How can we remember so many etiquettes for funerals in rural areas?

It’s too complicated. I don’t know how to remember it. Maybe only by personal experience can I know some general processes. Some matters are also done by the elders telling the younger generation to do it. Let’s learn from it. That’s right.

Some time ago, my 62-year-old father-in-law suddenly suffered a myocardial infarction. He had always been in good health, but he suddenly left immediately. It is difficult to accept this reality.

When I received the news, I was driving to the county town to buy groceries and prepare a full-moon party for my child. Who knew that something like this would happen? The car had already arrived at the county town, so I turned around. I went home, picked up my wife and rushed to my father-in-law and mother-in-law’s house.

When I got home, my father-in-law was lying upright in the room where he slept. He was already wearing a shroud, a piece of money paper was covered on his head, and his feet were tied with straw. Then the children and son-in-law Stay by the bedside. Sometimes relatives will burn some paper and light a lamp. The lamp cannot be extinguished. Incense and candles are also lit. This is also a constant state. At night, they have to keep vigil.

The next day I hired a master to shave my father-in-law’s hair. After shaving, I had to throw away the knife. After wiping it with a towel, I poured the water in the basin next to the bed. During this process, I When I saw my father-in-law's face, I realized that it had changed a lot from when he was alive, and he felt a little unfamiliar. Suddenly I thought of a photo my wife took of him with her mobile phone last year, and when I thought of the scene when he was chatting with me, I had mixed feelings.

My father-in-law left suddenly, but I found that his ID card and bank card were missing. I searched for them for a long time, and finally found them in the cracks of a cardboard box. I also found an IOU. Someone owed my father-in-law thirty thousand quick dollars.

I also felt a bit sad when I was setting the portrait of my father-in-law. Because he passed away so suddenly, he didn’t like to take pictures. The only photos he had were taken when he was in his forties, and they were still there. It was not very clear and the effect after washing was not good. My wife said that she took a photo of my father-in-law last year and ended up using this photo as a portrait. When I saw this photo, it reminded me of the relationship between my father-in-law and my father-in-law. My chat scene.

The next afternoon I was going to carry my father-in-law to the ancestral hall. Then the relatives all wore a white cloth on their heads and had to kneel down when carrying him out. There was no other etiquette except that it was raining heavily on the road and the shoes were soaked. When the coffin was placed in the ancestral hall, I had to kneel down again. Anyway, my knees were very painful when I knelt on the hard floor.

In the following etiquette, we will do whatever the old man tells us to do, including eating, keeping vigil, etc. On the day of burial, there will be more etiquette. We will kneel down several times and then stand up again. , knelt down again, and let the villagers carry the coffin out of the ancestral hall. The others followed, each holding two or three bamboo pieces with a piece of paper at the end. They knelt down again when the coffin was put on the tractor, and then the woman You can't go with me.

There are a lot of etiquette behind it. In fact, I just watch others do it and follow it. Anyway, I just kneel down repeatedly. I really don’t know why. When I come back, We asked my father-in-law's family to help us pick the white cloth. I didn't know this etiquette at the time, so I ran to the dining place alone. I got a phone call urging me to go home quickly, and then I had to kneel down. Anyway, I don't remember how much I knelt down. times.

Rural funeral rituals may seem complicated, but each place has a relatively fixed set of procedures, and there are usually people who are familiar with them to preside over and arrange these complicated affairs. Moreover, every family has people who are proficient in this matter, and they will also deliberately cultivate successors in this area. This can also be regarded as a kind of cultural inheritance. In fact, as long as you have been exposed to it comprehensively once or twice, you will be able to remember the general procedures. For other details, you only need to get help from people you know. Basically you can understand it. "Nothing in the world is difficult, only those who are willing to do it."

In the past, I was indifferent to this aspect, but since my parents passed away, I have experienced it myself and I am basically familiar with this aspect of procedures. Last time, when a relative of my family passed away, I took on the position of governor. If I didn't understand something, I could ask my elders for advice, and I was able to handle it easily.

Although today’s funeral rituals have been greatly simplified compared to those in the past, many young people still know nothing about it. Some participate in funerals and do not even know the correct posture of kowtow, let alone "walking". There are rituals such as "ritual" and "called etiquette". Basically, they are all kinds of, all kinds of tricks, and almost funny.

The funeral rituals can be summarized into the following items:

1. Encoffining.

It includes bathing the deceased, wearing a shroud for the deceased, writing and prohibiting burning of money to the deceased, placing the deceased in the coffin, placing offerings, and lighting a long lamp. Build a filial piety tent.

Second, report the funeral. Draw up a list of people who need to report bereavement and send out personnel to report bereavement to relatives and friends. Neither omission nor re-reporting is allowed.

