Selected letters to children who fall in love early

As an important tool for interpersonal communication, letters are closely related to daily life. So, how to write a letter to a child who loves puppy love? Below I have compiled a sample letter to a child who loves puppy love for your reference!

A sample letter to a child who loves puppy love 1

Son:

Mom is writing this letter to you to discuss the issue of puppy love among middle school students. In fact, we have talked about this topic a lot, so the reason for writing this letter is The purpose of this letter is to clarify my thoughts again. In addition, if there is any disagreement with you and it is inconvenient for you to refute when talking, you can also write back to your mother and we will discuss it again.

?Puppy love? This term may be very sensitive to many parents. We often see parents of my age asking whether their children have signs of puppy love, either in horror or with awe-inspiring expressions. I understand the worries of parents, but at the same time I also want to say that middle school students? Puppy love? is not a scourge. As long as it is treated correctly and handled properly, it can be turned into the most pure and beautiful memory of youth and cherished. Some education experts say that "puppy love" among middle school students can be seen as "premature love". It is normal for adolescent children to be interested or even fond of the opposite sex. The so-called "puppy love" may be an appreciation of the other person's character, admiration for the other person's achievements, or maybe they just think the other person is beautiful? That's it. Mom was also young. When I was your age, there was a boy with a round face who could recite poetry. I loved watching him perform and felt that I fell in love with him. But at that time, there were boundaries between boys and girls. (It's very feudal, right). The deskmate must draw a line in the middle and usually don't talk to each other, so the mother and the boy can be said to not know each other at all. Now I have long forgotten how long that "like" lasted. In short, it feels a bit ridiculous when I think about it now, but it remains in my memory as a beautiful fragment of my boyhood. The "early practice" I just mentioned is a kind of temptation of the opposite sex and a hazy fantasy of love. Adolescence is the first step from a child to an adult. There is still a long way to go. As knowledge and experience increase, cognition will change greatly. My mother was thinking, even if I could talk and date that boy, would I really marry him? Absolutely not, haha, because there are too many variables.

Let’s talk about why parents should worry and be afraid of puppy love. Adolescence is the stage of schooling, and of course academics should be the main focus. If you put too much energy into emotional aspects, your academic performance will be affected. Of course, my mother does not approve of some parents interfering in this, either reprimanding or obstructing it in every possible way. In fact, it may be just an innocent friendship that the children mistake for love. As long as parents guide them correctly, I believe that their children will understand the overall situation and consider the overall situation. Even if children really like someone, they can make progress together as long as they handle the appropriateness of getting along and encourage each other. I heard that one year the top students in liberal arts and sciences in the college entrance examination were a couple. I don’t know if this is true. If so, it would be a good story. If two people love each other, they must not be in love with each other and indulge in it every day. In the end, if both of them learn nothing, there will be regrets even if they can get together in the future; if one party has poor self-control, there will be a huge gap in knowledge between the two in the future. It's too big, and the possibility of getting together is slim. After all, two people have to pay attention to a good match.

The second issue that worries parents is about sex. Adolescent children have a preliminary understanding of sex, but at the same time they are full of curiosity. What mom wants to tell you here is that you are a boy and you must have a sense of responsibility. You must know what you can and cannot do. Maybe you have also heard that there are many "teen mothers" in the United States. I think this may be related to the concept of "sexual openness" in the United States. Abortion of girls who become pregnant out of wedlock causes great harm and destruction to their bodies and minds. ?Teenage mothers? will also cause a series of social problems, so we must control the degree of contact between boys and girls. I remember an old man said, "You can do something at any age." Although sex is not a "forbidden fruit," if you try it too early, you will definitely suffer. My mother has a popular science book on sex on the bookshelf at home. You can read it.

Finally, mom wants to tell you what kind of person she hopes you find. Maybe it's too early to talk about this topic, but even when you grow up, you must remember the following four words. This is what your father and I often call "temper and temperament."

Living with a good-tempered person will make you feel comfortable and comfortable all your life. No one wants to live a restless life all day long. Also, remember: "A situation is easy to change, but a character is hard to change." If you find that the other person has a bad temper and is petty, don't try to change her, because you simply can't. The so-called "character", of course, refers to a person's quality and cultivation. I won't go into details about this. You can also identify this based on your current knowledge and experience.

