My wife can't take her daughter to do housework alone, and I am sometimes very tired at work. What should I do?

First of all, you must get verbal praise. You are a good husband! Is a competent father!

As you can see, you have done a lot for this family, and now many stay-at-home mothers, so have I. Hard work is really hard, but it's a bit too much to sleep until two or three in the afternoon during the day.

Stay-at-home mom, who doesn't do some work when the child is asleep and stays with the child when the child wakes up? Stay-at-home mom, which is not difficult? You go to work during the day and go home at eight o'clock at night, which is equivalent to working for more than ten hours a day? The degree of hard work is self-evident, and you have to undertake all the housework when you come back? Then what is your wife doing at home? Is to accompany the children? Although she is hard and can't do all the housework, she must do her best. How hard can a mother sleep until two or three in the afternoon?

I am also a full-time mother. I sincerely hope my mother-in-law can help me, and I have had troubles and quarrels. But that's just venting. I won't let a husband who gets off work at eight o'clock in the evening take on all the housework.

As for how to untie this knot, to be honest, I can't untie it. My child is six years old, and my in-laws will take care of my child now. But I still feel chilling at the thought that they didn't help me much when my children were young. I think this knot, I'm afraid, is difficult to untie. You should communicate with your lover freely, and your in-laws don't need help, right? Besides, why doesn't grandma help the children? It is not the way for your lover to be persistent. After all, you are still alive.

I have been there before, and I have the most say: no matter who takes care of children, especially children aged 0 to 3, they are tired.

As long as children are involved, quarrels are inevitable. Being a parent for the first time, everything is new and I don't know anything. I always think that the information I read in books or online is correct.

Because they don't know how to take care of children, children will inevitably feel uncomfortable, cry, can't sleep, and black and white are upside down.

The mother with the child is half tired, so her resentment is great. Either take it out on your husband or resent your wife for not helping with the children. Whatever the reason, as long as you look for it, you will find it.

From the birth of the child, the mother also helps to take care of the child, and helps to take care of the child day and night, washing clothes, cooking and so on. Tired, anyway, mom didn't get things done in the eyes of her wife. Anyway, at home, everyone has a hard time.

Later, I changed my wife and raised my own children, so I became a yellow-faced woman. I also buy food in the morning and wash clothes and a big basket at night. My wife said that children's clothes should be washed by hand and asked me to wash clothes until eleven o'clock in the evening every day. Get up in the middle of the night to help milk and change diapers.

If the child has a fever and cough, he doesn't have to sleep one night and has to go to work the next day. I'm too sleepy to go to work during the day, so I can only sit and sleep for a while, and let my colleagues in the office keep an eye out for me, so that I sometimes have to hide in the bathroom and put on a large size to sleep for a while.

These problems didn't get better until the children went to kindergarten. What quarrel, what fatigue, in my opinion, deeply let us know that it is not easy to be a parent, and every parent is like this.

So, let time solve your problem? There is no trick.

I want to say: young friends, if you are not ready, I suggest that you don't get married and have children for the time being, because life is like this, do your own thing and shoulder your responsibilities. We hope to have foreign aid, but we can't rely on it. This is our due responsibility and responsibility. Our ancestors have come here for generations. ......

Under pressure, there must be brave people! I am a brave man forced by life.

My husband and I both have jobs. For various reasons, we were a little over 40 when we wanted a second child. Both old people have passed away, the mortgage has not been paid off, and the eldest daughter is in college.

When no one is waiting on the moon, my husband gets up early to wash diapers and cook for me. When he is hungry, he heats the rice in the rice cooker for me to eat. At noon, I will rest for more than an hour and come back to cook for me.

I went to work less than two months after the baby was born. At this time, we have neither money nor help. So, I negotiated with a life teacher in our school and I gave her 800 yuan every month. She only takes care of my children when I am in class, and I take care of them after class.

At noon, my husband gets off work, we cook lunch, and at night, my husband leads the children, and I start washing the clothes changed by the children. When the children are asleep, I will prepare for the next day's class and correct the students' homework.

Many colleagues asked me if I was tired. I'm not tired. I am very happy to see the children grow up day by day and the students' grades are always the first.

Among them, the most feared thing is that the child is sick, but the child is so sick. We all make time to take our children to the doctor and then go on working.

It's easy to say, but the difficulties in the middle are unimaginable. In order to save money and make a living, every day is very painful.

No matter how hard it is, it will pass. As soon as children go to kindergarten, they will suddenly feel "liberated".

