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My name is Xiaoli, 1989 from Shanxi, military wife.

I have been a military wife for almost seven years, and I have grown a lot in these years. I'm more used to dealing with many things by myself, such as repairing sewers, changing light bulbs, mending wall joints … I'm willing to try anything.

After being married for seven years, many people are about to face the "seven-year itch", but for us, we are just learning to understand each other slowly.

(Our wedding photos, I don't regret being a military wife)

Many people think that the military wife is great, and she pays all the year round and never cares. In my opinion, there is no natural greatness, but you bear it silently. You adjust your mentality a little and adapt slowly.

I was born in an ordinary worker's family, my parents are office workers, and I have a brother.

Since childhood, I have been loved by thousands of people. Anything delicious and fun is given to me first. Growing up all the way, I have hardly been wronged and will not be a coolie. I am more dependent and stubborn in character.

Even in college, my parents still regard me as a little princess. I need to take a bus every time I go to school. Because it is a little far from the bus stop sign, my father always doesn't want me to go, and always wants to ride me.

I once naively thought that life was like this and everything was beautiful.

Unexpectedly, after I became a military spouse, my life was like being turned upside down. I changed from a weak little woman to a strong woman.

20 15, I have my own job and live step by step every day.

In fact, when I was in high school, I also fantasized about wearing military uniforms. I felt that female soldiers were very beautiful and quiet.

But this is just a girl's ignorant military complex. In fact, I had no idea what it meant to be a soldier, and I didn't expect that the acquaintance in college turned out to be a destiny takes a hand's marriage, which would fulfill my dream of military uniform in another way.

20 1 1 Ge Jun and I met at the university, and I am his junior. At that time, the relationship between the two was limited to understanding and they were not familiar with each other. 20 12 he went to the army and they lost contact.

In the third year, he appeared.

At that time, he was already a non-commissioned officer and could take home leave. When he came back, he asked me out to meet him. I was both excited and nervous. This is my first direct contact with soldiers. I'm more curious about what he will become after military training.

With mixed feelings, I saw a tall and straight figure standing there in the distance before I arrived at the appointed place.

I took a closer look, and it was him. After military training, he became stronger and more capable. Although he is not wearing a military uniform, he still exudes the spirit of a soldier.

Brother Jun will take me to eat my favorite hot pot when he is free.

He took me to eat my favorite hot pot. During dinner, we chatted about the interesting things about the army. He was very happy, and his words revealed his love for the army. I listened with relish and felt that what he said was completely different from that in TV and novels.

I feel that the meal is fast, and I should go before I know it. On his way back, he passed a flower shop. At that time, I took one more look, and he immediately ran in and bought me 1 1 rose.

To tell the truth, it was the first time I received a rose, and my mood bloomed like a rose in my hand.

Although Ge Jun didn't say anything at this meeting, I can see his love for me through his care and warmth. After breaking up that day, our contact began to increase frequently.

He has a good temper, which complements my impatience. Slowly, we decided to have sex.

He is in the army, and we mainly communicate by mobile phone. The army is in strict control, so he can only use his mobile phone when he is resting. I always count the days, waiting to contact him.

(Sometimes I can't get in touch with Brother Jun, and all the work I can do is done. )

Even so, our chat often breaks down suddenly.

They will have a lot of inconvenient times, and he will deliberately turn off his mobile phone. Because I can't get in touch, I can only wait at the other end of the phone, hoping to hear from him as soon as possible.

When we are in love, we meet by the hour. He went to the city to find me at noon and had to go back to the army in the afternoon. Usually there is only one chance to go out once a month or two, and his leave needs to be approved at different levels.

At that time, don't mention how much we admired others. At least they don't have to rush to eat and watch movies.

Military love is very hard. However, I don't know when I started, and I found myself relying on him and gradually became inseparable from him.

In the past, my thoughts focused on my work and taught my children to draw. Since then, I prefer to pay attention to military information. I am very excited about all the information about the army on TV, news and the Internet. Because I saw this, I felt that he was right in front of me.

During that time, I watched many military movies and TV programs, which strengthened my idea of military love.

I feel great and think that as long as there is love in my heart, I can overcome all difficulties. No matter the difficulties in time or space, we cannot give up.

I have dinner with my parents, and I can't live without their support and guidance all the way. )

When my parents knew that I was in love with a soldier, I obviously felt that my father had a lot to say. I was afraid to throw cold water on me, so I said I would always support me. Get the parents' approval, and the later things will be logical.