Three, stop the coffin. During the coffin rest period, Taoist priests are invited to perform rituals. There are specialties in pulling the filial piety cloth, issuing the filial piety cloth, and writing the filial piety slip. In our local area, we also need to write a scroll (a scroll) to call for etiquette and remove spirits.

Four, going to mourning. Ask a Feng Shui master to find a cemetery, dig a well, carry the coffin, and backfill it.

Basically just a few programs. Villager Night Talk plans to write a manuscript about local funeral rituals in the future, as a record of cultural inheritance, for the enjoyment of readers, so stay tuned for the follow-up.

We usually hold funerals for three days here, from the death to the funeral. Generally speaking, there are not too many etiquettes. After the death of an elderly person in the family, we will notify those who are close to the family. people, and then ask other people in the village to come over and help. The first thing to do is to dig out the grave. Before death, most people will build their own grave and build a small brick house underground, which is also commonly known as the ghost house. The door is blocked with a concrete board, which is usually left alone. After the person dies, someone will be found to dig out the tomb passage and lift the board. Everyone is given a pack of cigarettes when they go to work. There are also cigarettes and tea in the work area. We need a big pot at home. We cook noodles and a big pot of vegetables for the first two days. On the third day when the funeral is held, we eat rice and a big pot of vegetables for lunch. The food on this day is much better than the previous two days. When the funeral is held, a sticker is posted on the door. There is a piece of white paper on which it is written who should do what. It has been divided up. During the funeral, all the people who helped will get a pack of cigarettes each. After the burial, they will go back to their homes. It is over. Generally speaking, our affairs here are relatively simple, and there are not so many rules. We always ask a respected elder in the village to take charge of the affairs, and he knows the specific rules. Now there are people who specialize in funerals. They provide one-stop services. As long as you give money, they will arrange some things.

My father-in-law passed away when I first got married, and I had forgotten about it. But I am still impressed by the complexity of the funeral. Just two days ago, my husband's uncle just passed away. My mother-in-law is almost the same. I went to help in just over a week. We need to invite the elderly in the village to come over to be the abbot, and we need to invite people to come over to chant sutras. We need to invite a chef to come over and prepare a banquet. We bought whatever the old people in the village told us to buy. His family even hired someone to do it. His family held a funeral in the middle of the night. Many ceremonies are sent to the city's crematorium. There will also be mourning and music along the way. Then, there was a farewell ceremony arranged by the staff in a small auditorium. Only an elderly person dies in our village. They would play sad music on the village radio.

Let me try this question. Practice makes perfect. White things are not as good as red things. If you don't do the complicated etiquette well, you will be laughed at.

What we pay attention to here is burial, which is very different from the customs, but it remains the same, and the etiquette is indispensable.

After the death of an ancestor, the first thing to do is to ask someone to call the steward, but the person involved is not allowed to go. The manager came and asked for the chef. The chef would wait until the time was right. When a man dies, he mainly goes to his uncle's family, and when a girl dies, she goes to her mother's family. This is done by holding the incense. If the person holding the incense does not come, they will not dare to wake up. The nephew sets up a lantern to shine on his uncle. It won't work if the arrangement of setting up the lanterns is not good. Long Qi is a member of the family, and if they don't handle the quarrel well, they will be beaten to the head and blood.

Let’s talk about etiquette, because I am the husband, and the funeral director in the village is the outer circle. I am responsible for all etiquette matters in the inner circle. I have to be careful in everything and not worry about being laughed at. Relatives are required to issue mourning notices when they express their condolences. If they do not send out mourning notices, others will laugh at them. Friends do not kowtow to express their mourning, but only offer incense in worship. When the spirit is about to rise, it must be bowed three times and nine times to offer incense and offer sacrifices to the spirit.

All in all, there are many things to do during the funeral, and everything must be done correctly during the burial and burial. Just like writing the number sheet, there are also things to pay attention to. The father is not doing it, and the mother is not doing it. The father is sleeping in peace at the end of his life, and the mother is sleeping in bed at the end of life. I feel lonely when my father is gone, and I feel sad when my mother is gone. There are too many to explain in detail here.

I am a farmer, I live in the countryside, and I know the customs in the countryside.

China is an ancient civilization with a history of 5,000 years. Funeral rituals are also a unique culture of China. It not only shows the ancients' concept of governing the world with filial piety, but also demonstrates people's reverence for life.

In rural areas, when an old man is about to die, his children will stay by his bed as a last act of filial piety.

After the old man dies, the children will cry loudly, which not only expresses their sadness, but also tells the neighbors that the old man in their family has passed away and everyone has come to help. The next step is to give the old man a haircut, wash his body, and let him go on his way clean. The next step is to put the old man in a shroud. The shroud includes winter clothes and summer clothes, hoping that the old man will not suffer from the cold and heat in another world. This is called treating death as life.