My husband and I used to quarrel a lot, but we haven't quarreled since we gave birth to our second child. Because I saw him do his best for this family; He also saw that I had no regrets, and we were both very moved.

Understand each other a little more, try to think for each other, and take on as many tasks as possible, and you will have more warmth.

This may be a separation. I took care of the baby for more than two months when my wife just gave birth, because my wife was in poor health after giving birth. At that time, the most tiring thing was not sleeping well, and I had to get up every hour at night. At that time, it was difficult for me to take care of the children alone, because the knife still hurt just after the operation.

I don't feel anything else Two months later, my wife recovered and took care of the children by herself. At that time, I asked him if he wanted my mother to look after them. She said no, saying she was fine. I also observed it during that time. I really didn't see how tired she was. She sleeps until 10 every day. Because the child is young and sleeps for a long time, she uses the child's sleeping time to do housework.

Because I had just finished major surgery, and the time was not long. I can't do any manual labor. At that time, my wife did all the housework, cooked and went to the supermarket to buy food, and took care of the children and me.

At that time, I was worried that she was too busy alone. Later, I found that she finished housework and looked after the children every day. After the children fell asleep, she could still find time to play games and embroider cross-stitch.

This is no exaggeration, because during that time, my mother was afraid that she would be too busy to accompany us for a period of time. As a result, she found that she couldn't help and went back in a few days.

When I took care of the children myself two months ago, it was because the children were sleeping backwards at that time. They slept all day and had to get up for almost an hour at night to change diapers. An hour later, they got up to deliver hot milk. I didn't understand it at the time. I never even used diapers. The ordinary gauze used should be changed as soon as the child urinates. When someone introduces you to diapers, it's much easier to get rid of them at once.

I took care of my daughter for about half the time before she was two years old. To be honest, I don't feel tired. But I really didn't sleep well. After changing diapers and feeding for a while, I finished, and then I let my child lie next to me or in the stroller, playing computer and mobile phone there, without any delay.

When the child cries, he walks around for a while. There was a time when he had to carry him around the living room at midnight every day, or he would cry. During that time, I didn't sleep well anyway.

Anyway, almost all the children around me are brought up by their mothers alone, plus doing housework.

What the landlord said about his own situation, I feel more like I have postpartum depression, so I need to communicate more at this time. Don't lose your temper, just coax more, talk more after work, and it will be fine after a long time.

Many times 1 A mother who takes care of her children alone feels tired, often because she spends too much time alone with her children. A person at home, from pregnancy to the first year or two after giving birth, almost all I am looking after the children. On the one hand, it is easy to get tired after giving birth to a child, and more is psychological depression. At this time, if my husband comes home from work and doesn't care, he will naturally be in a mood.

At that time, my wife could do so many things by herself. I think a large part of the reason is because I stay at home for illness every day. Although I can't help my work, I can talk to her all the time, so she won't be bored at home.

In this case, in the face of his wife's complaints, as a husband, he can only spend more time with him and coax him. The child will naturally recover after he is two or three years old.

Hello, I'm Wu, and I'll answer.

First of all, praise you verbally. You are a responsible person, a good employee outside and a good husband and father at home.

However, your wife doesn't realize that taking care of the children is your business. She is the mother of the child and you are the father of the child. Your parents or her parents help each other out of affection. You should not complain if you don't help.

Therefore, if you want to change the status quo, you must make your wife realize the following points.

She is the mother of the child. When the child is young, if she doesn't go to work, she must do her duty as a mother.

Both husband and wife have no problem, one is at work and the other is at home with the baby. It's just a division of labor.

However, after your wife had a child, she still went to bed at 2.3 pm and woke up at 2.3 pm, leaving everything to you, who should be responsible for making money outside. This is very inappropriate.

Because, according to your family division of labor, this should be her business.

You can give her some time to recover and adjust, but you must not make her feel that your efforts are right.

Her present thinking is a kind of entrusted mentality, which is very dangerous. You're starting to feel uncomfortable. If you go any further, you may ruin your marriage.

Above, blessing.

My daughter is one year old and can walk or just learn to walk. A woman with children is really tired. It's tiring to see you do housework when you come back from work. Look at your painting. I want to say that your wife can't take care of the children because she has no experience.

I resigned at the age of 65,438+0. My mother took it before 65,438+0, and then I took it myself. My mother-in-law never took it. My husband is at work, and I don't want to cook for several people. I'm going to cook for them, and they can have hot meals as soon as they get off work.