The engagement ceremony couldn't be simpler. Because that year's holiday was over, he only took one day off that day, and both parents had a meal together, even if they were engaged! Although simple, I feel extremely sweet.

Next, we began to prepare for marriage.

Brother Jun can't come back in the army, so we can only communicate by mobile phone, sometimes we can't get in touch. Getting married soon, at this important moment, he can't attend, and my heart is inevitably a little lost and complaining.

But I can't lose my temper yet. Even if I lose my temper, he doesn't know.

When he called me again, it might have been a week! I am alone outside, looking for a wedding, trying on a wedding dress and choosing a hotel. When I was busy, Brother Jun praised me for being really capable. Actually, I wasn't worried about these things before.

In 20 15, we held a lively wedding.

In 20 15, we held a lively wedding under the witness of relatives and friends. When my father gave me to him, I felt that I was the happiest bride in the world.

At that time, Ge Jun took a 20-day marriage leave. These 20 days are the happiest time since I met him. These 20 days, like a normal couple, we have his company every day, and my previous small emotions have also been swept away.

I thought this was all about life. However, who would have thought that this is only the first step of the long March!

After the wedding leave, Jun Ge returned to the army.

This caught me off guard. During this time, I was taken care of by Ge Jun and didn't feel anything unusual. However, with your brother gone, the problem followed. Cooking, going to work and cleaning up the housework make me overwhelmed, and my mother feels extremely distressed when she knows it.

The hardest part is at night. I was afraid of the dark since I was a child, and I can't sleep well alone.

At night, I will close all the windows and curtains at home, so that I will not feel insecure if I can't see the darkness outside. Summer is even more painful. There was no air conditioning at home at that time. Even if it is too hot to sleep, I dare not sleep with the bedroom door open.

(Along the way, two people's hearts are getting closer and closer. )

Shortly after my marriage, I found myself pregnant. At that moment, the joy of being a mother was beyond words. I am excited at the thought that we are about to usher in a new life. However, this mood did not last long.

Soon, pain replaced joy, and the severe pregnancy reaction and various pregnancy tests made me miserable.

Every time I go to the hospital, I always look after other people's husbands and take care of pregnant women carefully. Look at yourself again. I'm alone every time I go to the birth check-up. I feel like a single mother.

In the late pregnancy, I often wake up hungry. At this time, I wish your brother could be around, even if it was just to make me a bowl of noodles, I was satisfied. However, reaching out and touching the empty bed, I can only get up and find food by myself. That kind of sadness and helplessness is going to crush me.

When the child was born, Brother Jun took 20 days maternity leave.

However, he doesn't know how to take care of Confucius, which makes me very upset. Although I never complained about your brother during the whole pregnancy, I know his situation in my heart. I always face the baby with the best attitude.

Brother Jun also knows romance. He personally put earrings on me on Valentine's Day, which made me want to cry.

However, on the third day after the birth of the child, I couldn't help it any longer, and the grievances that were suppressed in my heart turned into tears. It was easy to cry in those two days, I felt particularly fragile, and then I lost sleep every day. Now, I suffer from moon disease, and I will lose sleep every few months in the first half of the year.

I am very weak, but I can't take medicine when breastfeeding. I have a fever every two days. Looking at the young children and looking at myself, I suddenly feel so difficult.

I thought the military wife was great before marriage, but it was all hearsay. I didn't understand the weight of these two words until I became a military spouse.

During that time, I suffered from postpartum depression because I couldn't sleep all night.

I hate my own misfortune, why other people's newlyweds are accompanied, and mine is lonely; When someone is pregnant, someone hurts. Why am I alone every time I go to the prenatal examination? Should I have this baby? I don't see any hope for this marriage.

During this period, my father enlightened and comforted me again and again, and made me learn to put myself in others' shoes. My mother let me sleep in a room alone with the children, and I slept soundly. I didn't recuperate until the second month, so sleeping was not so difficult.

At that time, the military brother ended his vacation and returned to the army within a month.

Brother Jun is not at home. I always go out to do business alone.

After all this, I know I must learn to be strong. Once I break my child, it is the most pitiful. I can't let my children lose the companionship of maternal love.

In order to give my children better company, I quit my job and became a full-time mother. Mother-in-law had to take care of the elder sister's children, and we went home after 100 days.

