dad went home two weeks after the baby was born, so I told my mother, you go home, and we will take care of the baby ourselves. It's really not good for my wife to quit her job and stay at home as a full-time mother. My mother really went back. As soon as she got home, she immediately signed up for a tour group to play in Yunnan. Mother-in-law can't bear to let her daughter say that she will come and take care of the children before the Spring Festival. Is it fun at my house? Now my wife takes care of the baby at work during the day, and I take care of it at home after work. Now the baby is two months old, but fortunately, the baby is healthy and more worry-free. It's nothing to see the baby better when you are tired, but it's a pity to lose nearly 10 Jin of meat.

I'm here to be fair to my grandparents. I am an only child and grew up with my grandparents.

I also find that most children are grandparents. Why is this ratio increasing year by year compared with our childhood? In fact, it has something to do with our growing up in a pampered environment.

For example, at my sister's house, yesterday's second day, the whole family had dinner. My aunt (grandmother) said you eat, I looked after the children, and my sister went straight to the table for dinner. If this is your mother-in-law, you have to be modest. There are a bunch of us. My sister told my aunt that it would be tactful if you carried the baby into the house and put it on the bed.

If everything in daily life should be like this, everyone will definitely choose the one that is more comfortable to get along with.

My sister's mother-in-law is actually taking care of the children, and my aunt and her husband want to take care of them, but her mother-in-law is more active. It is also because my sister and her husband have been married for eight years, and they have always been very harmonious and comfortable with their mother-in-law. But now many people are just married and have children, and their mother-in-law was still an outsider at that time.

Take my best friend as an example. My mother-in-law takes care of her children, and her mother-in-law earns money to buy milk powder for her children. If I change my home, I have to choose between two. I will choose my mother-in-law. First, my mother-in-law was a teacher before she retired. Second, my mother likes children very much. So now many mothers are not childless, but daughters-in-law choose their own mothers when they choose.

Finally, there are some exceptions. For example, a caring mother-in-law just doesn't retire and just wants to earn money. For example, many parents in both places are unable or unaccustomed to changing places. For example, one parent is already taking care of the children. Everyone should understand more, don't always intensify contradictions, and don't always be so sorry.

After all, our parents raised us, and they have no obligation to help us take care of our children.

I am a mother-in-law and want to be as close as my daughter-in-law. I took out hundreds of thousands of savings since we got married and bought a house. I only have one son, and I depend on them. I've done my best. Since my daughter-in-law was pregnant, I have come to Chengdu from home to cook and wash clothes for him. She just doesn't want her to do any housework at work, and I never care about money. Now eight months have passed, and my old problem is very painful between my lumbar vertebrae. They know it hurts to turn over at night, and rarely ask me or take the initiative, but I still do the housework alone. She is pregnant, and I don't know what to do. What should I do if I want to take care of the children?