Communication can solve children's carelessness better than preaching.

As long as I see my son making mistakes in simple calculations, my usual practice is to call my son in and criticize him severely, tell him a lot of truth, and then give him a new question to make him promise not to make mistakes again. It is true that my son's carelessness has improved in a short time, but no matter how much I criticize, reason and punish him for doing the problem recently, my son will still make mistakes. I find it difficult for criticism and preaching to play their roles.

Reviewing positive discipline recently made me realize that I must communicate with my son in a different way, and it may be effective to choose a relaxed environment for my son to express his thoughts.

One afternoon, my son came home with me after school. On the way, I chatted with him about school life and let him relax. I asked my son, "What's new at school today? Tell me about it. " He told me funny stories between several classmates, and finally said, "Our class is very good, whether it is study or sports."

"Really?" I asked. "Yes, our classmates won our 100 meter sprint today, and there was a math contest a few days ago. The top three in the grade are all in our class. Do you think it's awesome, mom? " "Niu, you are in this class, so you are also very cow." "Well, I can't, I can't. I didn't choose this math contest. I just need one question. Hey, they are all careless! "

"Do you want to change your carelessness?" "Well, I want to change it." My conversation with my son naturally turned to casual questions.

The son said, "Actually, you don't need my father to tell you. I know I am careless, but how can I change it? " I saw my son in low spirits and wanted to get rid of this careless habit.

Next, I can brainstorm with my son on careless issues very smoothly. This kind of communication has changed the way I used to say that children listen. I keep my direction in conversation, mainly by my son. My son said that to get rid of carelessness, focus on the problem first and don't think about other irrelevant things. I quickly said with certainty, "Yes, anything else?" I guided, "In addition, check after finishing the questions, especially the calculation questions." The son replied. Inspired by me, my son also thought of reading the topic carefully, circling important information with a pencil, and seeing the topic clearly before doing it; I also gave him a suggestion to write the word "be careful" on the desk calendar to remind myself to be careful at any time. With our joint efforts, there are several ways to get rid of carelessness: 1. Be serious and attentive when doing the problem; 2. Check after completing the questions; Error-prone topics, read the topics carefully, see the requirements of the topics clearly, and draw key information; Mark the word "be careful" where you can see it at any time to remind yourself to be careful.

There was a math test paper in the homework that day. We reviewed the above methods to correct carelessness, and our son began to do the problem. Although there were still mistakes in the math test paper that day, I was glad that all the questions I could do were correct. My son is also very excited. It turns out that these careless problems can be corrected as long as they are serious.

In fact, everyone has a problem of carelessness, especially children. Seeing children make mistakes on simple problems, criticism and preaching are not conducive to solving problems. The best way is to brainstorm with children and let them think about how to eliminate carelessness. We can also put forward many solutions to the problem of carelessness, such as setting a certain number of beans, asking children to count beans, or reading an article with many numbers for children, and finally asking children to list how many numbers are in a * * * to exercise their care.