Take the children out to buy food in the morning and play games with them when picking vegetables. Cooking is the hardest. Holding him in one hand and cooking in the other is really tiring.

When children are 1 year-old, they will definitely take a nap at noon, at least 1 hour, which can be used to do housework and clean up dishes and chopsticks. They are very tired after work and lie down for a few minutes after dinner before going to work.

As long as the child is not sick, 1 people can still cope. Once the child is sick, he can't even eat his own food.

As for children, turning black and white upside down can be transferred. Stick to it for 3 days, and the child will not reverse black and white. Schedule yourself: children have breakfast in the morning and go out for a long time. Don't let her sleep. Children outside are usually very excited. 1 1 Cook something for her before going home.

Because I am tired of playing in the morning, I should sleep at least 1 hour. When I wake up, I will play with her. 1 year-old children can play a lot of things and take them out for a walk at night. Go to bed before 10 at the latest, and 9 o'clock is ideal. In the evening, we adults should keep up with our schedule.

Conclusion: If you want to change, you must communicate with your wife. My mother-in-law has no obligation to help our young people with their children. Couples who have children of their own cooperate well. When you come back from work, you take care of the baby and let your wife cook. It's really tiring to have no one to help with the children, but 1 people go to work, 1 people can support each other and help each other.

Then you take your daughter and your wife to work at home to make money.

I think you are a good husband until the child is one year old. Stick to one or two more sentences, and the child will be able to go to kindergarten, and it will be much better then.

Besides, I don't understand your wife:

1. I think it is much easier to do housework than to take care of children. She actually chose to be with the children. When my husband comes back from work, I'd rather do housework and let my husband play with the children.

2. Children don't want to change until they are one year old, so they sleep from midnight to one or two in the afternoon according to children who don't know anything? Taking care of children in this way is connivance. It is normal for children to cry. We should find ways to make children develop a normal schedule, instead of being too obedient to children because they are afraid of crying. I think we should try to make our children happy or cry during the day. When they are tired of crying, they will sleep. Sometimes children cry because they want to eat, stink, or have other needs. He should respond when crying, but he doesn't leave his body, so it may become more and more difficult for children to take care of him.

Since you are a full-time nanny, you should do a good job as a nanny. I have a grudge against my mother-in-law, but if my mother-in-law really comes, there will be many contradictions.

If you have your husband's understanding, you should cherish it. Don't use your mother-in-law's failure to help as an excuse. The child is your own, and you are responsible for it yourself.

I always feel that no matter whether my mother-in-law and my own mother come to help or not, the children are born by myself. I am responsible for them and I will try my best to take care of them. If my husband is still so understanding and supportive, it will be more perfect.

4. Ma Bao's ability is high and low, but he still tries to have a good attitude. Some treasure moms may not be good at housework and don't like it, but I think capable treasure moms are still willing to study hard for their children, let alone full-time treasure moms.

A child needs a period of recuperation and rest after birth. But I think after three months, doing more housework is of great benefit to physical recovery and health.

There are thousands of people, and sometimes it is helpless to marry such a wife. You can communicate with your wife more, let her learn more correct parenting methods, and don't always use a bunch of broken excuses to blame your mother-in-law and you.

In life, you still need to devote yourself to life. Understand each other and help each other, so that life will not produce resentment or dissatisfaction, and happiness will come to you.

I hope everyone is full of kindness to others and live a happy life!

It shows that you still lack family life skills and life experience. Life skills and life experience are the basic functions that a person develops from childhood. Now that I am married and living independently, I can't even support a small family, let alone a huge family, because I lack such life skills and working ability. Why is this happening? The main reason is that your parents have spoiled you since childhood, so that you can't do a lot of housework and your children can't take care of you! You said you would do housework and take care of the children? But only one child makes you so embarrassed! Can you say that you can do housework and take care of children? In the past, China's family had a large group of children. Under such difficult living conditions, they all raised their children by the mother of one child! Let everyone grow up to support a huge family! How different a child is from a large group of children, even a dozen children! Are people so incompetent nowadays? Many families all over the world are a large group of children. Their children are all brought up by themselves, and a large number of children have been trained. They are not at a loss like you! Why is this? The most important reason is: China's only child has been spoiled and over-trained since childhood, and is used to the days of "clothes reach out, food makes a living". Now she has to support a small family by herself, so she feels overwhelmed and at a loss. She knows that if one loses one's basic life skills and various labor abilities, it will do great harm to every family. Families in China will die in the future, because every child lacks life skills and working ability. China has only 240 million people left by 2 150, which fully proves this point.