The so-called shroud is actually Hanfu. After the Qing Dynasty entered the country, they implemented brutal shaving and changing clothes, and Hanfu became a banned item. In order to show that they do not forget their roots, Han people must wear Hanfu after they die. This tradition has been passed down to this day. And of course, cover the old man's face. It is said that because the Han people shaved their hair to wear clothes, they felt shameless and went underground to meet their ancestors.

Immediately afterwards, the stewards sent people to the relatives of the deceased to report the funeral, and the relatives would come on the same day to see the old man for the last time. After the relatives have arrived, the old man will be buried. The children will put sheets and quilts in the coffin, and then put pillows. Then, everyone will carry the old man into the coffin. Generally, people will put copper coins in the coffin. The old man has money to spend in another world. Finally, a carpenter nailed the coffin with a four-inch iron nail. This was tantamount to saying goodbye forever, and the old man's voice and smile would never be seen again. At this time, the more painful the children cried, which proved the greater their filial piety.

Generally, families set up a mourning hall for about four or five days. Tributes should be placed on the offering table and incense should be kept burning. At the same time, the quilt used by the old man during his lifetime will be distributed to his sons, which means that the quilt will be passed down from generation to generation and the descendants will prosper.

Before the funeral, the helpers would take the old man's used clothes and light them on the street, which was called burning the head down. Nowadays, there is generally no epitaph, but a red cloth 30 centimeters wide and more than 1 meter long is attached to the coffin. The old man's name and date of birth are written on the cloth, which is called a mirror. The coffin was carried by twelve young men, eight on the big head and four on the small head. The grandchildren carried flags and led the way in front. The children, all covered in sackcloth and mourning, held the coffin and cried all the way.

After the coffin reaches the ground, the old man’s daughter will give each of the coffin bearers a cigarette as a token of gratitude. Then, everyone put the coffin into the tomb together. The eldest son should hold a handful of soil, put it in the lapel of his clothes, walk around the tomb, and slowly scatter the soil into the tomb, which is called mourning. After the soil sealing is completed, when you return home, you still have to set off the whip. Don't take advantage of bad luck in your family. If the old man died within three years, he is not allowed to post couplets during the New Year.

With the development of society, many funeral rituals have been greatly simplified. As long as you are filial to the elderly during life, there is no need to worry about etiquette after death.

Trivial matters occur in every family and are difficult to avoid! You should also pay attention to some of the etiquette and taboos! If there is a virtuous elder in the family, you can ask him to make arrangements!

We are all buried here! The money for burning floor paper must be three kilograms and six taels. How many green threads are needed no matter how old you are! Crow pillows made of tea leaves, face cloths, quilts to cover several beds, and more! Many young people don’t know this!

But when that day comes, the people in your own family will not be in charge, and everything will be left to the person in charge! The person in charge then assigns the tasks to the helpers, for example: those who smoke smoke, those who hand out towels hand out towels, those who buy groceries buy groceries, those who cook, cook, etc.! As long as we have something to do here, the entire team will come to help!

The old man is in charge of all etiquette issues! In our case, there is usually not just one person, but several! They will always accompany you to finish the chores!

Thank you for the invitation to answer this question.

The rural elders and elderly rural farmers also understand and know the process of rural funerals very well.

No matter how bad it is, for example, if you don’t know, you can hire a Taoist priest. His appearance fee is 400 yuan a day. If he passes the day, after he collects the appearance fee, he will Bring your home with all the things you need.

When should something be done, when should something be done, what should be paid attention to, what items should be prepared, who should be contacted, "Seventh Sacrifice Schedule", who corresponds to the table? When, who, and what will be done? What is the purpose of doing this? With this list on hand, you won't forget it.

For example, when was the first seven? When is February 7th? When is the third phase? 4When is July? 5 Seven at what time? 67 When is it again? When will you turn 7? On this death anniversary of the year, and when it is, he will tell you what to do at different points in time?

Because these are his profession, this is what he does, and his host is these big things, but he does these things in a orderly manner, and out of respect for the deceased, he also Including recording the thoughts of future generations for the deceased, or a feeling of condolences, he will explain it to you in detail, um, he will explain the key points in time, everything he does, and write it down on paper. Let me tell you, this is what he has to do as part of his appearance fee.

This white color has appeared in rural areas. This problem does not matter. The key is that you only need someone who can understand. Once you find someone, he will spread these things to you, enlighten you, and help you. Write clearly so you don't have to worry about not remembering anything.

This article was originally published in "Three Rural Entrepreneurship Pit". Survival of rural entrepreneurship is the first priority. If you can't survive, forget about dreams and feelings.

