How do you feel after beating and scolding your child?

Our parents are disobedient to their children. Poor study habits, when a mistake is made, many parents take a rude way of scolding lightly and hitting hard. When you told him about the dangers of beating and scolding children, he said that only by beating and scolding can children obey. Is that really the case? Parents themselves admit that they can only manage their children for a while, but they can't manage their children for a lifetime!

Beating and scolding children will cause mental harm to children in the following ways:

First, destroy the value system of children's dignity, make children lose their sense of dignity as human beings, and give them the illusion that beating and cursing are right, because it is precisely because they have committed something that they are beaten and cursed. It was wrong of my parents to hit me, but it was right of my parents to hit me. Then the child was beaten and scolded outside, with no discernment and lack of self-protection consciousness, and became timid over time!

Second, let the children feel extremely insecure. First, they are beaten and scolded. The other is that if something happens to you, you will be hysterical and hurt people with violence. In the long run, you will develop a rude and bad way of interacting with people!

Third, children are adults, and beating and scolding children is also a way of education!

Fourth, when children are young, they can bear your abuse. As he grows older, he will be rebellious, not close to his parents, and the parent-child relationship is extremely bad. All parental education is invalid.

At this time, we will say that at that time, our parents still educated us like this. I said, it's different. At that time, children had brothers and sisters who were beaten and scolded by their parents. Brothers and sisters who untied their hearts made it difficult for children to notice the injury. Children at that time were not as delicate and fragile as children now.

We also said that he didn't grow snacks until I hit him. Actually, it's not. You beat and scold him many times, and the child has become oily skin, which basically has no effect!

So, what is an effective education method when children have problems?

Loving a child begins with pure love, and I love him only because he is my child. If children have problems of one kind or another, they should first review themselves, so it is easy to calm down.

From the moment the child is born, pay attention to communicate with the child, love, smile, hug, say the right words and form good habits. Such children will have fewer problems. From the tender age, they will gradually infiltrate the correct concept into their lives until their children are eighteen!

Develop the habit of speaking with children on an equal footing, analyze the consequences of children's behavior and words with children, and let children judge for themselves.

Develop the habit of children thinking for themselves, do anything, consider the results first, and then correct themselves!

Give your child a chance to bear the negative consequences of mistakes and let him remember!

Appropriate punishment is within the child's psychological tolerance, such as canceling a reward, thinking, writing and reflecting, and so on!

This requires us to be learning parents, keep learning, keep thinking and keep practicing!