Today my colleague gave me a ride after get off work. She is divorced. Summarizing this marriage, she said with emotion that when she was in college, she didn't think about falling in love at all. Once she graduated from college, she became anxious and got married in a hurry after being introduced by someone, but the result was still a divorce. So if she could be young again, she said she would definitely see if there is anyone suitable for her in college and fall in love calmly. From what she said, my mother once again realized that people should grasp every stage of life, enjoy the joy of acquiring knowledge when they are young, fully appreciate the sweetness of love in youth, feel the joy of career success in middle age, and be satisfied with life in old age. Enjoy the family happiness of enjoying your grandchildren. Nowadays, there are often reports on TV about parents’ blind date groups using photos of their children to find partners for them. I don’t want you to worry about your mother like that in the future. Of course, it’s best not to scare your mother with “puppy love”.

That’s all.

Bless you, my son!

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Dear son:

You talked about the issue of love. Mom, I'm glad you were so open about talking to Mom about this. Sometimes I want to talk to you, but I'm afraid you'll be too preoccupied, and I'm also worried that you might not be willing to talk to me openly. Now you can take the initiative to talk, mother is so happy! You have a yearning for love, this is very normal!? Which boy is not good at falling in love, and which girl is not good at cherishing youth? This is what Goethe said in "The Sorrows of Young Werther", a famous quote Oh, hehe. Regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, curiosity and affection for the opposite sex occur naturally. It would be strange if one felt nothing about it. In other words, not normal. However, young people's love or yearning for love has such a characteristic: hazy. What is hazy? Hazy is the inexplicable liking for a person from the bottom of my heart, hoping to see her, hear her voice, and understand everything about her. However, where does this feeling come from, what is it about her that attracts me, what is good about her, but I can’t explain why.

Therefore, I have always believed that this kind of hazy emotion in young people is very pure and beautiful, not only not a sin (many parents and teachers once find out that any child has such budding emotions, they will... Facing a powerful enemy and feeling that disaster is imminent), on the contrary, it should be cared for, cherished and praised.

However, what is the difference between this hazy emotion and true love? True love is not only emotion, but also rationality. Because you know what kind of partner you want, you are clear about the other person's strengths and weaknesses. Of course you love the advantages, but you can also tolerate and even love the shortcomings. At the same time, love is not just about mutual pleasure, but also a lifelong commitment. This responsibility is huge, and it is not easy to keep this promise and bear it well. Therefore, love has two sides: on the one hand it is extremely beautiful, on the other hand it is a huge responsibility. If responsibilities are shouldered well, then responsibility itself is beautiful and a process of enjoyment; if responsibilities are not shouldered well, it will become the greatest pain in life.

A young person is like a sapling, which will grow into a big tree in the future and provide shelter for many people. But it is not a big tree now. If it insists on withstanding wind, thunder, rain and lightning, it will be destroyed. Therefore, what the saplings have to do now is to absorb nutrients and grow into a strong tree. In the future, you will definitely be able to take on the responsibilities of love and family, and become the backbone of the family.

Now, if her son has a crush on a girl, his mother will definitely not stop him. (There have been cases before, haha) But how do we deal with such emotions? I think the main thing is to express my goodwill towards her, not to pray for her love, but to care more about her and help her when she needs it. Help her when needed. Not asking for anything in return from her.

But at the same time, love is mutual. If you just like her and she doesn’t like you, then such feelings must be buried in your heart. (It's okay to be nice to her secretly, but don't try to say to her: Look, I'm so nice to you, you should also be nice to me.

In this case, she will ignore you. She doesn't need you to be nice to her either. ) Because it means you two are not traveling in the same direction. Love is the mutual attraction between two parties, rather than one person's unilateral contribution. That's not called love, that's just called "unrequited love", just like your classmate Xiao Ming. If you still want to attract her attention, what you have to do is to make yourself outstanding, not to make her pity. Sympathy must not lead to good results. (The “you” here does not refer to the son. It is just for the convenience of expression. It is assumed that I am talking to a young man. Haha)

Therefore, it is normal to like a girl and be nice to her. , very healthy and beautiful. I am willing to be nice to her without losing my own demeanor and character. I do it in a generous and open manner. This is what I call attractive. But this is not something done, but a true expression from the heart. Maintaining such a hazy feeling will become a lifetime of beautiful memories. Just like two saplings, they grow together as companions and encourage each other in times of wind and rain.

Xiao Ming just didn’t remain hazy and made his feelings too real: I like her, so I need to let her know, and I need to make her like me too, and I need her to take action. Therefore, he had no choice but to have unrequited love, and there was basically no hope of realizing it. Even if the girl is moved and accepts it, she will definitely separate.

In addition, two people who love each other must keep pace with each other in terms of character and moral cultivation, so that they can fly together. I think your son may not have the opportunity to meet someone who is worthy of you. This person is not easy to find either. However, my son can rest assured that this person definitely exists, I just don’t know where she is now.

I may have said too much, but in short, if you like a girl, don’t feel guilty. But at the same time, you have to control the situation carefully, that is, keep it vague and don't say anything.