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Handling funerals, in today’s rural areas. As long as it is an elderly person who has passed away, it is generally treated as a funeral. It's understandable that it makes it lively. Life is not easy for the elderly, and a good funeral can also give comfort to future generations. I hope that the deceased has spirit in heaven and can bless the descendants with success. But if the deceased is relatively young, or even an accidental casualty, or suicide. Of course the family will be very sad, but the neighbors will also feel shunned, and the coffin will usually be buried within three days. Moreover, generally children, those with poor health, and those who are engaged in careers outside will avoid it. The burial location is generally not accessible to ancestral tombs, and is in some remote, quiet place with few people.

First of all, when the elderly are sick and have to leave, their children will usually stay with them. If they are seriously ill in the hospital, they will stay with them. They will also be taken home. Then when the old man dies, he will burn three kilograms and six measures of paper money as travel expenses. All the lights in the house will be turned on. Then set off firecrackers. The family members have to start preparing for the funeral. At this time, uncles, brothers, etc. in the family will be notified. If a woman dies, a son must go to his parents' home to tell his uncles, cousins, etc. in person. Then I called the Feng Shui master to come over and choose a place and a date. It usually takes four, five or six days. Of course, I have seen people leave it at home for 13 days after checking the date. Usually those who die in the first month of the year. Funeral arrangements will be held after the fifth day of the lunar month. So as not to bring bad luck to others. Therefore, everyone who comes to help must give out red envelopes and red cloth.

Then the old man was scrubbed and put on his shroud. Prepare to be put into the coffin. Coffins are usually placed on both sides of the main room. Of course, in this city, I put them in the middle. In our hometown, men are on the left and women are on the right. Put the coffin in but don't cover it all. Prevent good relatives and friends from coming to see you. Then we invite Taoist priests and masters to come over and set up a dojo, chant sutras and achieve salvation. It usually starts three nights before the funeral. After the performance, the souls will be called out of the room and called to the main room to listen to the scriptures. If he dies outside, he must be brought back. But generally it’s dead outside. It will be put outside. The family has to prepare all kinds of etiquette, and the chef starts to work hard to prepare the food. There are many people eating every day. Until the night before the funeral, we will invite relatives and friends from the whole village to have a meal, which is equivalent to a banquet. In the main room, the master will do great rituals to liberate you. Then there will be a memorial service, family memorial service, condolences to ancestors and other ceremonies. In the evening, they will sing flower drum opera and set off firecrackers and fireworks. etc.

On the morning of the funeral, arrangements will be made to seal the coffin, and the children will cry. Then there is a funeral. Take the coffin stand out and park it on the road next to your home. Now the children are kneeling beside the coffin to welcome relatives and friends from all over the place. The main relatives have brought bands, wreaths, etc. It will be a hard day for the helpers, especially the cooks. It's almost noon, and we have arranged to eat. There are rules for this sitting position. On the left side of the main room, the family members sit, and on the right side, Huang Yangfu, who carries the coffin, sits. Then there is another one made by Feng Shui masters, Taoist monks. The filial sons eat while standing. At this time, the family manager will lead the filial sons to kneel in the middle of the door, deliver speeches, and read memorial inscriptions. Then my uncle will also say good things. After eating, we started preparing to go out. The coffins were tied and fixed by the coffin bearers, and the family had photos of the dutiful son at his funeral, which they knocked and typed out. Kneel in front of the coffin to offer sacrifices. Then the coffin was laid, and we knelt down to the grave very slowly, with a band, dragon lanterns, and lion dances on the way. All kinds of excitement.

When the coffin landed on the grave, all the friends dispersed. The son went to the pit and scooped up the mud three times. Put the coffin down. Then the Feng Shui master will straighten the compass. The soil can be sealed. At this time, land deeds, dried sesame seeds, paper money, and roosters should be burned. Finally, the grave was piled up. Life has come to an end.

When the children come home, they will burn the paper house to him at night. Then, regarding things like clearing expenses and property, those who have property will also sort it out in the evening.

Whenever we encounter these things, we have people in charge here, and they guide everything from death to burial. Let’s talk about the funeral. We have a funeral at 12 o’clock. We have to perform the ceremony first and then the funeral. When eating, there are big and small salutes, and there are several types of big salutes. Let’s talk about one. It means that when you kowtow, you have to pray 24 times, starting from the middle, then 4 corners, and then back to the middle, each one is kowtow. 4 heads, this is a great gift of 24 prayers. After the funeral, the heirs of the deceased will throw the bowl at the gate. It must be broken once. If it is not broken once, it means the deceased does not want to leave. This is our saying, so when throwing it You have to throw it hard...