I remember that before my child was two years old, I felt that I was the most wronged, helpless and painful person. I still don't want to recall the days when I did housework and my children cried with their legs in their arms.

Not many children came back before they could walk. I don't know how the child learned to walk, and I don't know who spoke first.

Love, after adding daily necessities, is a trivial matter. I take care of my children at home every day, stay up late every day, and repeat the same thing every day. I am very irritable, my temper becomes very irritable, and I have no patience for anything. They often quarrel. I often complain to him, and he always says, "Isn't it just one night?"

(after love and daily necessities, the two people are in constant contradiction. )

I was sad to hear him say that.

He doesn't know how I got through it when I was alone at home. I ran everything by myself. At this time, I feel that Junge is just a frivolous name and can't be accompanied by his wife and children.

From recognition to marriage, we met only a handful of times, less than a week together, and always stayed for half a year after marriage.

Before we get married, we always leave the best for each other, and when we meet, we just think about each other's good. He thinks I am strong and sensible, and I am a qualified military wife. I think he is considerate and considerate.

Actually, we don't know each other. I don't understand his difficulties in the army. He doesn't understand my helplessness and lack of communication with each other. I finally understand why my father always advises me to put myself in others' shoes.

When the children grow up, the hardest time is over. I sometimes take my children to visit my brother in the army, and it is during this time that I have a deeper understanding of the life of soldiers. In the barracks, there are Qian Qian soldiers who are far away from their parents, wives and children, and they can only go home once a year when they are far away from their hometown.

Brother Jun is just a microcosm of soldiers. They can't go home for years.

Brother Jun and I are lucky enough to meet once a month or two. Soldiers always do. They can't go home for many years, and even if they have holidays, they can only rest in the camp. Sometimes I feel sorry for them.

No matter spring, summer, autumn and winter, they always get up at six o'clock to do exercises and often get up at midnight to stand guard. I tried to understand your brother. It's not easy to understand him. I keep enlightening myself and slowly put it down.

I don't always blame him, because he is also very hard.

In 20 18, the army had a good policy that married non-commissioned officers could take two days off every half month. Before, Brother Jun could only stay at home on holidays and only stay at home for a few hours on weekends. In this way, Brother Jun went home more often and understood my hardships better, which made me very satisfied.

Every time I go home, he will always accompany me and my children, take us to eat what we want, keep the house spotless, and always wash dishes, floors and toilets. Because he knows he has done a lot, I will be more relaxed at home.

These practical actions moved me more than those sweet words.

Brother Jun does housework as soon as he gets home. The standard is very high.

When I served for eight years, Brother Jun said he would give me a gift. I opened it and found that it was his national defense service stamp. Holding the medal, I watched it several times. This heavy medal carries too much for me, and it has the understanding and dedication of military brothers' families and military wives.

This is the most meaningful gift I have ever received!

Earlier, because kidney calculi needed surgery, Brother Jun took a year off to take care of me in the hospital. He buys me rice every day, gives me medicine on time, and chats with me for fear that I will be bored.

The day before the operation, Brother Jun called hot water to help me wash my hair.

He carefully adjusted the water temperature and washed it for me again and again. As there was no hair dryer, he dried my hair bit by bit with a towel. You know, I have never enjoyed such treatment during my confinement.

I'm actually afraid of surgery. Brother Jun has always been around to comfort me, encourage me and give me great courage.

After the operation, I inserted a catheter, and he poured my urine every day without any resentment or complaint. During my stay in hospital, my heart was filled with emotion and happiness, and my two hearts were getting closer and closer.

Brother Jun washed my hair when I was in hospital.

Although there is a good policy of the army, there is also great uncertainty in rotation rest, and it may not be possible to rest for a long time when encountering major tasks. Just like last year's epidemic, he stayed in the army for 130 before going home, and returned to the army two days later.

After a short meeting, we have not had time to feel his warmth, and we are going to part. To say that we are not sad is to comfort each other. Over the years, such a picture has been staged too many times, but I have never been able to adapt.

In my mind, such a parting scene can only appear in movies. Every time I experience it personally, I realize that this scene contains too much bitterness.

Now that my son is older, I have too much attachment to my father. In the past, the child didn't have many memories, but now he wants to have this love to accompany him to grow up. But I don't know how to explain my father's work to him and make him understand all this.