Wish your son a good night, mom loves you!

Mom

XX, XX, 20XX

A letter to a child who loves puppy love Model Wen San

Dear classmates:

You can like Wang Bin’s cuteness, but please don’t like the cute Wang Bin. You can like Zhou Xiao’s weird elf, but please don’t. Zhou Xiao, who likes weird elves, you can like a girl who is as light as a chrysanthemum and as passionate as fire, but please don't like a girl who is as light as a chrysanthemum and as passionate as fire. You can like all the good qualities, In these likes, constantly revise and improve your standards for finding a wife, but please don't let other people's youth pay for your irrationality. Please cherish the girl who sends you a good person card, because she knows how to respect feelings, respect herself, and respect you.

The reason why I say it is irrational is because love is like a small tree. Its growth requires sunshine, rain and dew, fertile soil, and careful care, and as a middle school student, you simply don’t give it. Sorry.

Because his economic basis is not money, but time and energy. If you are a responsible person, I don’t need to tell you. You also know where your time and energy should be invested in the six years of middle school. Even if you are already confident about entering the university of your choice, you can ensure that you will not affect The other person’s life trajectory? Can you ensure that what you give her is the life she wants?

My understanding of love is that love must promote each other’s growth and make each other better than imagined. . If because of your "love", two people cannot go all out to do the right thing at the right time, and unfortunately miss the height that life should have, that is a blasphemy against love. Please take back this fake love.

In 14 years of teaching career and 10 years of experience as a class teacher, I have seen too many regrets. Love is occasionally like a tonic, which can make two people improve their performance in a short period of time, but it is inevitable that it will be short-lived. Because of emotional instability and mental immaturity, it is difficult to achieve good academic results in the end. The most frightening thing is that the emotional fighting spirit that was like declaring war on the whole world was basically wiped out in the summer vacation of senior year, which makes people feel even more sad. Boring.

Therefore, I basically don’t care about the so-called “puppy love” students in the class, and I won’t give you the opportunity to create excitement, but I will tell all the teachers to leave this person alone, because all of us People's efforts may be reduced to zero because of a small conflict between them. There are too many students worthy of attention. Don't waste energy on them. Don't blame the teacher for being cruel. If you choose the sweetness of love, you must bear all the consequences. As a result, this world is conserved, and gains and losses are not empty words.

A student once jokingly told me, "Teacher, my parents have prepared the house, car, and money for me, but now I am short of a wife." I told him, what you lack is not a wife, but a brain.

A girl with real quality will not follow you because of your parents’ generosity, because being short-tongued and short-handed is not the result of two people’s struggle. It is not easy to be a daughter-in-law with low eyebrows and pleasing eyes ;If she is here for these things, then there is no need to hang out with you. She can go directly to your parents. When it comes to love, species is not a problem, not to mention age?

Having everything is more terrifying than having nothing. Your parents have given you a higher platform, which actually makes it more difficult for you to struggle. You need to work harder and achieve more to achieve success. Things have your own label, which is much harder than starting from scratch. You should have a greater sense of crisis than the average person. How dare you criticize your parents’ achievements here? Why don’t you just shut up and work harder?

Love, for middle school students, is like a luxury item that is too expensive, neither can it be given, nor can it be asked for. It's not because of the "evil" college entrance examination, nor because there are too many Chinese people and the competition is too fierce. In fact, everyone should thank the college entrance examination for giving you an opportunity to grow and prove yourself.

Since you were young, you have had no say in many important matters, but starting from the college entrance examination, your life really begins to be decided by you. What is university? My understanding is that university is to give you a safe place, allowing you to grow up slowly, allowing you to spend four years recognizing what you really want? What kind of person do you want to be? People, what kind of path should we take? This is really a place where we talk about life and ideals. So do you think this place is important?

Different universities will take you to different paths in life. You can see What you don’t see is the difficulty of finding a job, but what you don’t see is the influence of culture, the guidance of values, and the establishment of life trajectory. I really see that the lives of many students are completely different starting from college.

Are you willing to have brothers who were once stumped by the same question in the same classroom and become completely different within a few years? Think about your classmates in junior high school and elementary school. You must have felt like struggling to catch up. It is also difficult to catch up with people, and there must be people who can't catch up with you even if they try their best. University will turn this gap into a qualitative difference in life. Therefore, no amount of effort is too much. So, are you still willing to waste your time and energy?

Waking up to hold the power of the world and lying drunk on the lap of a beautiful woman is the life that many men dream of, but I want to ask, when her hair reaches her waist, Do you already have the ability to rule the world? If you are not ready yet and do not have enough strength, please stay away from love and maintain the integrity of a bachelor.

Thank you!

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