He should spend a carefree childhood with his parents. The child cried when he left. He said to his father, "You came back so slowly that I forgot to count."

We are all silent, and we don't know how to reply, so as not to disappoint his young mind. The child finally held back his tears and said goodbye to his father.

In daily life, my son and I raise green plants together.

I have nothing to say to Ge Jun. At this moment, my heart is too complicated. I'm a little afraid to speak. I'm afraid my tears will roll down unconsciously and make him feel uneasy.

We looked at each other and read each other's minds.

"Take care of your children and take care of yourself." This is the most common sentence that Jun Ge has said for so many years. In fact, I also want to say to him: "Work hard, I am at home."

Brother Jun is back in the team, and everything is back to its original state, making things simple and peaceful. The essence of life is actually very simple. I live happily. I want to keep self-discipline at all times and create a good living condition for my children and myself, because such a life will be very long and my children need my guidance and care.

Children are becoming more and more sensible now. They usually help me with some housework and even comfort me when your brother leaves.

Once, after Ge Jun left. The child said, "Don't be sad when Dad comes back to work." What should I do? The child asked me to count the days like him until my father came back. This makes me feel that all my efforts are worth it.

Now that my children are in kindergarten, I have more free time and my family life is on the right track. After marriage, I have no job, no friends, no things I like to do, and I feel out of touch with society.

(Go to my son's school for a parent-teacher conference)

Moreover, when I am free at once, I feel particularly insecure and have an unspeakable panic. I just want to find something to do, on the one hand, to enrich myself, on the other hand, to subsidize my family.

If I go out to look for a job, I'm afraid I won't have time to take care of the children. After thinking about it, I decided to be a self-media person. In this way, I can not only record the military wife's treasure, but also let the military wife see the life of our mother and son in the army and witness the growth of our son.

Because of the animation in college, I am familiar with some shooting software and it is handy to use. And I had this idea a long time ago, and I took some pictures intermittently, because I ran aground because I didn't have time. Now is the best time.

At first, I forced myself to study every day. Although I will be very tired, I am full. I prefer a full life to doing nothing. The content of the video is mainly to record my real feelings and life as a military wife.

In the process of doing self-media, I have many difficulties, because of some doubts, I can hardly do it. However, I am not that inexperienced little princess anymore. It is rare for me to find something I like to do, and I will continue to do it no matter how hard and tired I am.

Most importantly, I have the support of Ge Jun.

(Fans privately believe me and want me to introduce Brother Bing)

Since I became a media, I have met many military wives. Although everyone's life is different, most of them are separated, and there are not a few who suffer from loneliness and helplessness. 15 Some divorced as military wives, some gave up their excellent jobs to join the army, and some left the big cities and ran to the Gobi Desert. ...

All these have deepened my understanding of the word "military wife".

Many people also ask me, are you happy to be a military wife? Have you ever regretted it?

What I want to say is that military marriage looks different from other marriages. It needs more understanding and support. But as far as the essence of marriage is concerned, I think all marriages are the same, with good and bad management points.

As a military wife, I sometimes feel lonely, but I never regret marrying a military wife, because he has a strong sense of responsibility, because he will always take our mother and son to heart.

(photo of our family of three)

I think after marriage, two people will change each other, become closer to each other, and adapt to each other's habits, so that the family composed of two people will become more and more stable and better.

Two days ago, Ge Jun successfully transferred to the fourth stage. If I just got married, I would definitely not support it. However, I support him now. I can understand how much a man who has been a soldier for nearly 10 misses his military life.

Just like the message he sent me later, it was because of my support that his efforts were more motivated. I am very happy and excited. At this moment, he understands me, and he understands my silent efforts over the years.

Now the country is paying more and more attention to military families, which makes our military families more determined. I received the family honor this year and began to reissue it in the second half of the year. I feel very different. This is the happiest thing that I have been a military wife for six years.

Thanks to the country, I have not forgotten every military wife who silently paid behind the military brother. Military spouse is not only a title, but also can get the corresponding material subsidies, which makes the majority of military spouses feel better.

As a gift from your brother, I am proud to be a military wife.

As a military wife, I am very proud. I believe that the national system of protecting the rights and interests of military families will be more and more perfect, so that we can support our military brothers to protect the country and the family with more peace of mind. I sincerely wish our motherland peace and prosperity!

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